Daily Question, February 29 What new behavior do I have the opportunity to practice now? 23 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. reality5 months agorealityBecause I went from being in the top 1 % of physically fit men in the usa to weak now, I’ve the opportunity to practice going along to get along; which I never did ’til now. An example, I was promised an efficency apt. which was refurbished, large TV, etc., for a year, and when I went to take it, it was an old, okay motel room with two window and door chain locks that don’t work, no dresser or place to put things, 20 bugs, dead, under a foot long window edge, etc.. My usual reaction woul...Because I went from being in the top 1 % of physically fit men in the usa to weak now, I’ve the opportunity to practice going along to get along; which I never did ’til now. An example, I was promised an efficency apt. which was refurbished, large TV, etc., for a year, and when I went to take it, it was an old, okay motel room with two window and door chain locks that don’t work, no dresser or place to put things, 20 bugs, dead, under a foot long window edge, etc.. My usual reaction would be to call the manager on all this bs, yet, not strong enough to find another place, and it being Winter still, I didn’t even mention it to secure what I had; silent weak is better than righteous dead. Thanks for all you All do; have a great day 🙂 reality Read More5 Reply Malag5 months agoMalagBreathing more through the nose, to minimise mouth breathing. 3 Reply Tahsin Tabassum5 months agoTahsin TabassumJournaling 6 Reply Dusty Su5 months agoDusty SuI'm going on a 90-day "Write it Right" legacy making journey. Whether I fly to a secret sanctuary or not, (all things God and Coronavirus willing), I'll be in seclusion in order to create/write what I hope to be a legacy work. It's called an Arsenal of Optimism. It's a gift for my daughter, grandchildren, and friends, which will hopefully live on after I depart this earth plane. The new behaviors I wish to engage or re-impliment are refraining from social media except gratitude writing, no wo...I’m going on a 90-day “Write it Right” legacy making journey. Whether I fly to a secret sanctuary or not, (all things God and Coronavirus willing), I’ll be in seclusion in order to create/write what I hope to be a legacy work. It’s called an Arsenal of Optimism. It’s a gift for my daughter, grandchildren, and friends, which will hopefully live on after I depart this earth plane. The new behaviors I wish to engage or re-impliment are refraining from social media except gratitude writing, no work projects, daily time to reflect about my life to date, to explore what is next from age 60 on, to invest in myself by honing/understanding the process of writing better, and to simply be in order to see what organically arises. Read More6 Reply Nancy Walton-House5 months agoNancy Walton-HouseAs a 77 year old, I am working on humility and letting go. I am practicing new ways of being and doing in this stage of my life. I am aware of many younger people’s talent and desire to lead. I’ve held leadership roles in many settings for decades. I frequently remind myself that it is now younger people’s turn to lead and that they have much to give that is truly needed in our world. It is time for me to clear the space so they can lead. This requires me to suspend my judgment; to r...As a 77 year old, I am working on humility and letting go. I am practicing new ways of being and doing in this stage of my life. I am aware of many younger people’s talent and desire to lead. I’ve held leadership roles in many settings for decades. I frequently remind myself that it is now younger people’s turn to lead and that they have much to give that is truly needed in our world. It is time for me to clear the space so they can lead. This requires me to suspend my judgment; to recognize and to value different gifts and ways of proceeding. I am grateful for this growth opportunity. Read More6 Reply Cailinrua5 months agoCailinruaThe posts are fantastically helpful today, which is why I wish I was sitting in a circle with all of you (well, I am--in a virtual circle). I am a longtime immigrant (over 50 years) who has forgotten her roots (or rather, I rejected them because of associations with poverty and inferiority--the old colonization trick). Those roots came with warmth, kindness, generosity, magic and inspiring mythology, and I married into and opted for something harder (probably better boundaries, let it be said...The posts are fantastically helpful today, which is why I wish I was sitting in a circle with all of you (well, I am–in a virtual circle). I am a longtime immigrant (over 50 years) who has forgotten her roots (or rather, I rejected them because of associations with poverty and inferiority–the old colonization trick). Those roots came with warmth, kindness, generosity, magic and inspiring mythology, and I married into and opted for something harder (probably better boundaries, let it be said) and based in the head rather than the heart. So it’s an existential question for me as I’ve had stuff on my doorstep (as one writer said) for several years now, which is bringing me to that realization. My practice will be to return to the warmth, kindness and generosity that nurtured me when i was little. I can begin today with a small step. I love the references to Lent. How well I remember the huge sacrifice it was to give up candy (that was the obvious “penance” when I was little) for 40 days! But it was a good discipline and practice, also abandoned by me. Thank you all for writing. Read More9 Reply TeriB5 months agoTeriBGratitude, which is why I am here. I have so much to be grateful for, but spend too much energy focusing on what I want or don’t have. I have decided that lent is a perfect time to begin a daily gratitude practice. 