Daily Question, March 17 What are some lessons I have learned from my relationships? 37 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Mike1 year agoMikeMy mother, deceased since 2009. It wasn’t an easy relationship, and sometimes I’m quite bitter about the sins that went both ways. But when I’m in a better place, I remember how hard she fought to provide for us after my parents divorced and my dad fell out of touch with us. My maternal grandparents, too, who always had Mom’s back when she couldn’t quite keep it together herself. 0 Reply Kristi1 year agoKristiI have learned we are all different yet not one person is better or more important than another in the big scheme of things! 1 Reply Misty1 year agoMistyListen more. If someone shares that they are having a hard time, telling them about your / someone else’s hard(er) time isn’t necessarily what they need. Choose your timing carefully if you are tackling a tricky topic. If someone hurts your feelings, let them know. If you need to talk – or need to not talk – let the other person know. People like to help and will try and do the right thing, if they can figure out what that is. 3 Reply Malag1 year agoMalagMost of my life lessons arise from relationships. One that jumps to mind is persistence. I learnt this early from my parents that I can delay gratification now for a reward later and keep at it, whatever the “it” is. Its part learnt skill, part gift. I have been fortunate to be able to put it into practice. 3 Reply Cathie1 year agoCathieWhen I think it is the other’s issue, it is usually mine:) 5 Reply Hot Sauce1 year agoHot Sauce1. Don’t keep drudging up negative stuff from the past; it makes everyone involved resentful. 2. Sometimes confrontation is what ends up leading to the most successful relationships. 3. Consensual physical touch (like hugging, cuddling, etc.) can really help you bond with someone. 4. Be willing to be vulnerable with others. 5. Use humor to lighten the mood! 6 Reply Don Jones1 year agoDon JonesLove, love, love … All you need is love, love is all you need. All you need is love, all you need is love. (repeat). 4 Reply sb1 year agosbI have been so, so lucky to have experienced positive relationships in my family and now with my husband. These have all made me a better person, learning love, values, ideas, new interests and skills from them. I have, as an adult, learnt to be better at accepting offers of help rather than automatically saying "no, I'm fine"; learnt to be more spontaneous and not to have to have every second planned (although that was scary at first!) and to be more outward looking. I hope my husband has also ...I have been so, so lucky to have experienced positive relationships in my family and now with my husband. These have all made me a better person, learning love, values, ideas, new interests and skills from them. I have, as an adult, learnt to be better at accepting offers of help rather than automatically saying “no, I’m fine”; learnt to be more spontaneous and not to have to have every second planned (although that was scary at first!) and to be more outward looking. I hope my husband has also learnt some good traits from me!!! Better together. Read More3 Reply Dusty Su1 year agoDusty SuTo pace myself. Being on the Autism spectrum it’s exhausting being around people. I give all to fit in and speak the other person’s language and then am drained. So, I’m learning to know my limitations. To communicate my needs. To know when it’s enough. To take time to replenish after each encounter. 6 Reply Linda1 year agoLindaI have learned that harsh words have a lasting effect, and that in tense situations I need to think before I speak. 4 Reply GregC1 year agoGregCTheir courage to be authentic with me, and about me. 4 Reply John Tamminga1 year agoJohn TammingaThere are many but the latest is that I need to reach out more in both everyday life and times of need. To pass on the many blessing that have been given to me and continue the ripples of kindness shown to me by so many people. 3 Reply Toni1 year agoToniSome of the lessons I’ve learned from my relationships are: People treat me the way I allow them too. Stand up for myself if the need arises. Mind my own business. Relationships are mirrors that reflect back who I am. Relationships offer opportunity for change and clarification. When people show me who they are, I must believe them. And If something is pointed out in me, it needs to be considered carefully. I spend most of my life denying the truth in myself and making excuses for others. When...Some of the lessons I’ve learned from my relationships are: People treat me the way I allow them too. Stand up for myself if the need arises. Mind my own business. Relationships are mirrors that reflect back who I am. Relationships offer opportunity for change and clarification. When people show me who they are, I must believe them. And If something is pointed out in me, it needs to be considered carefully. I spend most of my life denying the truth in myself and making excuses for others. When that no longer served me and I started being true to self, I lost all who I thought were friends. Family relationships are more complicated and need more tender loving care and acceptance. I only have 5 family members left so I have to tread lightly. Since we are all in this together kindness and compassion are understanding are the best things to offer any relationship. So with that wisdom comes awareness that no one has arrived and therefore we, including self, need to not be so harsh. Today is my deceased mothers birthday and although we disagreed most of the time on what was best, and she was smothering, we were honest with each other. That brutal honesty took its’ tole on both of us. At the end of her life we began to make amends. Forgiveness offers a new understanding and allows healing even after someone is gone. So I can add it’s never too late to forgive to what I have learned from my relationships. My new kitten is the best friend I have right now. That unconditional love is amazing! Read More7 Reply Antoinette1 year agoAntoinetteI have learned that’s others are not able to make me happy . They are conditions but not in charge. 