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Daily Question, March 24

If I were to die suddenly this evening, what would I regret not having done? How might I tend to this?

  • Malag

    I could probably write a list to beat myself up with.

  • Just be

    I would regret
    – the times I could have been kinder
    – the times I failed to love
    – the times I spent doing mundane tasks when I could have been connecting with friends.
    – the books, hobbies, places I never got to because, “I have to ______ first.”
    – the times I went through life on autopilot.
    – the times I wasn’t happy with what I had.

  • Kristi

    If I were to die I would regret all the ‘messes’ I left behind. It would make life a little more difficult for those who would have to take over for me. I really should spend time getting my life organized.

  • Don Jones

    For me, regret is one of those words that likes to drag you into the past, then slingshot you into the future and ricochet back into the past. The more fundamental question is, “Am I ready to die (now)?” The answer to that question lies in the here and now.

  • sb
    I have been lucky enough to have had a full life, full of loving relationships, so I like to think I wouldn't have many regrets. I think my biggest regret would have to be filling my time with work, duty to others etc etc and therefore not always having time to be spontaneous with my husband or to properly listen to him and fully engage with his conversations, concerns and worries instead of listening with just one ear. I know they say no one on their death bed ever says they wish they had worke...

    I have been lucky enough to have had a full life, full of loving relationships, so I like to think I wouldn’t have many regrets. I think my biggest regret would have to be filling my time with work, duty to others etc etc and therefore not always having time to be spontaneous with my husband or to properly listen to him and fully engage with his conversations, concerns and worries instead of listening with just one ear. I know they say no one on their death bed ever says they wish they had worked more -I often think of this and mean to address it but…….Maybe now I will. I will certainly try.

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  • Dusty Su

    I’d be so pleased. I’ve died before, it’s great.

    I’d miss my partner though and be sad that COVID kept us apart. I didn’t get enough time with him.

    I’d have wished I updated my living will/advance directives and done a physical will.

    Due to do next week. So may I live long enough for that.

  • Lauryn

    I would regret not learning how to develop and maintain meaningful relationships. I’m not sure how to tend to this —- I feel like this ability is innate and intuitive- learned from watching parents and relatives as a child. I’m not sure what happens when you don’t have that natural ability and you’re not really sure how to act.

    • sunnypatti
      I don't think it's all innate and intuitive. I had to learn how to do it. What I saw as a young child before my mother learned her own lessons on relationships was very unhealthy and not meaningful whatsoever. It definitely affected my relationships as a young woman, which is why my first marriage was such a toxic trainwreck. I had other issues to deal with, but I had to reprogram my mind, basically unlearning what I knew so I could develop new skills. I also had to learn to love myself. That, h...

      I don’t think it’s all innate and intuitive. I had to learn how to do it. What I saw as a young child before my mother learned her own lessons on relationships was very unhealthy and not meaningful whatsoever. It definitely affected my relationships as a young woman, which is why my first marriage was such a toxic trainwreck. I had other issues to deal with, but I had to reprogram my mind, basically unlearning what I knew so I could develop new skills. I also had to learn to love myself. That, honestly, made the biggest difference for me. I wish you all the best, Lauryn.

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    • Just be

      It requires skill. Skills can be learned, more easily in a class or with a therapist; barring that, they can be learned through observation, but that is more difficult. Some are born with a more innate ability, but that doesn’t means skills can’t be learned by the others. Been there.

  • Carol

    I have more or less given up on an important relationship. This question makes me realize that I need to work on it.

  • DeVonna
    I would regret that my daughter and I are not reconciled. She has not spoken to my husband and me for five years now. In that time our grandson has grown from an infant to a Kindergartner and has been joined by a little brother, whom we have never met. I love my daughter deeply and would give just about anything to be part of her life, but she does not desire it. So we have grieved and accepted this very unfortunate part of life. But we never give up hope that one day she will allow us to love h...

    I would regret that my daughter and I are not reconciled. She has not spoken to my husband and me for five years now. In that time our grandson has grown from an infant to a Kindergartner and has been joined by a little brother, whom we have never met. I love my daughter deeply and would give just about anything to be part of her life, but she does not desire it. So we have grieved and accepted this very unfortunate part of life. But we never give up hope that one day she will allow us to love her once again…

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  • Katrina
    I don't want to come to my death bed regretting anything, but I know I will. No matter how much I try to impart knowledge, love, insights, memories - you can't make other people receive them the way you want them to. Doesn't mean you should try, I guess. I do try. So I guess what I hope I have done by the time I'm on my death bed is to have loved without limits, listened with filters of love and acceptance as much as I can, served and spoken with justice and mercy on behalf of others, laughed an...

