The best advice I have ever received is #1-to do all things in the spirit of love. and #2 Have the practice of equanimity in all things. It happens when we let go of control, because we really don’t have control anyway, we just think we do.
Some pithy quotes are coming to mind, but I cannot think of one single aphorism that has made a consistent difference in my life. As others have mentioned, it might be more modeling behavior or being in the presence of people who energize me and provide wisdom.
I have been a member of a women’s community since 1986. We begin our meetings by singing this song “Gathering of women, take your time, go slowly, listen deep inside yourself, simple things are holy.” That refrain comes to me often. I find wisdom and solace in it.
I’m anxious to read what others have to say because I have found that sometimes advice is more opinion than it is wisdom. I find it more helpful when someone assists me in seeing my options.
We are bodysoulmindspirit. Every aspect needs nurture and tender loving care.
In light of this I am following my friend’s wise advice and postponing today’s planned gratefulness gathering until I am fully recovered.
Not advice but modeling behavior: my mother’s innate kindness. I was a sarcastic teenager but have become a kind woman and I’m sure I have her to thank for that.
As others have noted, I’ve taken a lot from readings that I wouldn’t label as “advice”.
A counselor for a marriage that didn’t last but that’s not the counselor’s fault said, “You argue like lawyers! You’re each looking for Truth with a capital T. That doesn’t matter. You need to listen to how the other person FEELS about what happened.” I come back to that every so often (possibly not as often as I should)–how others feel matters more than the specific details.
Everyone is too focused on themselves. Nobody really cares.
So why live life thinking about what others might think. Just live fullest, be happiest you ever can be, cherish every moment and create great memories.
Yes, Bevika, some people think they are the center of the Universe. I think that has to do with the aggressive driving these days. Then someone wonderful does a kindness for me or someone else and I am greatly encouraged. There is much encouragement on this site and I am grateful for everyone.
I haven’t had much guidance in my life or been given much traditional advice that I can think of. Sometimes, the advice that has been given, I didn’t understand at the time. It took many years for me to understand.
A friends brother once told me “it’s okay to apologize, even if you think you’re right. How hard is it to say you’re sorry?”
At the time I pushed back. Thinking, if I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize. Now, the apology comes first.
This other thing isn’t advice, per se, it’s more of a saying. But it’s helped me a lot.
“The best time to plant a tree, is five years ago”.
work toward your potential, and in a moment of self-doubt about doing something– say out loud to yourself- I can do hard things like this, then name it; seems all the advice that looks to the good about me/you has been good advice
Rudyard Kipling’s “If” has frequently provided me reinforcing guidance and advice – big difference, not sure. I’ve generally been one who has taken advice but preferred learning through experience.
“Maybe you should try meditating.” ~my youngest sister several years ago, seeing me in a rough place in life. I started a regular practice, and it has made all the difference.
Quote: Enjoy the little things, for one day you will look back and realize they were the Big Things. For me, I have tried to enjoy the smaller moments of spending time with others or nature to enjoy the people and the beauty
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The best advice I have ever received is #1-to do all things in the spirit of love. and #2 Have the practice of equanimity in all things. It happens when we let go of control, because we really don’t have control anyway, we just think we do.
Some pithy quotes are coming to mind, but I cannot think of one single aphorism that has made a consistent difference in my life. As others have mentioned, it might be more modeling behavior or being in the presence of people who energize me and provide wisdom.
I have been a member of a women’s community since 1986. We begin our meetings by singing this song “Gathering of women, take your time, go slowly, listen deep inside yourself, simple things are holy.” That refrain comes to me often. I find wisdom and solace in it.
“Simple things are holy.” Love that.
Just being there for someone makes all the difference.
Perfect Don. I really need this one right now. Thank you for your generous attitude, I am sure you have blessed many with it.
I’m anxious to read what others have to say because I have found that sometimes advice is more opinion than it is wisdom. I find it more helpful when someone assists me in seeing my options.
We are bodysoulmindspirit. Every aspect needs nurture and tender loving care.
In light of this I am following my friend’s wise advice and postponing today’s planned gratefulness gathering until I am fully recovered.
Not advice but modeling behavior: my mother’s innate kindness. I was a sarcastic teenager but have become a kind woman and I’m sure I have her to thank for that.
As others have noted, I’ve taken a lot from readings that I wouldn’t label as “advice”.
A counselor for a marriage that didn’t last but that’s not the counselor’s fault said, “You argue like lawyers! You’re each looking for Truth with a capital T. That doesn’t matter. You need to listen to how the other person FEELS about what happened.” I come back to that every so often (possibly not as often as I should)–how others feel matters more than the specific details.
Everyone is too focused on themselves. Nobody really cares.
So why live life thinking about what others might think. Just live fullest, be happiest you ever can be, cherish every moment and create great memories.
Yes, Bevika, some people think they are the center of the Universe. I think that has to do with the aggressive driving these days. Then someone wonderful does a kindness for me or someone else and I am greatly encouraged. There is much encouragement on this site and I am grateful for everyone.
I haven’t had much guidance in my life or been given much traditional advice that I can think of. Sometimes, the advice that has been given, I didn’t understand at the time. It took many years for me to understand.
A friends brother once told me “it’s okay to apologize, even if you think you’re right. How hard is it to say you’re sorry?”
At the time I pushed back. Thinking, if I’m right, I shouldn’t have to apologize. Now, the apology comes first.
This other thing isn’t advice, per se, it’s more of a saying. But it’s helped me a lot.
“The best time to plant a tree, is five years ago”.
“Live a long life but don’t get old.”
Yes Yram. My mother-in-law had a plaques that said old age is not for sissies.
work toward your potential, and in a moment of self-doubt about doing something– say out loud to yourself- I can do hard things like this, then name it; seems all the advice that looks to the good about me/you has been good advice
Rudyard Kipling’s “If” has frequently provided me reinforcing guidance and advice – big difference, not sure. I’ve generally been one who has taken advice but preferred learning through experience.
“Maybe you should try meditating.” ~my youngest sister several years ago, seeing me in a rough place in life. I started a regular practice, and it has made all the difference.
I agree wholly, my practice of meditation each morning has helped my mental sate immensely sunnypatti.
Quote: Enjoy the little things, for one day you will look back and realize they were the Big Things. For me, I have tried to enjoy the smaller moments of spending time with others or nature to enjoy the people and the beauty
I’m grateful to have received lots of great advice. One piece stands out in this moment, “you’re not a victim.”