This excerpt from Br. David's original article "Awake, Aware, and Alert" offers three steps in the process of living a life of gratefulness.
An act of gratitude is a living whole. To superimpose on its organic flow a mental grid like a series of “steps” will always be somewhat arbitrary. And yet, for the sake of practice, such a delineation can be helpful.
In any process, we can distinguish a beginning, a middle, and an end. We may use this basic three-step grid for the practice of gratitude:
To be awake, aware, and alert are the beginning, middle, and end of gratitude. This gives us the clue to what the three basic steps of practicing gratitude must be.
To begin with, we never start to be grateful unless we wake up. Wake up to what? To surprise. As long as nothing surprises us, we walk through life in a daze. We need to practice waking up to surprise. I suggest using this simple question as a kind of alarm clock: “Isn’t this surprising?” “Yes, indeed!” will be the correct answer, no matter when and where and under what circumstances you ask this question. After all, isn’t it surprising that there is anything at all, rather than nothing? Ask yourself at least twice a day, “Isn’t this surprising?” and you will soon be more awake to the surprising world in which we live.
Surprise may provide a jolt, enough to wake us up and to stop taking everything for granted. But we may not at all like that surprise. “How can I be grateful for something like this?” we may howl in the midst of a sudden calamity. And why? Because we are not aware of the real gift in this given situation: opportunity.
There is a simple question that helps me to practice the second step of gratitude: “What’s my opportunity here?” You will find that most of the time, the opportunity that a given moment offers you is an opportunity to enjoy–to enjoy sounds, smells, tastes, texture, colors, and, with still deeper joy, friendliness, kindness, patience, faithfulness, honesty, and all those gifts that soften the soil of our heart like warm spring rain. The more we practice awareness of the countless opportunities to simply enjoy, the easier it becomes to recognize difficult or painful experiences as opportunities, as gifts.
But while awareness of opportunities inherent in life events and circumstances is the core of gratefulness, awareness alone is not enough. What good is it to be aware of an opportunity, unless we avail ourselves of it? How grateful we are shows itself by the alertness with which we respond to the opportunity.
Once we are in practice for being awake to surprise and being aware of the opportunity at hand, we will spontaneously be alert in our response, especially when we are offered an opportunity to enjoy something. When a sudden rain shower is no longer just an inconvenience but a surprise gift, you will spontaneously rise to the opportunity for enjoyment. You will enjoy it as much as you did in your kindergarten days, even if you are no longer trying to catch raindrops in your wide-open mouth. Only when the opportunity demands more from you than spontaneous enjoyment will you have to give yourself a bit of an extra push as part of Step Three.
It helps me to review my own practice of gratefulness by applying to these three basic steps the rule I learned as a boy for crossing an intersection: “Stop, look, go.” Before going to bed, I glance back over the day and ask myself: Did I stop and allow myself to be surprised? Or did I trudge on in a daze? Was I too busy to wake up to surprise? And once I stopped, did I look for the opportunity of that moment? Or did I allow the circumstances to distract me from the gift within the gift? (This tends to happen when the gift’s wrappings are not attractive.) And finally, was I alert enough to go after it, to avail myself fully of the opportunity offered to me?
To read the full article, see Awake, Aware, and Alert.
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What s beautiful practice. With every ounce of my being I wish I could accomplish this practice, but my anxious brain gives me no relief. Is there a small step to begin this journey that a monkey brain might have some hope?
Hi Michele, so sorry for the late response! Try to just start with step one …by asking yourself ‘Isn’t this surprising?’… it may even be when noticing the ‘monkey brain’ activity.
Br. David seems to offer a ritual as suggested in Discovering the Sacred in Everyday Life. Another way to think of Stop, look and go.
Thank you as always for the Guiding Light.
A very insightful version of “Stop, look, go” and adding the “Before going to bed, I glance back over the day and ask myself:….” which is introspection ( and potentially visualization as well ) adds exponentially to its effectiveness.
I want to thank-you not only for this practice, but all the articles, practices, etc. that this site so lovingly offers. I find that I can read something and be so inspired and then it can fade after a while. It is so necessary(for me anyway) to keep the inspiration fresh. I go back and re-read so many of your offerings frequently and am re-inspired each time. Thank-you from my heart to everyone on The Gratefulness Team and at ANGL!!! You are so appreciated!!!
Peace, love and blessings, Sheila?
Thank you Shelia! You inspire us as well. How very blessed we are to have you as part of our Gratefulness community! ?
Thank you, Sheila, for your warm-hearted appreciation of our offerings. We are delighted to know that you find the articles, practices, etc. on our site inspiring – wonderful! With a deep bow on behalf of all of us on the Gratefulness Team, Saoirse
Thank-you for the reminder of this wonderful practice! It brings me to near tears and makes me think of all the beauty and pleasure God has given us to enjoy! May I take the time to notice it and not take any of it for granted. Oh, life is so precious!
With love and blessings, Sheila ??
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