    I don’t want to come to my death bed regretting anything, but I know I will. No matter how much I try to impart knowledge, love, insights, memories – you can’t make other people receive them the way you want them to. Doesn’t mean you should try, I guess. I do try. So I guess what I hope I have done by the time I’m on my death bed is to have loved without limits, listened with filters of love and acceptance as much as I can, served and spoken with justice and mercy on behalf of others, laughed and shared laughter extraordinarily, and spent as much time on a beach as possible.

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  • Toni
    Make sure my papers were in order so I don’t stress out whoever is going to take care of my funeral according to my wishes. I am in the midst of cleaning out and organizing papers. My cousin has a book that gives details to her burial that she shared with my sister who also did the same. I didn’t want to because I thought it was morbid but I see it is necessary just in case. Of course that's very practical. But this question I assume is about living. In that case I am doing the best I can...

    Make sure my papers were in order so I don’t stress out whoever is going to take care of my funeral according to my wishes. I am in the midst of cleaning out and organizing papers. My cousin has a book that gives details to her burial that she shared with my sister who also did the same. I didn’t want to because I thought it was morbid but I see it is necessary just in case. Of course that’s very practical. But this question I assume is about living. In that case I am doing the best I can day by day with what I have and pausing to take notice what I can along the way. The uncertainty of life is ever present so being aware of and not taking advantage of life in the moment is what I am paying attention to what is showing up. Last night my cousin finally agreed to talk to me about a condition she has had and finally took steps to feel relief instead of asking questions that could set her off, I listened. We had a good conversation and then went to a Reiki session together. So the art of allowing did us both good and there was a sharing of empathy between us. I could not ask for anything more. Living with more ease is what I am pursuing.

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    • Michele

      My mother had written out exactly what to do when she died in a letter to my brother and I. It was so helpful and made everything that much easier during a difficult time. I have since done the same for my kids. In fact, a very close friend of mine asked for a copy of what she had written so she would know what to do for her father when he passed. Some people just really don’t know where to begin and what to do. Make it easy:)

  • Mike S

    Spending more time with my family, all grown but living on opposite sides of the country. We are already doing family zoom calls with some regularity, and I plan this Soring and summer to make personal visits.

  • SK

    I would regret not having gone to the Holy Land with Tom and Cheri when I had the chance; to not have seen the eagles in Haines, Alaska; to not have walked the Camino de Santiago and the northern Scotland walk to John O’ Groats; to not have located my ancestors and relatives in Scotland. To remedy this- I will walk the Camino virtually; plan a trip to Haines; save money for Scotland when the pandemic is over; do my ancestry and write letters.

  • Trish

    There are a couple of letters I want to write to try to capture the depth of my love: my two children, my ex-husband & my parents are at the top of the list. At some point soon I’ll carve out sacred time for these meaningful notes.

  • sunnypatti

    Travelling more. I want to see the world, but the only way I can tend to this today is to set some intentions, see myself visiting the places I want to visit, and hope that I live long enough to go everywhere on the list.

  • EJP

    I would regret not telling those close to me how much I love them and what a blessing they are in my life. I will start doing this right now.

  • Chester

    Since about my early 20’s I’ve kept notes on personal insights on life and living. Recently I’ve thought I should share these with my children, now 11 and 13 years old, to share a fairly good cross-section of some of my more valued thoughts. Suspect I might regret not having shared. As I’ve moved and maintained these in a digital form that is amenable to sharing, I just forwarded a link that allows them to view … OK, now back to living and engaging in today.

  • devy

    Being able to continue travelling around the world and seeing places on my bucket list. Prior to the pandemic we were travelling every year.. but I have no control on that and am accepting that fact even though it is difficult at times..

  • Ed Schulte
    Nothing because I will go on living on the Psychical , then Noetical planes until I incarnation As Spirit-Soul-Self on this physical plane again. Anything, of true importance ( meaning, needing to be completed to reach Theosis ) in this physical incarnation will return with me when I return. So what/ where / why can there be “regret”? There cannot be any “regrets” be unless one is he/she whom Joshua Emmanuel said “He/she who puts hand to plough handle and then looks back, is not fit ...

