Daily Question, October 16 How have I focused on the good in others today? 41 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. sunnypatti7 months agosunnypattiI’m a day late, as we had to get up and going for a festival my husband was setting his food truck up at. It was a big chance for him to really get his name out there, especially since this was in a community he wants most of his business to come from. My mom and I helped him sell food and market all day, and it was so much fun. I focused on the good in everyone we encountered, sharing all the good things my husband could do for them in the future, but also appreciating their presence and espe...I’m a day late, as we had to get up and going for a festival my husband was setting his food truck up at. It was a big chance for him to really get his name out there, especially since this was in a community he wants most of his business to come from. My mom and I helped him sell food and market all day, and it was so much fun. I focused on the good in everyone we encountered, sharing all the good things my husband could do for them in the future, but also appreciating their presence and especially their business. We had a great time, and my husband really needed this boost, as its taking a while to really get the business going in the direction he wants it to. I’m so grateful I could be there to celebrate fall while putting his good food into the community’s mouths! Read More4 Reply Malag7 months agoMalagIt’s early yet for me but my outlook is that the great majority of people are doing their best and if the encounter is difficult that’s just how they were at that time. And I haven’t been in their shoes to know what their life challenges are and how they could be just having a bad day. 4 Reply Mike7 months agoMikeI got to spend a day with a family member with whom I used to butt heads constantly and think about all the giving qualities he now has that I never developed. 4 Reply Mica7 months agoMicaNot always… I criticized the other local quilt guild to one of the quilters at the guild meeting today and have been feeling guilty about it 😟 3 Reply TofuLove7 months agoTofuLoveI’m not sure, there’s a shift happening for me on some deeper patterns of relating, find myself shifting from being drawn to angrier people to being drawn to lightness and happiness in others. I don’t know the outcome of that I just find that my experience seems to be getting happier daily and as that happens what I focus on in others is shifting, where I’m seeing more the positive. I think meditation is really what seems to be helping in this. 6 Reply Melissa7 months agoMelissaHaving and sharing breakfast of yummy French toast with blueberries and raspberries with my niece and her kids age 7 and 8 years old . Laughing together outside once again. The kids so filled with goodness and love for all. 9 Reply dcdeb7 months agodcdebBy receiving a dental referral from someone today. And also my ex took me on a long ride today out of the kindness of his heart. 9 Reply Marnie Jackson7 months agoMarnie JacksonI actually haven’t been – and this is a good reminder that I want to be. My daughter is going through a hard situation with a friend – and I am feeling helpless in helping her deal with the struggle. Remembering that there is good in every one helps me to have a better perspective on this situation. 9 Reply Chester7 months agoChesterBy considering what is important to them, their fears, their ideals – in one word, empathy – a function in short supply these days. We are not hard-wired to empathize with digital screens and so often that is the medium of interaction. 11 Reply Michele7 months agoMicheleI just noticed my neighbor across the street feeding the peacocks. It allowed me to see the cute baby peacock in there with all the others. I will focus on this question throughout the rest of the day too:) 7 Reply Malag7 months agoMalag“I just noticed my neighbor across the street feeding the peacocks” Michele that just made my day. Perhaps a common site to you but so exotic to me. 2 Reply Michele7 months agoMicheleYesterday, while in my yoga room, I looked out the window and saw that mama peacock came over to my yard with her baby. It was such an awesome site to watch them. I did realize how special it was and that not everyone has peacocks in their neighborhoods. Thank you for your response:) I u/l a pic on the Lounge:) 1 Reply devy7 months agodevyBy not over reacting to the negative actions or words of others and being observant and empathetic to why they are the way they are at this moment. By doing so, I can adjust my views of them, understand their reasons and focus more on their positive attributes. This in turn can also reduce my own internal stresses and anxieties.. 8 Reply Mary Pat7 months agoMary PatI needed to read this. I have a neighbor who is just plain nasty. I have been nasty back on occasion and of course it is the wrong response. I need to remember this person is very unhappy, and that is why she is nasty. I will do my best to remember that when I see her and love her, send her loving thoughts and work on this… thank you. 3 Reply Mary Pat7 months agoMary PatYesterday our church Community came together to help us with...well..everything really. Because we both have Covid, we are in quarantine. The infusion therapy went well, and although I am not getting better, I am not getting worse. People at our church set up a dog walking genius sign up, as well as a meal train. I can sit back and get better. I don't have to do any of those things. It is unbelievable how not just good, but caring, wonderful, and loving this is....I am more than grateful, but t...Yesterday our church Community came together to help us with…well..everything really. Because we both have Covid, we are in quarantine. The infusion therapy went well, and although I am not getting better, I am not getting worse. People at our church set up a dog walking genius sign up, as well as a meal train. I can sit back and get better. I don’t have to do any of those things. It is unbelievable how not just good, but caring, wonderful, and loving this is….I am more than grateful, but that is the only word my painful brain can think of, and it falls short….and as soon as I am better, I will be helping others in this same way….but it will be awhile….. Read More11 Reply Holly in Ohio7 months agoHolly in OhioDear Mary Pat, I’m sorry to hear you are both ill. I will be praying for good sleep for you and a quick recovery! 