Daily Question, August 12 How do I show my respect for others? How is it a mutually fulfilling gift? 45 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. k'Care-Reena3 months agok'Care-ReenaHOW DO I SHOW MY RESPECT FOR OTHERS? HOW IS IT A MUTUALLY FULFILLING GIFT? I show my respect for others by listening and not judging, doing so is a mutually fulfilling gift because what we give others we get in return. I also accept others which allows me to accept myself. 0 Reply Mike3 months agoMikeIncreasingly, by trying to listen to everything others have to say instead of interrupting with the first responses that occur to me. This practice seems to be inviting an empathy I have long lacked. 2 Reply Ose3 months agoOseThrough listening carefully and deeply, trying to understand my fellow people; through being present for others and taking care of the ones in need; through meeting others with loving kindness and gratitude. Usually people feel the good intention and reply in kind. 6 Reply Don Jones3 months agoDon JonesThese days, it is guided by quiet, gentleness and mindfulness. The ripples are virtually non-existent now – just like a cloud drifting by. 5 Reply KC3 months agoKCAs I practice self-respect, rooting in, clarifying and returning to my own values (daily!), I am able to show respect for others and the Earth. I am inspired by a favourite quote from Georgia O’keefe ‘It takes a kind of a nerve, and a lot of hard, hard work!’ Showing up and being fully present without judgement helps too. 🌞🐌🌱 6 Reply Hot Sauce3 months agoHot SauceI show my respect for others by thinking about their needs and wants before I act. So, for instance, in a conflict, before I lose my temper or say something I’ll regret, I try to reflect, “If I was the other person, how would I want me to react?” This is a mutually fulfilling gift because, when I show respect for others, they are more likely to respect me as well. 7 Reply devy3 months agodevyLove this..! Reminds me to “bite my tongue” and walk away if necessary.. 4 Reply Cathie3 months agoCathieRespect is freely given, yet trust is earned: that is how it was explained to me. To show respect is to acknowledge a person’s existence by greeting them, listening without always jumping in, giving up seats to elderly or folks who need them more than you, offering to help when you see the need. You respect their humanity – not your perception of them. Respect for a persons humanness is mutually fulfilling because when someone demonstrates their respect for me, it makes me feel alive. 5 Reply KC3 months agoKC‘Respect is freely given, yet trust is earned’. Thank you Cathie. That is such a helpful and healthy distinction! 5 Reply Holly in Ohio3 months agoHolly in OhioToday I am deeply thankful to my mother, who taught me how to respect all people with little things she said to me... When we were living in Oaxaca, where the indigenous peoples were often disrespected, she taught me to never think of them as unclean. She said, "Even though their floors are of dirt, you see they sweep them twice a day." She taught me to see people of any illness with respect and compassion, "Never be ashamed of any natural thing about the body," was one of the things she s...Today I am deeply thankful to my mother, who taught me how to respect all people with little things she said to me… When we were living in Oaxaca, where the indigenous peoples were often disrespected, she taught me to never think of them as unclean. She said, “Even though their floors are of dirt, you see they sweep them twice a day.” She taught me to see people of any illness with respect and compassion, “Never be ashamed of any natural thing about the body,” was one of the things she said. She would talk to everybody, no matter how old and infirmed, no matter how uneducated and poor, and not with condescension but with true interest and equality. Thank you, mom. You have given me the gift of many friends and a wholeness to humanity. Read More11 Reply Mica3 months agoMicaWow, Holly – how wonderful! 4 Reply pkr3 months agopkrHow do I show respect to others, by treating them as I want to be treated. Respect for myself in turn means respect for others. 🙏❤️ 5 Reply Elaine3 months agoElaineWe are in a pandemic.. Respect for others involves listening to our scientists and public health officials and following the protocols they mandate or recommend. We are in a climate emergency. Respect for “others” – the whole of creation – means reducing consumption, stopping extraction, turning our priorities instead toward regeneration. There’s a chance we can save Mother Earth – what a gift that would be. 7 Reply Holly in Ohio3 months agoHolly in OhioThank you, Elaine, for reminding me that our actions also speak our respect for others and for our earth. 5 Reply Linda3 months agoLindaWell said, Elaine. 4 Reply Elaine3 months agoElaineThank you Linda 😊 4 Reply tipanee3 months agotipaneeBy being present…. 8 Reply Palm3 months agoPalmSo true… 4 Reply Kevin3 months agoKevinI can only hope that the way in which I honor and value the mutual existence of other people around me will be afforded to me as well by folks unknown to me throughout my day. That said, however, I don’t treat or interact with other people in a particular way because I am expecting a kind of payback, or quid pro quo, if you will, that in some way benefits me in the end. How I see, hear, and experience my sisters and brothers, whether around the corner or around the globe simply is what it i...I can only hope that the way in which I honor and value the mutual existence of other people around me will be afforded to me as well by folks unknown to me throughout my day. That said, however, I don’t treat or interact with other people in a particular way because I am expecting a kind of payback, or quid pro quo, if you will, that in some way benefits me in the end. How I see, hear, and experience my sisters and brothers, whether around the corner or around the globe simply