Daily Question, June 4 What would allow me to be more tender toward those I encounter today? 32 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. reality7 months agorealityNothing, people aren’t supposed to be tender with people unless they’re in a really close relationship with them; like family or friends- otherwise, in Western societies, they would be stereotyped as weak and preyed upon. Of course this doesn’t apply to the panoplay of healthcare professionals, especially on the front-line, who would find ‘tenderness’ as a useful resource. ? reality 1 Reply Maeve7 months agoMaeveTo be reminded of how I want others to be with me, especially when I feel vulnerable. 2 Reply Malag7 months agoMalagBring more of myself to the conversation. Leads to an openness that supports a tenderness. 2 Reply Linda7 months agoLindaPatience. Sometimes my impatience gets in the way of being kind in the moment. I need to remember to stop, breathe, slow down and think before I say anything. 4 Reply Pollyanna Gladwell7 months agoPollyanna GladwellToday I gave a pedicure and foot massage to someone who is incapacitated due to surgery. I –and the recipient! - had to be extremely sensitive to the fact that some sharp instruments were being wielded by my untrained hands and so it was necessary to be completely attentive to what I was doing. I found that a feeling of tenderness for the person arose unbidden. I deduced that it was the care and attention that I was bringing to the task that caused me to be more tender. I am now ...Today I gave a pedicure and foot massage to someone who is incapacitated due to surgery. I –and the recipient! – had to be extremely sensitive to the fact that some sharp instruments were being wielded by my untrained hands and so it was necessary to be completely attentive to what I was doing. I found that a feeling of tenderness for the person arose unbidden. I deduced that it was the care and attention that I was bringing to the task that caused me to be more tender. I am now tenderly hoping that my own manicurist/pedicurist will soon return to work along with my hairdresser! Read More1 Reply Shellan7 months agoShellanA poem if you knew by Ellan Bass starts off with the line If you knew you would be the last one to touch somebody. And it goes on to tell a story about an older lady's last encounter with a waiter at lunch and he joked with her and kissed her powdered face and then fell down dead walk in the street shortly after that. It is a reminder to really treat others specially because you never know. If I remembered this today I think I would treat others more lovingly. May I remember this poem and really...A poem if you knew by Ellan Bass starts off with the line If you knew you would be the last one to touch somebody. And it goes on to tell a story about an older lady’s last encounter with a waiter at lunch and he joked with her and kissed her powdered face and then fell down dead walk in the street shortly after that. It is a reminder to really treat others specially because you never know. If I remembered this today I think I would treat others more lovingly. May I remember this poem and really take it to heart in all my connections today. Read More3 Reply Cathy7 months agoCathyThis story touches my heart, Shellan. Thank you. 0 Reply Mark Piper7 months agoMark PiperNot projecting my stress unto others and knowing that I can set a better example by being tender than tense. 2 Reply Dusty Su7 months agoDusty SuBy remembering how tough life has been at times for me and how it must have been for them too. By remembering how joyous life has been for me at times and must have been for them too. By remembering … ad infinitum 1 Reply Melissa7 months agoMelissaI take a deep breath and remember how challenging these times are for every single living being. Including myself and the feeling of kindness washes over me for everyone and nature. 4 Reply Debra7 months agoDebraBeing sequestered In place with my kitty, the only person I expect to encounter is the caregiver to her. I will give tender praise to her and thank her for being there to administer the various medicines she needs twice daily. She is part of the reason my kitty is living a quality of life in remission from cancer. Bless her, 5 Reply pkr7 months agopkrSilent blessings to All I encounter today. ? 4 Reply slawrence7 months agoslawrenceTaking a moment to think about the other person’s perspective. 3 Reply Paula7 months agoPaulaI have to know that everybody is same as I am in dignity and as a daughter of god. And Ihave to remember this when I encounter sombody I dont agree with 3 Reply Cathie7 months agoCathieGrace. 4 Reply Present Moment7 months agoPresent MomentI start with awe. Whether it walked, slithered, hopped, sprouted, or jumped…. A unique manifestation of the creativity of the godhead just entered my consciousness… Perfect in its self, incomplete without all the rest of us. 2 Reply amacord7 months agoamacordThis question is difficult for me. I’ve been feeling defensive and irritable — the isolation of SIP is challenging to manage. But I can work with this: I can be a tender wounded spiritual warrior. I don’t have to be perfect and that is a relief. Be well friends. 5 Reply Katrina7 months agoKatrinaSuch good responses already. 2 Reply 7 months agoI’d like to answer with this, wellknown quote by Sylvia Boorstein: Life is so hard, how can we be anything but kind? and extend it: Life is so hard, generous, unpredictable, wondersome, precious, boundless, and fragile, how can we be anything but kind / tender? 7 Reply Dusty Su7 months agoDusty SuYes, that’s how I approach it. We are all in the same soup together. Make it a good one. I posted my thoughts in a similar vein before reading your post Verena. Blessings. 1 Reply 7 months agoBlessings, with joy ? 1 Reply sunnypatti7 months agosunnypattiBy pausing before reacting or speaking. By being fully present with others and truly listening. 3 Reply Howie Geib7 months agoHowie GeibWhat an interesting word: tender. I have never really thought of projecting tenderness to all I meet. Every meeting is a chance for connection, and there is a wonder in the fact that often the clearly accidental meetings have had great import on my life. So I would say the posture of expectation for good. A hospitality in spirit as much as anything. 2 Reply 7 months agoprojecting tenderness – what a suprising way to respond to that question. and fully, agree with you on ‘every meeting is a chance for connection’ how precious! 2 Reply 1 2 Next » My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. DONATE https://gratefulness.org/content/uploads/2015/03/GX-Gold-Participant-L.png Community Engagement Guidelines Privacy Policy [email protected] Connect with us on Social Media: © 2000 - 2021, A Network for Grateful Living Website by Briteweb