💐 4 Reply pkr7 months agopkrMary Pat, you are so blessed to be surrounded by a loving, kind, generous community. Prayers for your speedy recovery. 🙏❤️🙏 6 Reply Michele7 months agoMicheleYour reflection is a reminder that there are good people out there and makes up for all the terrible we see/read on the news. Feel better:) 6 Reply Sandra7 months agoSandraHello Mary Pat, it sounds like you are going through some difficult times at the moment. I’m so pleased you have the support you need and hope you will see an improvement in health in time 🙏 10 Reply Lee Anne7 months agoLee AnneI live in a small apartment building in a historic village in the mountains of New York State. I love God and honor others' beliefs. I partake in rituals or ceremonies that are not part of my spiritual life, for I believe in being inclusive and expansive in my respect for others. My second-floor corner apartment is delightfully secluded, and I have views of woodlands and wildlife with nothing artificial disrupting the idyllic. I am a writer and visual artist, spending my days alone, living a sim...I live in a small apartment building in a historic village in the mountains of New York State. I love God and honor others’ beliefs. I partake in rituals or ceremonies that are not part of my spiritual life, for I believe in being inclusive and expansive in my respect for others. My second-floor corner apartment is delightfully secluded, and I have views of woodlands and wildlife with nothing artificial disrupting the idyllic. I am a writer and visual artist, spending my days alone, living a simple life. I recently sold my car to pay for unexpected emergency dental surgeries. I have years left to drive, and I miss my car, yet I do not most of the time. Why this long set-up? My neighbors who do not know me have slandered me, called me names, foul names, and branded me as a witch though I pray to the same God they do. I pray that their fears, anger, and violent language will dissipate. But, there is not one person among the 23 neighbors with whom I can communicate. I cannot get past their toxic language and actions towards others. I am protected even though they try to paint me as something I am not. It is hard for me to ‘focus on the good in others’ in my immediate surroundings. I pray daily to love on to my neighbors, asking my heart to remain open and not harden against them or anyone. I listen to them, trying to understand. Prayer and striving to understand are all I can do. 🌈 Read More12 Reply pkr7 months agopkrLee Anne, sending prayers & love your way. May God protect you & guide you. Stay safe. 🙏❤️🙏 5 Reply Lee Anne7 months agoLee AnneThank you! He will provide and He is my refuge. 🥰 5 Reply Michele7 months agoMicheleHow long have you lived there? Are you financially able to move? Maybe it’s time for a new chapter/new beginning somewhere else… I will light a candle for you. 6 Reply Lee Anne7 months agoLee AnneThank you, Michele. I live in subsidized housing on a modest social security payment. I am grateful for my beautiful apartment and surroundings. It is impossible at this time to move. Given my low-income status, the question becomes where to move? My neighbors are not bad people. They are filled with fear, which causes them to believe and act as they do. I know this, but some days it's like hitting a wall of darkness. Most of the time, between my artwork and meditation and prayer, I am well in m...Thank you, Michele. I live in subsidized housing on a modest social security payment. I am grateful for my beautiful apartment and surroundings. It is impossible at this time to move. Given my low-income status, the question becomes where to move? My neighbors are not bad people. They are filled with fear, which causes them to believe and act as they do. I know this, but some days it’s like hitting a wall of darkness. Most of the time, between my artwork and meditation and prayer, I am well in my soul. Thank you for lighting a candle! That is special to me. 🕯 Blessed be ~ ♥️ Read More7 Reply Mica7 months agoMicaDear Lee Anne, I lit a candle, too – may it warm the hearts of your neighbors and bring at least a bit of reconciliation. 2 Reply Lee Anne7 months agoLee AnneOh my, Mica, I feel so blessed with the responses today and the candles! Thank you so very much. All is well and will be even better. Blessed be~ 3 Reply Sandra7 months agoSandraIn this morning’s meditation I was invited to set an intention for the day. Three words came to me: loving, forgiveness and non-judgement. For the first half hour of the day I said these words to myself every time I caught myself thinking about someone or a situation. I was shocked at how often I needed to remind myself to think in this way. But now, an hour or two later, I no longer catch myself because my mindset has changed. Simply by noting - applying those three words to myself as m...In this morning’s meditation I was invited to set an intention for the day. Three words came to me: loving, forgiveness and non-judgement. For the first half hour of the day I said these words to myself every time I caught myself thinking about someone or a situation. I was shocked at how often I needed to remind myself to think in this way. But now, an hour or two later, I no longer catch myself because my mindset has changed. Simply by noting – applying those three words to myself as much as