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Daily Question, February 21

How might you allow yourself to receive more easily?

  • k'Care-Reena
    My programing as a child has constructed beliefs that have prevented me from allowing myself to receive. I remember at 8 ys old my father's work partner decided to gift me $100 for my birthday, and he came to the house when my father was not there. I felt uncomfortable taking it however he was older than I was and I also believed I had to listen to ALL ADULTS. When my father came home I told him and he made me promise to never take anything from a man. Now being an adult and understandin...

    My programing as a child has constructed beliefs that have prevented me from allowing myself to receive.

    I remember at 8 ys old my father’s work partner decided to gift me $100 for my birthday, and he came to the house when my father was not there. I felt uncomfortable taking it however he was older than I was and I also believed I had to listen to ALL ADULTS. When my father came home I told him and he made me promise to never take anything from a man.

    Now being an adult and understanding he. meant specific things from men [e.g some men want something in return for gifts] I see why I do not like to take from my partners. This has impacted my relationships where I believe I HAVE to do everything. SO allowing myself to heal, process, let go & understand this limiting belief I am able to construct an empowering yet safe belief about recieving from others.

    I have recently decided to tell myself IN ORDER TO GIVE YOU HAVE TO TAKE, AND TO TAKE YOU HAVE TO GIVE this reminds me to keep in mind those I give to have to give to me back not in the way of this for that but more for monitoring the amount of energy I give to prevent me from feeling unworthy, under compensated etc.

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  • Carol

    Trusting others with my needs seems to backfire. People want to talk about their issues but not sure they want to hear of mine. If I do I’m not sure they will stay private in our community. All these reasons keep me closed to receiving other than a surface level. I do compliment myself now which is huge.

  • Kristi

    I can allow myself to receive compliments. Instead of brushing them off, making a face or giving someone else the credit, I should just say ‘thanks!’

  • Dusty Su
    Said to myself: How I long to receive more and yet repel helpers so automatically. I start by recognizing the personal mechanisms around giving and receiving. Giving is easier. It puts me in the driver's seat. It removes me from obligation to another other than to fulfill my promises well. It produces a flurry of feel good hormones. It creates connection on my terms. It provides life-purpose. Trusting another with my open, raw, true state, needs, or even glorious self is scary. I...

    Said to myself:

    How I long to receive more and yet repel helpers so automatically.

    I start by recognizing the personal mechanisms around giving and receiving.

    Giving is easier. It puts me in the driver’s seat. It removes me from obligation to another other than to fulfill my promises well. It produces a flurry of feel good hormones. It creates connection on my terms. It provides life-purpose.

    Trusting another with my open, raw, true state, needs, or even glorious self is scary. It demands vulnerability, connection, social obligation, humility, and yet means the giver sees me in ways that engenders value.

    What I wish to receive, how I wish to receive it, may differ to how the giver gives or sees my needs. It’s hard to read what the giver’s intentions may be, or what they wish to accomplish from their giving, and for me to understand my role in receiving.

    The best way around all of this for me is to dance the dance of giving, opening, allowing, then inturn, trusting, opening, receiving. Not in a quid pro quid format, but in flow with humanity. A conscious choice of letting go, opening up, connecting, letting love/compassion (for others and myself) be the filter. A willingness to have-done-unto-myself as I’d gladly do-unto-others type of deal.

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  • Melissa

    Taking three deep breaths and staying calm and keep persevering through this pandemic. Remembering to be grateful for clean water, food and shelter and the beautiful nature that surrounds my home. A sweet puppy and a loving mate. Helping in anyway I can for others.

  • Cammy Montoya

    I cheated and looked at other responses before writing mine. I would say, letting people help me, love me when I’m struggling. And, by showing myself the same compassion I show others.

  • sb
    I thought a while and decided I always have a knee jerk reaction "I'm fine" or "you needn't worry" so I think I agree with CraigK that "stop" should be my first action. Then "think" and then "go". I like to help people so I must remember they probably like to help me as much as I like to help others. .It is as ungenerous not to accept help/advice/love as it is not to offer. Am I too arrogant to receive ? I must also remember my way is not the only way so, does it matter if others do things diffe...