    Nothing because I will go on living on the Psychical , then Noetical planes until I incarnation As Spirit-Soul-Self on this physical plane again. Anything, of true importance ( meaning, needing to be completed to reach Theosis ) in this physical incarnation will return with me when I return.

    So what/ where / why can there be “regret”? There cannot be any “regrets” be unless one is he/she whom Joshua Emmanuel said “He/she who puts hand to plough handle and then looks back, is not fit for the Kingdom of the Heavens”. ( KoH = Theosis)

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    • Just be

      This sounds very similar to Gnosticism?

      • Ed Schulte

        Hi Just be ( good choice for a handle)

        Yes it is in that it is all from the teachings of the Essene masters and Apostates.

        Gnosticism had a somewhat similar beginning, using Essene teachings they had contacted but then many other experiments alchemy /theories/ etc ” were thrown into their “mixture”. So the Gnostics tended to not have the discipline. One could call the Gnostics the “new ager” of the time period.

        Be Well Be Present

        EdS

        • Just be

          A couple of days ago you mentioned Sufi. I just picked up a copy of Rumi’s “Treasury of Wisdom” and have been reading a little each morning.

          • Ed Schulte
            After Yumus Emere ....Rumi ( all blessings and peace be with the two of them ) is the most read and quoted poet in the western world. I suspect you will find deep companionship with his wisdom. I know I did starting 25 years ago. He was one of the prime reasons I could ACTUALLY begin to look into the Gnostics and the Nag Hammadi Gospels and then discover Daskalos ( Dr Stylianos Atteshlis ) and his wealth of Essene knowledge. Daskalos lovingly said often, "The Sufi are our brothers". So True So ...

            After Yumus Emere ….Rumi ( all blessings and peace be with the two of them ) is the most read and quoted poet in the western world. I suspect you will find deep companionship with his wisdom. I know I did starting 25 years ago. He was one of the prime reasons I could ACTUALLY begin to look into the Gnostics and the Nag Hammadi Gospels and then discover Daskalos ( Dr Stylianos Atteshlis ) and his wealth of Essene knowledge. Daskalos lovingly said often, “The Sufi are our brothers”. So True So True.

            Again, Be Well!

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  • k'Care-Reena
    IF YOU WERE TO PASS THIS EVENING WHAT WOULD YOU REGRET NOT HAVING DONR? HOW MIGHT YOU TEND TO THIS?This is a good one 1. Igniting a shift in individuals out look on life to reduce the mental health rates. [my moral obligation] 1A. Distribute FREE personal breakthroughs, which I do every time I am interacting w/ individuals. Take action every day to meet with the Worlds HEALERS/coaches who share my concern & understand the TRUE value & impact of SUPPORT/HEALING over money. NOT TO SAY we (...

    IF YOU WERE TO PASS THIS EVENING WHAT WOULD YOU REGRET NOT HAVING DONR? HOW MIGHT YOU TEND TO THIS?This is a good one
    1. Igniting a shift in individuals out look on life to reduce the mental health rates. [my moral obligation]
    1A. Distribute FREE personal breakthroughs, which I do every time I am interacting w/ individuals. Take action every day to meet with the Worlds HEALERS/coaches who share my concern & understand the TRUE value & impact of SUPPORT/HEALING over money. NOT TO SAY we (coaches) should not accept payment for services however the priority should be decreasing Mental Health Rates while increasing happiness &fulfillment not getting the car you always wanted. Us coaches are the gateway for those who find it difficult to be healthy and happy. Therefore if the coaches must be willing to aid those who are unable to afford mental health services. We must heal & support all individuals.
    2.Loved ones are not aware of the impact, value & love they had on me
    2A. Make it a part of my daily habits/routines to spread positivity & breakthroughs.
    3. Being a mother, not just a plant mom.
    3A. I have fibroids which will give me less of a chance to carry the child myself. I expanding my knowledge & beliefs regarding recover
    4. Live my life as my ancestors close to I am able to including Spiritual Beliefs, Lifestyle etc. (while living out my LIFE’S PURPOSE and healing others). Now how might I tend to this? I do it EVERYDAY.
    4A i completed Ancestry DNA a& found out I am more then just Puertorican & Dominican . I found out I am from Scotland etc. Therefore I will travel to become more knowledgable about my ancestories.

    I also agree w/ Kevin [I do not regret anything]. I believe everything happens for a reason, therefore if it didn’t happen it is because it should not.

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