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Daily Question, September 6

What is on my “not to do” list?

  • k'Care-Reena

    WHAT IS ON MY “NOR TO DO” LIST? (first for myself secondly for others)

    Multitasking
    Judging/ Criticizing
    Projecting
    Neglecting
    Yelling
    Verbally attacking
    Rushing / rush to react
    Provide contracted energies
    belittling
    disempower
    obsess over the past / “failures”
    label myself as Broken or needing fixing

  • Malag

    Anything that involves a high probability of breaking bones.

  • Sush
    I’ve always believed the base to any kind of relationship is respect. So defo the first thing on my not-to-do list is never disrespect the other person. The other ones, belive it or not, I’ve learned from my dad. Not it a good way though loll. I’ve seen my dad do and speak things that I pray when I grow older, I don’t do the same. I pray that I’m not like him in some ways. Some of those include: talking rudely to strangers, ignoring someone when they need you, not being grateful when s...

    I’ve always believed the base to any kind of relationship is respect. So defo the first thing on my not-to-do list is never disrespect the other person. The other ones, belive it or not, I’ve learned from my dad. Not it a good way though loll. I’ve seen my dad do and speak things that I pray when I grow older, I don’t do the same. I pray that I’m not like him in some ways. Some of those include: talking rudely to strangers, ignoring someone when they need you, not being grateful when someone does something for you, dismissing other’s feelings, being impatient, exploiting someone’s insecurities or weaknesses, judging someone based on how they look, thinking that someone else is inferior to you. Phewwww that was long!

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  • Hot Sauce

    Things NOT to do:
    1. Slack in my academics.
    2. Spend unnecessary time on my phone.
    3. Hold grudges.
    4. Gamble, even if a street magician comes up to me wanting to do so (yes, that was a hard lesson learned. LOL)

  • Heroin. Meth. Crack.

    For starters.

  • KC
    Never, never never give up ... no matter how small the steps, how awkward, uncomfortable, backwards they seem, or how lost, alone, despairing, uncertain or afraid I feel ... Never give up on or let go of that sometimes illusive thread of connection with life, and the people and things that matter most. The Way it is There’s a thread you follow. It goes among things that change. But it doesn’t change. People wonder about what you are pursuing. You have to explain about...

    Never, never never give up … no matter how small the steps, how awkward, uncomfortable, backwards they seem, or how lost, alone, despairing, uncertain or afraid I feel …

    Never give up on or let go of that sometimes illusive thread of connection with life, and the people and things that matter most.

    The Way it is

    There’s a thread you follow. It goes
    among things that change. But it doesn’t
    change.
    People wonder about what you are
    pursuing.
    You have to explain about
    the thread.
    But it is hard for others to see.
    While you hold it you can’t get lost.
    Tragedies happen; people get hurt
    or die; and you suffer and get old.
    Nothing you do can stop time’s
    unfolding.
    You don’t ever let go of the thread.

    – William Stafford

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  • sb

    Not fill every second of the day with things to do
    Not to feel guilty when I can’t do everything or solve other people’s problems – as long as I have done my best
    Not to let details overwhelm the bigger picture

  • Don Jones

    I am more of a “do” guy than a “not do” guy.

  • Lauryn

    -not to drink excessively
    -not to over react when it comes to dealing with little things
    -not to get jealous
    -not to be negative

  • pkr

    Do not engage in negativity. To do, remain positive, be in the light, be light & love. ✨❤️🙏

  • TofuLove
    Give money to people with sob stories unless I’ve thoroughly vetted their stories. I learned that the hard way. You claim you need rent money, then you need medication money, then you need increasingly bizarre things and the stories don’t even make sense anymore to prior stories. I care what happens to people but I really dislike when someone is trying to scam me so my default with sob stories if you want large cash sums is like, give me some proof this a legit need. Not feel I have to save ...

    Give money to people with sob stories unless I’ve thoroughly vetted their stories. I learned that the hard way. You claim you need rent money, then you need medication money, then you need increasingly bizarre things and the stories don’t even make sense anymore to prior stories. I care what happens to people but I really dislike when someone is trying to scam me so my default with sob stories if you want large cash sums is like, give me some proof this a legit need. Not feel I have to save anyone from their own choices or be close friends with people who are engaged in what I deem unhealthy lifestyles. Feel guilt for the good things in my life.

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  • Blossom

    Not forget who I am. 😌

  • Elaine

    Don’t sweat the small stuff.

  • dust36

    Not to do – Overreact to my kids. Sometimes my perfection gets in the way of good parenting and I just need to let them be their own person (including making mistakes along the way).

  • Mica

    a ‘not to do’ list tends to be an unwise list. I read in Science magazine that the mind tends to ignore the ‘not.’ “Don’t spill the red wine on the white tablecloth” – the mind tends to hear “spill the red wine on the white tablecloth’ – best to have ToDo lists! 🍷 🍷

  • Marnie Jackson

    To beat myself up for past transgressions
    To ruminate on all the ways that I have not been perfect in the past
    To forget that others are also struggling to return to school and life

  • Nelson

    Telling myself I’m a failure (and all the various ways that statement can manifest itself.) Letting negative thoughts take up space in my head. Working myself until exhaustion, and still thinking it’s not good enough. Thinking I’m not good enough. Falling into the scarcity mindset. Forgetting that other people are facing their own private struggles. Forgetting to practice empathy and compassion and kindness.

    • sb

      That could be me talking! Especially the first 4 sentences! I have become more and more aware of my tendency to do these things and am learning to “not do” them but I can’t manage it all the time. Now I will think of you and remember we are both feeling the same and that just as I will then send positive thoughts to you, I am sure you would do the same for me. Both in it together! Keep trying!

  • DeVonna

    Judging. It is very hard because it is in my nature as a human to form opinions of people I meet. I want to give people the benefit of a doubt and not jump to pigeonhole them.

  • Mary Pat

    Not to wake up during the very early morning hours and remember things…like…things my children/grandchildren are going through in life, or how my husband is having a few problems…trying to come up with solutions for things I can think about during daylight hours! I am in CBT(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and finding it helpful. And not being impatient is on my list as well…..

    • Mica

      Ah, yes, Mary Pat – that’s a hard one. I heard a talk recently about our brain and how to distract it from such thoughts by bringing it to the present sensations. The speaker was a neuro-biologist and she had names for the different brain patterns in unhappy thinking vs mindfulness of the present. Warm wishes!!💕🤗

      • Mary Pat

        Yes. And to replace those worries at 2AM with positive thoughts. It is starting to work, but it does take awhile, because I am really rewiring my brain after several months of worries taking hold. I am learning alot, and that is so good at my age!

        • Mica

          Yes, Mary Pat, I’m shocked at the basic things I’m still trying to learn after so many decades. About a year ago, I shushed the 2AM worries by telling myself that, if I didn’t stop worrying, I’d have to watch the whole 9+ minutes of George Floyd’s murder, none of which I’ve seen in any video. My worries got less, but they tend to recur periodically in lesser forms. So be it. More warm wishes to you – 🥰🙃

  • Michele

    Negativity.

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