5 Reply k'Care-Reena1 year agok'Care-ReenaWHAT ARE SOME LESSONS YOU HAVE LEARNED FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? Ive mentioned before that I am in SELF discovery journey, and I have been reflecting. I am aware of my destructive habits & beliefs. I was reading "the INNER MATRIX" by Joey Klein & was able to discover why I was experiencing my life as a cycle than never ended. Not to be too hard on myself however my first romantic relationship was unhealthy physically and mentally (definitely emotionally). I was in that relationship fo...WHAT ARE SOME LESSONS YOU HAVE LEARNED FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? Ive mentioned before that I am in SELF discovery journey, and I have been reflecting. I am aware of my destructive habits & beliefs. I was reading “the INNER MATRIX” by Joey Klein & was able to discover why I was experiencing my life as a cycle than never ended. Not to be too hard on myself however my first romantic relationship was unhealthy physically and mentally (definitely emotionally). I was in that relationship for about 12yrs. This is why my relationships were toxic because our brain finds comfort in familiar feelings whether it is positive or negative. To some what the lessons I learned: You can not be upset with someone who does not know what they dont know, and it is NOT their fault. Behaviors stem from mirror what we see as children. This is why they say “she acts just like her mother, with an attitude”. this is because the baby unconsciously was surrounding with such behavior that brought out her mother’s attitude. Before we reacting negatively and begin an o arguing ask yourself… Does this person know what Im talking about ? There is a big difference between someone taking advantage of you and selfless service. Begin to understand humans are reflections of what and how there childhood was, they are unable to change it because they are unaware that they do not know. Read More4 Reply Carol1 year agoCarolAfter reading this question, a quote from Richard Rohr came to mind: "All of us need someone or something, or an animal (did anyone ever tell you that our English word animal comes from anima, the Latin for soul?) to connect our hearts with our heads. Love grounds us by creating focus, direction, motivation, even joy—and if we don’t find these things in love, we usually will try to find them in hate. We can certainly see the consequences of this unmet need for love in our society today!" It...After reading this question, a quote from Richard Rohr came to mind: “All of us need someone or something, or an animal (did anyone ever tell you that our English word animal comes from anima, the Latin for soul?) to connect our hearts with our heads. Love grounds us by creating focus, direction, motivation, even joy—and if we don’t find these things in love, we usually will try to find them in hate. We can certainly see the consequences of this unmet need for love in our society today!” It also presented me with my own question: Are my relationships life-giving? It took many years for me to realize the importance of that question. Read More5 Reply DeVonna1 year agoDeVonnaI’ve learned the importance of setting boundaries. When I was young I thought I had to accept any behavior in order to have a relationship with a person. I did not value my feelings/emotions. I had a particular relationship that left me in tears whenever I had contact with this person. I finally made the difficult decision to no longer allow this person acess to my life. I love her, but for some reason she only wishes me harm, so I do not have any contact with her. It’s sad, but necessary. 7 Reply Linda1 year agoLindaGood for you, DeVonna. Some relationships simply aren’t good for us. 2 Reply Journey1 year agoJourneyPeople come into our lives because our paths were meant to cross. They may stay in our lives for a short time or a long time but there is always something it teaches us whether it’s a friendship, a love relationship, a manager/employee, a parent child, a sister, brother, any kind of relationship involving 2 people. I have learnt the some people have a vast capacity for forgiveness, others don't. Some are thick skinned, others hurt easily. Some will be there for you at anytime, others at their ...People come into our lives because our paths were meant to cross. They may stay in our lives for a short time or a long time but there is always something it teaches us whether it’s a friendship, a love relationship, a manager/employee, a parent child, a sister, brother, any kind of relationship involving 2 people. I have learnt the some people have a vast capacity for forgiveness, others don’t. Some are thick skinned, others hurt easily. Some will be there for you at anytime, others at their convenience. Some accept me just as I am, others don’t. I have also seen myself through the eyes of others and learnt about myself through others. I’ve learnt that I have strong will power, am positive and energetic but I’ve also learned I’m impatient, short tempered, stubborn, restless. I treasure everyone who has entered my life whether or not they are still in it and I can still clearly remember things I have learned from them, even though our relationship itself may have been fleeting. Excellent question! Read More10 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioTo listen. To communicate clearly – to say what I mean and mean what I say. To be neither submissive nor dominant. To “pick my battles” wisely. To behave to win the long-game together, not the short one for just myself. To be a helpmate and a teammate. Let them be them and me be me. To be positive and encouraging. To have fun and laugh together.And from bad relationships: Watch what they DO not what they SAY. And, just because you love someone, doesn’t mean it’s healthy to be with them...To listen. To communicate clearly – to say what I mean and mean what I say. To be neither submissive nor dominant. To “pick my battles” wisely. To behave to win the long-game together, not the short one for just myself. To be a helpmate and a teammate. Let them be them and me be me. To be positive and encouraging. To have fun and laugh together.And from bad relationships: Watch what they DO not what they SAY. And, just because you love someone, doesn’t mean it’s healthy to be with them. Read More6 Reply SK1 year agoSKThey teach me more about who I am in that connectedness. I have learned over the years what I respect and love within and about myself and what I will not tolerate in another. 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