Daily Question, September 4 Who do I tend to take for granted? What can I do to change this? 43 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Misty4 months agoMistySometimes, the people who love me most of all. Reflecting on their impact on my life, the massive hole they would leave, and trying to do for them what they do for me, all help me to try and value them as they deserve. 1 Reply Ose4 months agoOseIf I gratefully look and sense at each and everyone with an open heart, no one and nothing is taken for granted. So this is what I aim to do as much as I can. 6 Reply Hot Sauce4 months agoHot SauceSometimes, when I get really busy with school, it's easy to think, "Oh my gosh! I have so much to do; I don't know if I can do it; I feel like I might fall over dead; blah blah blah." I think feelings of overwhelm are valid and important to acknowledge, but I also try not to forget that a lot of people in the world do not have the same opportunities and privileges I have. Some people would be grateful just to learn how to read and write, and in the ancient world, only the elite class had educati...Sometimes, when I get really busy with school, it’s easy to think, “Oh my gosh! I have so much to do; I don’t know if I can do it; I feel like I might fall over dead; blah blah blah.” I think feelings of overwhelm are valid and important to acknowledge, but I also try not to forget that a lot of people in the world do not have the same opportunities and privileges I have. Some people would be grateful just to learn how to read and write, and in the ancient world, only the elite class had education opportunities. So sure, acknowledge stress when it comes, but also remember that this isn’t just a tedious job; it’s also an opportunity to learn things that most people have not had an opportunity to learn. Read More5 Reply sparrow4 months agosparrowI am used to living on the precipice because of worries and fears, both rational and irrational, that I don’t take very much for granted . . . I went to bed one night many years ago, looking forward to our first summer picnic, and woke in the morning to find my infant child quite suddenly dead. Since then I have had winters when I really doubted that spring would ever come, I’ve had days when I didn’t think my husband would make it home alive, times I’ve put my key in the ignition fearin...I am used to living on the precipice because of worries and fears, both rational and irrational, that I don’t take very much for granted . . . I went to bed one night many years ago, looking forward to our first summer picnic, and woke in the morning to find my infant child quite suddenly dead. Since then I have had winters when I really doubted that spring would ever come, I’ve had days when I didn’t think my husband would make it home alive, times I’ve put my key in the ignition fearing my car wouldn’t start, nights when I’ve been worried for bad news when the phone rings, times like these when my financial future could be in ruins . . . I don’t take my health for granted because it failed me quite suddenly, and I struggle to get it back. I sometimes expect the world to fall out from under me– it keeps me sharp and alert to gratitude. Read More5 Reply Michele4 months agoMicheleSo sorry for your untimely, unexpected loss of your precious infant. Thank you for your reflection. 2 Reply sparrow4 months agosparrowThank you, dear Michele… 0 Reply Arleen4 months agoArleenYou have described me. I am sorry for the loss of your infant, that is something I have never experienced and don’t know how you cope. You are stronger than I would be. 1 Reply sparrow4 months agosparrowWe don’t know our strengths, dear Arleen, until we are challenged… you are stronger than you know. 2 Reply Cathy4 months agoCathyOh sparrow. . . my heart reaches for yours. So perfectly you have described the most crushing loss a person can suffer and the subsequent emotional chaotic upheaval. Perhaps you are born to write so that another can exclaim with relief: “Oh finally, someone understands me!” Sometimes just being heard with our feelings validated is enough to save a life. I will think of you often, sparrow, hoping for yourself a sense of peace and security. Namaste. 5 Reply sparrow4 months agosparrowThank you for this, dear Cathy… it means more than you know. Namaste. 1 Reply Nancy Walton-House4 months agoNancy Walton-HouseI tend to take my husband of 42 years and his daily caregiving support for granted. I am sometimes aware of this tendency and consciously change it and other times I forget to do so or choose not to do so. This is a behavior I want to change. I realize our time together is limited due to our ages and the time to appreciate him and express that appreciation is now. 3 Reply Don Jones4 months agoDon JonesThe Divine. I have often acted like I know what this life is all about, feel entitled and arrogant. In reality, I don’t know anything. I now focus on the blessing and Grace of every moment and transforming myself into a Spiritual Being. 3 Reply Present Moment4 months agoPresent MomentAlthough I chose not to become a mother, I have come to see how the culture takes mothers for granted. They perform what is probably the most important job affecting our community lives. 5 Reply Arleen4 months agoArleenI am a mother and while I sometimes do feel like I am being taken for granted, most of what I do is because of the unconditional love I have for my 2 children, their spouses, and 4 grandchildren. Motherhood equals love and that means we will do anything for our children even if they sometimes take us for granted. 3 Reply Maeve4 months agoMaeveMy health and wellbeing. I can climb up a hill, as i did this morning, and walk easily and freely, enjoying where I am. Right now, with friends in the backwoods of hilly Pennsylvania. Enjoying hiking on the back roads and through the woods. 4 Reply Michele4 months agoMicheleMy family has enjoy annual trips to Tioga County visiting Hills Creek State Park. Beautiful and magical there. 0 Reply Papilio4 months agoPapilioI don’t think that I’ve taken my family or friends for granted. However, I started realizing, after almost six months of limited human contact due to the pandemic, that I miss casual conversations with strangers, which sometimes made my day. Although I’m still social-distancing, I now try to say a few words of something nice and kind to strangers passing by me when I walk with my dog. 5 Reply Arleen4 months agoArleenMy husband. He is always there for me. I can count on his support and encouragement for anything I do. However, I just assume he will continue without question. I wish I could say I don’t take him for granted, but the truth is, I do. I can change this by expressing my appreciation more often and sometimes when he hasn’t done anything special. I have to remember he has feelings too and no one likes to be taken for granted. 