Daily Question, January 8 How can you honor the tenderness within you? 46 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. manasicaje1 week agomanasicajeI sometimes feel ashamed of my more gentle attributes. I can honour my tenderness by responding to the world with compassionate authenticity, and with zero self-judgement or shame. 3 Reply Malag1 week agoMalagIn this body there are so many of me: from the child, the teenager, young adult and so on. Sometimes when I am still or caught unawares I get a glimpse of those I once was and I glide onto a tenderness, witnessing a love for this person, particularly if the person was a bit downtrodden by an authoritarian ego in the past. 3 Reply Mica1 week agoMicaMindfully. 2 Reply k'Care-Reena1 week agok'Care-ReenaWith a lot of love and compassion= self care. I am a client turned life coach and can say self care allowed me to accept myself and grow vs hating myself. I have coached my clients to do the same. 4 Reply Don Jones1 week agoDon JonesBy siting with it in silence and stillness. 6 Reply Craig K1 week agoCraig KBy being human. By being vulnerable. By being heart-minded. By caring for others. By caring for yourself. By being gentle to others. By being gentle to yourself. 8 Reply KC1 week agoKCThank you so much for this gentle question, and each thoughtful reflection. I will find an image of tenderness and will do my best to draw the image. I will hold myself in a tender place and way through that process, and do my best to carry that tenderness into my day. By anchoring in tenderness first, perhaps it will create new pathways to return to … 8 Reply TofuLove1 week agoTofuLoveOh Lord, a black woman was attacked yesterday by pro-Trump rally goers while police looked on. How am I supposed to be tender when there is so much injustice? What happened is not OK. Racism is real and people deal with it and struggle against racism, it is still as real today as it was 30 years ago. How can I be tender when I have to fight so hard? I honor the tenderness in me by fighting for everyone who is oppressed, beaten, harmed, scared in the world. Every single day I have to deal with m...Oh Lord, a black woman was attacked yesterday by pro-Trump rally goers while police looked on. How am I supposed to be tender when there is so much injustice? What happened is not OK. Racism is real and people deal with it and struggle against racism, it is still as real today as it was 30 years ago. How can I be tender when I have to fight so hard? I honor the tenderness in me by fighting for everyone who is oppressed, beaten, harmed, scared in the world. Every single day I have to deal with misogyny, racism, classism and everyone wanting to pretend these things aren’t real … on top of working to support my family who lost jobs due to the pandemic. I don’t feel bad for myself, I feel a lot is riding on me and it is a kind of pressure haha. I truly feel man I have to do it all on my own, I see so much injustice and suffering … and it’s like I have no choice but to fight. So how can I honor the tenderness in me except to fight to end all the bad in the world. Read More7 Reply Kevin1 week agoKevinYou speak a hard and honest truth, my friend. And I am sorry that such is the case. I hope that you continue to share here, and reach out here, because there are good people who share on these pages each day. My hope and my prayer for you is this; that through and beyond the darkness you witness, that you also pray, and push and seek a measure of light, no matter how brief, that sustains you, be it in the embrace of another, watching children play, being near a body of water, or finding someone ...You speak a hard and honest truth, my friend. And I am sorry that such is the case. I hope that you continue to share here, and reach out here, because there are good people who share on these pages each day. My hope and my prayer for you is this; that through and beyond the darkness you witness, that you also pray, and push and seek a measure of light, no matter how brief, that sustains you, be it in the embrace of another, watching children play, being near a body of water, or finding someone who can listen and guide you to a more peaceful and gentler place within. As one person, I am holding you in prayer, today. Read More1 Reply Don Jones1 week agoDon JonesFrom the other side of the world, it seems that project America is in the grip of a dark period – and I fear, with the possibility of worse to come. It will be through your strength and dedication that light will shine brightly. Know you are not alone at this time. 5 Reply Holly in Ohio1 week agoHolly in OhioYou have far more allies than you did, even a few weeks ago. Think of Georgia switching to blue. Think of the senate and how many have said enough is enough. More of the "not my problem" people in every day life are seeing that racism and hate is EVERYONE'S problem, that no one is free until we all are free. That a free country means everyone votes and we respect each other's vote and our differences. More people are deeply sickened by the injustices, and are stepping up to create change, and t...You have far more allies than you did, even a few weeks ago. Think of Georgia switching to blue. Think of the senate and how many have said enough is enough. More of the “not my problem” people in every day life are seeing that racism and hate is EVERYONE’S problem, that no one is free until we all are free. That a free country means everyone votes and we respect each other’s vote and our differences. More people are deeply sickened by the injustices, and are stepping up to create change, and they won’t be deterred. There are even former Nazis and former KKK folk working very hard against their former groups (at high risk to their own lives, I might add), educating publicly and helping more people to leave the cult-like racist groups and heal the wounds that took them there in the first place. The ex-haters then actively work to end racism… yes!