is what it is. It somehow completes my own humanity in a way that is both unique and mysterious that is not easily expressed with words. Read More8 Reply Nelson3 months agoNelsonBy paying attention. Nowadays, it’s can be difficult to have a conversation – in person, on the phone, or through Zoom – with someone who isn’t distracted by their phones. Or multitasking. Or thinking of something and not being present. I include myself in this as I get distracted too. So I make an active effort to be present. Make eye contact. Genuinely listen. Not have my camera off during a video conference call so they could see they're actually talking to a person, not to a blank sc...By paying attention. Nowadays, it’s can be difficult to have a conversation – in person, on the phone, or through Zoom – with someone who isn’t distracted by their phones. Or multitasking. Or thinking of something and not being present. I include myself in this as I get distracted too. So I make an active effort to be present. Make eye contact. Genuinely listen. Not have my camera off during a video conference call so they could see they’re actually talking to a person, not to a blank screen. It’s how I would like to be treated if I’m sharing my thoughts. The energy is totally different when both people are present and engaged. We both feel heard, valued, seen, and understood. Read More8 Reply Carol3 months agoCarolThe following quote came to mind:"The single biggest thing I learned was from an indigenous elder of Cherokee descent, Stan Rushworth, who reminded me of the difference between a Western settlers mindset of “I have rights” and an indigenous mindset of “I have obligations.” Instead of thinking that I am born with rights, I choose to think that I am born with obligations to serve past, present and future generations, and the planet herself." It contains a perspective that respects all of ...The following quote came to mind:”The single biggest thing I learned was from an indigenous elder of Cherokee descent, Stan Rushworth, who reminded me of the difference between a Western settlers mindset of “I have rights” and an indigenous mindset of “I have obligations.” Instead of thinking that I am born with rights, I choose to think that I am born with obligations to serve past, present and future generations, and the planet herself.” It contains a perspective that respects all of creation. If we could embrace such a mindset, it would heal the world. Read More12 Reply Holly in Ohio3 months agoHolly in OhioThat is beautiful. 🌺 2 Reply sparrow3 months agosparrowWell said, dear Carol, from Stan Rushworth . . . it is a mindshift that I both welcome & embrace with love… sparrow ♥ 4 Reply Mica3 months agoMicaWonderful, Carol – I’ve put that quote in my gratefulness doc 4 Reply sunnypatti3 months agosunnypattiI show respect for others by treating them the way I want to be treated myself. That means showing up, being present, lending an ear, offering a hug, holding the door, letting someone into traffic or a grocery line, smiling at others. We get what we give, so that’s how this is a mutually fulfilling gift. 7 Reply Mary Pat3 months agoMary PatBe giving others my full attention when they are speaking. By meeting that person where they are in life. By allowing them to be who they are at this time in their life, and that allows me to be who I am at this time in my life. 8 Reply Katrina3 months agoKatrinaBy acknowledging others: there presence in the world; their humanity; their stories, if that is appropriate at the time; their need; their gifts. I’m not sure I need it to be mutually fulling, except to know that respect for others is a character quality and value that I honor in myself. 6 Reply SK3 months agoSKBy being a “companion” and not necessarily a friend; to listen and to really hear and not to believe that I have to say anything in return; to be present with them in their moment. 8 Reply Amber3 months agoAmberBy seeing how they freely be who they are and choose to live their lives without judgment or critic. It has been mutual because others not only do that for me but they constantly show and tell me how they value my presence and the sunshine I bring. 6 Reply devy3 months agodevyBy listening to others. if others are argumentative, listen to what they say, make my point but if they continue on , learn to be quiet and walk away. Some people are engrained with their thoughts that arguing will not change them, and only create turmoil. Show respect not just for others but more to me and what I stand for in my core beliefs. Perhaps once I am gone, the person will later ponder on what was said and see things in a different perspective. 8 Reply Linda3 months agoLinda“Some people are engrained with their thoughts that arguing will not change them, and only create turmoil.” This is so true, Devy, especially in our current politically charged culture. I have learned that the hard way… 5 Reply Amber3 months agoAmberI literally just spoke to my daughter about this yesterday. She cut someone off and told them she didn’t like them anymore. The “messy” person as my daughter described replied “I didn’t do nothing to you”. I tried explaining to her that sometimes those who don’t conduct themselves in an inconsiderate manner may not always be aware just how they may run others wrong. I challenged her to specifically share a few things if she was willing. I’m proud & respect her decision to be ...I literally just spoke to my daughter about this yesterday. She cut someone off and told them she didn’t like them anymore. The “messy” person as my daughter described replied “I didn’t do nothing to you”. I tried explaining to her that sometimes those who don’t conduct themselves in an inconsiderate manner may not always be aware just how they may run others wrong. I challenged her to specifically share a few things if she was willing. I’m proud & respect her decision to be distant nonetheless. 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