to others and avoiding analysis or narrative – I have been able to appreciate and celebrate the good in others (and in myself) and gently step away from the imperfections which make each of us uniquely human. A wonderful beginning to the day, I am very grateful for this gift ❤️️ Read More10 Reply Holly in Ohio7 months agoHolly in OhioIt has been easier for me in recent months to feel and notice the good in others and not be irritated or impatient with my husband, my neighbors, and others close to me, but it doesn't feel like I'm focusing on the good in them, but rather that it is happening more naturally as I become more relaxed in life, and with gratitude becoming a regular part of my perspective in all things. The gratitude brings a deeper contentment, and a greater acceptance of problems, health challenges, personality qu...It has been easier for me in recent months to feel and notice the good in others and not be irritated or impatient with my husband, my neighbors, and others close to me, but it doesn’t feel like I’m focusing on the good in them, but rather that it is happening more naturally as I become more relaxed in life, and with gratitude becoming a regular part of my perspective in all things. The gratitude brings a deeper contentment, and a greater acceptance of problems, health challenges, personality quirks, and my own imperfections. The day is early yet and the sun is not up. I’m looking forward to noticing the good that is always there in others. And Happy Sweetest Day, my friends! 🌷 Read More12 Reply Anna7 months agoAnnaHappy sweetest day to you, Holly! 7 Reply pkr7 months agopkrHappy Sweetest Day to “Holly in Ohio”…..🌷🌸❤️ 7 Reply Michele7 months agoMicheleHappy Sweetest Day to you too Holly. 5 Reply Holly in Ohio7 months agoHolly in Ohiothank you! 🙂 5 Reply Sandra7 months agoSandraHello Holly, I’m happy to ‘meet’ you 😊 Thank you for this insight. Your experiences encourage me along my own path 🙏 6 Reply Holly in Ohio7 months agoHolly in OhioNice to meet you, too, Sandra, and welcome! 6 Reply Antoinette7 months agoAntoinetteI appreciate all beings and all the wonderful things I receive everyday from people I don’t even know personally. In fact, it’s truly amazing how many benefits we receive from people around us that we don’t even know! So grateful for all beings. I only wish I could do more for others. 6 Reply Kevin7 months agoKevinAt 4.10 AM, my day is just beginning. So, I’ll say that as a daily practice for myself, I make it a point to always (try!) to focus on the good and positive in the people that I meet in the course of my day. There’s enough ugliness and evil in the world already without me looking for it. Some forty years ago I was checking on a Quaker meetinghouse in a nearby city at four in the morning. Stepping mindlessly out of my car and walking across the darkened parking lot I accidently walked righ...At 4.10 AM, my day is just beginning. So, I’ll say that as a daily practice for myself, I make it a point to always (try!) to focus on the good and positive in the people that I meet in the course of my day. There’s enough ugliness and evil in the world already without me looking for it. Some forty years ago I was checking on a Quaker meetinghouse in a nearby city at four in the morning. Stepping mindlessly out of my car and walking across the darkened parking lot I accidently walked right into two very large and very drunk men who had obviously been drinking throughout the night. One man, the smaller of the two, gestured to his intoxicated buddy, “Pop him, George! Take’m out!” In a fraction of a second I realized that I was about to be struck by huge drunk guy in a darkened corner behind the meetinghouse. Not sure where this came from, but I stuck out my right hand in a gesture of friendship and said, “Good morning.” The larger man, who was about to punch me, paused, his facial features changing from anger to amusement, softened his arm and fist, and instead of striking me or shaking my hand, he gently fist-bumped the top of my still outstretched hand saying, “Hey!” and began walking away with his drunk buddy in tow. Read More12 Reply Antoinette7 months agoAntoinetteThank you Kevin. Your story helps me reflect on my feeling of insignificance. Perhaps the presence of our awareness and the way we walk in peace counts for something. 8 Reply devy7 months agodevy❤️ 5 Reply Howie Geib7 months agoHowie GeibI am home for a brief stay between trips and was looking for something in a box. As I sometimes do, I found a small container in which I must have thrown a bunch of stuff from a bedside table or my desk before moving some years ago…it was sitting on my desk this morning and after reading this question I was pondering my reflection and looked inside it. It was like a time capsule of minutiae including a crumpled piece of paper with this written on one side of it: “Don’t try to figure this ...I am home for a brief stay between trips and was looking for something in a box. As I sometimes do, I found a small container in which I must have thrown a bunch of stuff from a bedside table or my desk before moving some years ago…it was sitting on my desk this morning and after reading this question I was pondering my reflection and looked inside it. It was like a time capsule of minutiae including a crumpled piece of paper with this written on one side of it: “Don’t try to figure this out. Love’s work is absurd, but trying to find meaning will hide it more. Silence.” And on the other side: “In every moment there’s dying and coming back around” It is my handwriting but the provenance of the quote is unknown to me at the moment. Read More5 Reply Sandra7 months agoSandraWise words, Howie. Thank you for sharing them. Just what I need today 🙏 6 Reply Antoinette7 months agoAntoinetteThanksgiving- thank you for that . It’s exactly how I feel right now- like dying and waking up. 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