… Racism is loud now because racists have been manipulated by the greedy few to be angry, because social media has let people indulge in hate and lies and feel justified in their small insular communities, but mostly… the haters are louder and angrier now because they are losing. Hang in there. You have many, many, many allies. Allies may be quiet but we will stand up for you and stand beside you! Remember that currently, there are “enemies” that are changing sides, not by a trickle, but flooding in. Historically, some of the biggest haters recanted, so hold that in mind. You have a right to be angry, but hang on to the knowledge that we are in the midst of growing pains in this nation. You are not alone. Your desire for equality and justice for all is NOT a minority opinion. When it feels like it’s getting to be too much, find your allies, and I will hold your hand (or anyone else), and we’ll move forward together, in peace. Read More7 Reply Melissa1 week agoMelissaBy being grateful so very grateful it is a human characteristic that I cherish in others and myself. 5 Reply pkr1 week agopkrBy acknowledging I need tenderness too. So often, because I am a doer, a caregiver, “the responsible one”, I forget about me. I just keep on charging ahead forgetting about myself. I need to show myself tenderness so I in turn can share it. Happy Friday All ✨✨✨ 7 Reply Lauryn1 week agoLaurynBy letting it shine. Too often I go through my daily life with this hard exterior. I need to allow myself space to be vulnerable— it’s ok to care …. it’s ok if I don’t quite understand how to express that because of my upbringing. There is still time to learn how. 8 Reply Holly in Ohio1 week agoHolly in Ohiosong… “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine…” 🙂 4 Reply Holly in Ohio1 week agoHolly in OhioI am very grateful for the question, reminding me to be tender, and for all of you who show me many ways I can be tender. 5 Reply Sarah1 week agoSarahTaking time, acknowledging boundaries, treating my body with love and respect. 4 Reply MelaD1 week agoMelaDBreathing in and through. Accepting the tenderness as a valid part of me. Practicing kindness and compassion helps too. 6 Reply DeVonna1 week agoDeVonnaFunny how this question relates to a dream I had last night...I dreamt my husband and I had traveled to another state to buy a piece of property. We were very excited about the prospects of buying this land and were examining the house built on it. The thing that struck me about my dream is that my husband was young again in it. We were still grandparents and I was the age I am now, but my husband was a young, strong 20 year old man. When I woke and told my husband about the dream, we laughed, b...Funny how this question relates to a dream I had last night…I dreamt my husband and I had traveled to another state to buy a piece of property. We were very excited about the prospects of buying this land and were examining the house built on it. The thing that struck me about my dream is that my husband was young again in it. We were still grandparents and I was the age I am now, but my husband was a young, strong 20 year old man. When I woke and told my husband about the dream, we laughed, but then I told him, “That’s how my heart sees you, you will always be the young man I fell in love with all those years ago…in my heart.” We honor the tenderness within us by sharing it. Read More10 Reply Michele1 week agoMichelebeautiful! 1 Reply Samuel1 week agoSamuelBy recognizing that it exists. By continuing to practice it regardless of outside pressures from others to the contrary. By expanding its reach to some that I previously might have neglected or even shunned. By understanding that it is an integral component of the love that we are called to offer to all our neighbors in this broken world in which we live… 7 Reply Present Moment1 week agoPresent MomentI seek to remember tenderness is both fragile and strong, depending on intent. As I am a mirror reflecting other mirrors, I honor the tenderness within me by sending tenderness to all manifestations . 8 Reply Patricia1 week agoPatriciaRecognizing and allowing the tenderness to be fully what it is: tender, and longing to be held and treated with gentleness. We do that with an infant or a pet; the tenderness within us longs for that same gentleness. 9 Reply Carol1 week agoCarolI remind myself that I will fight, flee or freeze if I’m not willing to face, feel and heal. I have learned that I do not have to do this alone. There is a part of me that has never been afraid and I can call it forth and let it silence my bully and hold my little child tenderly. Today’s quote speaks of an ancient friend. I can relate. Healing, tenderness, trust comes from within. It is a connection with source. I often use the mantra: “Relax and Release.”I see my job as willingness. 6 Reply Ed Schulte1 week agoEd SchulteThank you for this. I didn’t want to venture into the ancient wisdom on this site and point out all the cultures which used stories / Mythology / to teach that one must respect oneself by holding up a barrier / a shield / appropriate to any external aggression from “bullying” etc etc ( which is in fact a sign of wounds within the aggressor ). Modern Psychology etc etc and new age attitudes have set the ancient wisdom aside BUT it is there ….right THERE…. in the DNA…..So Heracles stil...Thank you for this. I didn’t want to venture into the ancient wisdom on this site and point out all the cultures which used stories / Mythology / to teach that one must respect oneself by holding up a barrier / a shield / appropriate to any external aggression from “bullying” etc etc ( which is in fact a sign of wounds within the aggressor ). Modern Psychology etc etc and new age attitudes have set the ancient wisdom aside BUT it is there ….right THERE…. in the DNA…..So Heracles still has to strangle the Lion of anger….skin it and wear it , head and hide, as a message that ” I will treat all fairly and rationally …but I will raise my vocal defences ( roar ) appropriately when required ….that is Honouring tenderness ( or God-with-in ) as it was taught by the ancient wisdom. And it is staring us in the face now! Read More6 Reply sunnypatti1 week agosunnypattiBy being kind to myself, offering words of support and love. Also by giving that kindness, support, and love to all I encounter. 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