4 Reply Nancy Walton-House5 months agoNancy Walton-HouseTeri, this is a great idea. I started my daily gratitude practice in 2011 after learning about Brother David Steindl-Rast and this website. I write briefly in my journal, listen to music that reminds me to be grateful for my blessings, reflect on special blessings and pray in thanksgiving. I am also part of a daily phone group that focuses on gratitude. I am inspired and challenged by what people share. I also do some reading on gratitude. This practice is healing for me. I am a better pe...Teri, this is a great idea. I started my daily gratitude practice in 2011 after learning about Brother David Steindl-Rast and this website. I write briefly in my journal, listen to music that reminds me to be grateful for my blessings, reflect on special blessings and pray in thanksgiving. I am also part of a daily phone group that focuses on gratitude. I am inspired and challenged by what people share. I also do some reading on gratitude. This practice is healing for me. I am a better person because of it. Read More4 Reply Hot Sauce5 months agoHot SauceFor Lent, I am giving up thoughts of despair, which I have noticed arising in me quite a bit lately. When I feel tempted to feel hopeless, I want to begin practicing re-framing the situation as a temporary state and remember that rainbows always come after rain. 5 Reply Elaine5 months agoElaineFeeling confessional. The “new” behaviour I can practice is to suspend my criticism, to resist and transform the tendency to pay undue attention to what is missing instead of what is present. This is lifelong work for an enneagram one. 5 Reply Linda5 months agoLindaI work with a woman who tends to go off on me when she is nervous or scared about something at work. She mostly does it in emails. She has been warned to stop by her superiors but I think sometimes she just can't help herself. I woke to one of those emails from her today. Instead of reacting, getting upset and dashing something off to her, I chose to breathe, slow down, and wait until later to respond. It is working--and I even have compassion for her at this moment as I know her life at home i...I work with a woman who tends to go off on me when she is nervous or scared about something at work. She mostly does it in emails. She has been warned to stop by her superiors but I think sometimes she just can’t help herself. I woke to one of those emails from her today. Instead of reacting, getting upset and dashing something off to her, I chose to breathe, slow down, and wait until later to respond. It is working–and I even have compassion for her at this moment as I know her life at home is chaotic. What a difference it makes to just not participate in her drama! Read More10 Reply Cathy5 months agoCathyOh, Linda! This is a lesson I, too, am learning and practicing now. You said it so perfectly: “What a difference it makes to just not participate in her drama!” Thank you! 1 Reply Skeeter5 months agoSkeeterWell this is a very timely and interesting question. There are so many behaviors and judgments that I could let go of. Thus to my mantra. for this year. Let go in 20. However, Loving myself just that way I am is what I want to practice today. Let go of the past and embrace a me that is good enough, not perfect but good enough…. Thanks for this reminder…. 6 Reply Trish5 months agoTrishLove your mantra! 1 Reply Katrina5 months agoKatrinaI would not have thought of this until I read Karla’s post, but this is a huge opportunity of growth for me these days. I have gotten really bad about discounting people just because of their political views, even though I say people are my friends regardless of that. So I will look for the qualities in a person that are generous, caring, fun, and loving. Thanks for this question and thanks to Karla. 5 Reply Karla5 months agoKarla“We are all just walking each other home” ~ Ram Dass 1 Reply Trish5 months agoTrishI have a history of inviting distractions into my life. I’ve perfected the art of procrastination. The season of Lent is helping me to focus on what is directly in front of me. I’m taking a break from Facebook, being more intentional in my diet, adding more prayer time & spending quality time with the people I love & ones I want to grow closer to. Focus & living in the moment are instrumental. 7 Reply devy5 months agodevyRemaining calm when someone close to me is upset and raises there voice at me. I know now not to take it personally. I look at their personal past history, the reasons why they are exhibiting the behaviour. I then respond to them with a lowered, slow and quieter voice. And if the comment is hurtful and tell them how I feel about what they’ve said.. expressing my feelings without fear of abandonment is something I am working on…giving kindness to me and my inner child. 8 Reply Karla5 months agoKarlaAcceptance of someone I don't respect. This is difficult to admit because that person is my mother and I've become her caretaker. I've noticed a pattern in my life when I'm given opportunities to grow and, if I don't take them, the situation will move closer (such as in a family member) and I can no longer avoid it. Remember that friend/acquaintance who you avoided because you couldn't tolerant their views/behaviors? Yeah, work on acceptance with them, or it will show up on your doorstep. :...Acceptance of someone I don’t respect. This is difficult to admit because that person is my mother and I’ve become her caretaker. I’ve noticed a pattern in my life when I’m given opportunities to grow and, if I don’t take them, the situation will move closer (such as in a family member) and I can no longer avoid it. Remember that friend/acquaintance who you avoided because you couldn’t tolerant their views/behaviors? Yeah, work on acceptance with them, or it will show up on your doorstep. 🙂 Read More6 Reply Trish5 months agoTrishGreat lesson 2 Reply Cathy5 months agoCathyPerhaps I need to discover a new behavior to practice! From time to time I suddenly jerk awake with realization that I’ve been coasting. Just marking time. Those moments are rich with opportunity to look around and notice new buds and sprouting seedlings. Intriguing. Life-giving. Hopeful. Ecstatic. Generous. Divine. Peaceful. 8 Reply Kevin5 months agoKevinPatience. I think that, in certain situations, I could always learn to be more patient. People generally think of me as being a patient person overall, but I know that inside, in certain situations, I am not at all patient. 8 Reply Sarah5 months agoSarahYou and me both Kevin. Patience is something I could improve…it certainly would replace agitation with peace. 🙏 3 Reply My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. DONATE https://i1.wp.com/gratefulness.org/content/uploads/2015/03/GX-Gold-Participant-L.png?fit=1600%2C1172&ssl=1 Community Engagement Guidelines Privacy Policy [email protected] Connect with us on Social Media: © 2000 - 2020, A Network for Grateful Living Website by Briteweb