7 Reply Nancy Walton-House4 months agoNancy Walton-HouseYes, me too. 3 Reply Joy4 months agoJoyI take my husband for granted. I will pay attention to all that he does for me. I m not ENTITLED to anything. I have got into the bad mental state where I feel “what’s great if he does x or y or z. Isn’t he supposed to do it ? After all is he not my husband ?” 4 Reply Michele4 months agoMicheleI don’t think I take anyone for granted. I realize life is short and make sure those close to me know that they are loved. Practicing gratefulness helps. 4 Reply Javier Visionquest4 months agoJavier VisionquestCherish your family although they may have differing opinions and values and, above all, hold your spouse with utmost reverence as they are sole among them whom you have chosen to be in your life. Any day could be the last. Take nothing for granted and settle the mind in gratitude and forgive everyone, including yourself . 7 Reply Cathy4 months agoCathyThank you, Javier, for posting exactly this. We’ve had a conflict within our family that seems unresolvable. And it might be. I needed to hear what you had to say, and especially “forgive everyone, including yourself.” 2 Reply Javier Visionquest4 months agoJavier VisionquestHey, Cathy. I’m told that everyone lives with some sort of dysfunction and my family is certainly no exception. I’ve reached deeply into the vibration of seemingly unresolvable situations that beset myself and the people I hold dear and sometimes at the end of the day I have no practical solution other than to accept what is and forgive. I’m glad it could help! It’s all part of my nefarious scheme to love, serve, and remember. 0 Reply eliza4 months agoelizaI’m not sure i take anyone for granted but on reflection I almost certainly don’t let people around me know often enough how much i value their companionship and support. Thank you for the gentle reminder to be more generous and appreciative 4 Reply Becca4 months agoBeccaI take myself for granted, that I am alive and doing well, that I’ve gotten through severe mental illness, the loss of my job, severe trauma and more. I take it for granted that I’m here today, in school, working, and happy. I constantly undermine myself, tell myself that no one likes me, that I’m fundamentally flawed. I have to remind myself how untrue this is, that I am a miracle, and resilience is my middle name. 9 Reply Nancy Walton-House4 months agoNancy Walton-HouseBravo! 2 Reply Zenith4 months agoZenithI can honestly say there is no one I take for granted. Going through homelessness 15 years ago grew in me an urgency about life and relationships that has stuck with me. We just never know what is around the corner and we must make the most of each day. My being kept away from my mother before her death also impacted me profoundly. I have never gotten over that. 10 Reply Howie Geib4 months agoHowie GeibWow. I wrote a whole answer to a different question by accidentally substituting “what” for “who”. I was struck by the line between ‘taking for granted’ or making assumptions, and “having faith”. There are no individuals that I can think of, as I have operated for some time on the notion that people are complex and not always dependable of meeting my personal assumptions about them and their intentions and potential behaviors. They tend to surprise me still and yet, holding pe...Wow. I wrote a whole answer to a different question by accidentally substituting “what” for “who”. I was struck by the line between ‘taking for granted’ or making assumptions, and “having faith”. There are no individuals that I can think of, as I have operated for some time on the notion that people are complex and not always dependable of meeting my personal assumptions about them and their intentions and potential behaviors. They tend to surprise me still and yet, holding people with a loose set of judgments and as few prejudices seems to be working out fine, and therefore not requiring adjustment. But as for the larger swath of categories of people, I am learning that I have to step up more than I ever thought before. I need to personally support (donate money) to the organizations that are on the forefront of resisting the current disintegration of civil society. I will not list them, as I have been around here with you all long enough to know most of you would have the same or a similar list. These organizations, and the people who tirelessly work within them, I have absolutely taken for granted and, while appreciative, not felt obliged to lean in with. As for faith, I do continue to harbor a deep conviction that most people are born good, and seek love and security for themselves and their loved ones. I realize ‘most’ in that sentence is doing a lot of heavy lifting. Watching the various retrospectives of John Lewis I was struck by how he personally chose each day the path of nonviolence as a way of serving those who were against him. He was proven right of course. Read More2 Reply sunnypatti4 months agosunnypattiHmm…. I have worked hard at not taking people for granted, so at this point in my life, I would have to say no one. It was different before I chose to better myself, but today, I am grateful for everyone in my life and the way they are there for me and have been over the years. 4 Reply devy4 months agodevyI take my wife for granted at times even though I try to help her out when she needs it. I will try show my appreciation around her during the weekends when at times my dismeanor can be rough. Life is short and I want to spend the time with her. Show her that she is the priority. 5 Reply 333USA4 months ago333USAAs much as I think of her and love her, I don’t know that I will ever fully appreciate all that my wife does for me, my family, and our friends. After 8 years of dating and 35 years of marriage, I still need to pinch myself every now and then to remind myself and my kids to do something to show her how much she means to me. 9 Reply 1 2 Next » My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. DONATE https://gratefulness.org/content/uploads/2015/03/GX-Gold-Participant-L.png Community Engagement Guidelines Privacy Policy [email protected] Connect with us on Social Media: © 2000 - 2021, A Network for Grateful Living Website by Briteweb