    I thought a while and decided I always have a knee jerk reaction “I’m fine” or “you needn’t worry” so I think I agree with CraigK that “stop” should be my first action. Then “think” and then “go”. I like to help people so I must remember they probably like to help me as much as I like to help others. .It is as ungenerous not to accept help/advice/love as it is not to offer. Am I too arrogant to receive ? I must also remember my way is not the only way so, does it matter if others do things differently? The vision of the school where I work is “many gifts working together”. Receiving from others should lead to working more together in many, many different ways, and connecting with others can only be a good thing.

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  • Lynne

    It is very easy to let my mind get cluttered, and that puts up barriers to being receptive. It becomes more important every year, as my mind is ‘fuller’ than ever and more likely to let important experiences slip by.

  • Etta

    By holding myself in the same compassion in which I hold others.

  • Chester

    Against my better judgment, I sometimes see input from others as a challenge to my existing formed plans or ideas. I often have to remind myself to experience this input as an opportunity to improve upon the existing state. Looking for the opportunity to improve rather than replace may allow me to receive more easily.

  • Hot Sauce

    If you ask, you will receive. Perhaps one way to begin receiving is to be willing to ask for what I want. If you don’t communicate, you can’t be helped. “Ask, and it will be given to you.”

  • Sarah

    Resting in the Lord and his love. Joining positive and worthy intentions to those of the Saints.
    Being joyful!

  • Tamra

    Meditate, daily prayers, align for what you want to manifest, keep and open mind an open heart. Most important is to live in gratefulness everyday. 😊☮️

  • GratefulOne

    When I saw this question, I looked up the definition of receive. I am going with the meaning ‘accept’. Acceptance is not easy at times for me. It is a process.

    Can STOP LOOK GO, be applied to acceptance?

    I will try…

    STOP – Take a breath and accept

    LOOK – Look at the ways we may accept ourselves, others and our situation

    GO – Go into life and accept as we can

    I am interested to read about others approach to receiving and acceptance

    • Holly in Ohio
      That is wonderful. I like how you thought that through. I've been thinking about this question all day. There are so many layers to it, and so many ways to think about it. For me, I think having faith that there is abundance is part of it.... and the expectation that I might receive that abundance. If I don't believe that abundance is there, I could walk right past it and not see it... love, kindness, humanity, the resilience of nature, job opportunity, ...even food. I might not recogniz...

      That is wonderful. I like how you thought that through.

      I’ve been thinking about this question all day. There are so many layers to it, and so many ways to think about it. For me, I think having faith that there is abundance is part of it…. and the expectation that I might receive that abundance. If I don’t believe that abundance is there, I could walk right past it and not see it… love, kindness, humanity, the resilience of nature, job opportunity, …even food. I might not recognize someone who could be a friend, just because they aren’t my age, have a similar face, be dressed similarly… the expectation though widens my vision. It also puts my thoughts on the edge of “manifestation” and I’m not sure if I believe that in the way it is usually described, and yet…???

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  • Victoria

    Two things come to mind. Perhaps by taking the risk to reach out and ask for help and when it’s offered say “yes”.

  • Maeve

    By looking around and being grateful for what I have, even in the midst of anxiety and “all-I-need-to-do”-ness. Like going down to the trail along the Charles River this morning, and seeing and delighting in the exotic migrating ocean ducks that are there right now.

    by acknowledging and asking for what I want: putting it out, and trusting that I will receive what I need.

  • Javier Visionquest

    By creating the space. . . .
    “Everyone you see and believe to be living these enviable lives does so because they have removed absolutely everything from their path that does not serve their highest purpose.”

  • Michele

    Meditation seems to help with relaxation and becoming calm. While in this state, receiving would be more easily obtained. Also, being open minded would allow to receive more easily.

  • Ed Schulte

    Sincerity is absolutely essential …

    “Ask (sincerely) …and you shall receive…Knock and the door shall be opened”

    The “door” can be “in the name of” any of the large numbers of Attained Being’s….the Holy Spirit is highly available in all of them.

  • devy

    By accepting life as it is better, to continue living in the present rather than the past and future. More work is needed..To continue being compassionate towards others realizing that we have our battles, react to situations differently. By continuing my daily meditation to keep myself calm and grateful .

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