Daily Question, April 25 What experiences in my life have strengthened my capacity to adapt and grow in the face of challenges? 51 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Malag1 year agoMalagI’d say they all do if I have a willingness to let them. It’s mostly how I relate to them than what they are. The magnitude of the challenge can influence the extent of the growth. But again only if I am receptive. It’s probably something like the growth mindset that I’m getting at although I’m not a fan of the term. 4 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaLeaving difficult situations has given me the freedom to adapt and grow. 4 Reply sb1 year agosbIllness, for sure. Knowing that I had to give up or choose to go on and make the best of it. I chose to try to find positives and it has definitely shown me I could be much more adaptable and resilient than I thought, which has helped me in all other aspects by giving me the confidence to face challenges. I accidentally became executive head of three schools (didn't step back quick enough!) and, again, was surprised by my resilience in the face of the toughest situation I had ever lived through....Illness, for sure. Knowing that I had to give up or choose to go on and make the best of it. I chose to try to find positives and it has definitely shown me I could be much more adaptable and resilient than I thought, which has helped me in all other aspects by giving me the confidence to face challenges. I accidentally became executive head of three schools (didn’t step back quick enough!) and, again, was surprised by my resilience in the face of the toughest situation I had ever lived through. In the end I had to resign, leaving with no notice, as the stress nearly led to a nervous breakdown – but I had seen the schools through the worst period and lasted longer than any head in the previous 8 years! So I still feel proud of what I did, despite the way it ended. Through these and other experiences, large and small, I have learnt to go with the flow, remain positive, adapt and make the best of things – and Covid/lockdown has shown how far I have come with this – and, by being adaptable, I have found it so much easier than those who have just lamented what is lost. Obviously I am not perfect and have many examples where I could have done better, but I constantly surprise myself – not just with what I can do, but with what humans can survive – and survive cheerfully! Read More4 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaCongrats, sb 3 Reply Don Jones1 year agoDon JonesWhen I took the decision to renew my life purpose and live simply. The hooks of modern living are many and hold fast. At times (perhaps often) it has been painful and frustrating. But persistence is paying rewards beyond what I imagined. 7 Reply Clare1 year agoClareMy chaotic childhood has prepared me to take things as it comes. I never knew what I would come home to. So anxiety and fear has always been prevalent but so hasn’t resilience. I know that I can face and handle whatever happens. When my beautiful husband of 28 years passed suddenly, I knew I had a responsibility to our employees and their families. So I steeled myself and just put one foot in front of the other and saw the business through til I was able responsibly let it go. I’m your girl...My chaotic childhood has prepared me to take things as it comes. I never knew what I would come home to. So anxiety and fear has always been prevalent but so hasn’t resilience. I know that I can face and handle whatever happens. When my beautiful husband of 28 years passed suddenly, I knew I had a responsibility to our employees and their families. So I steeled myself and just put one foot in front of the other and saw the business through til I was able responsibly let it go. I’m your girl in the midst of emergency it’s the in between that has me anxious about the next shoe to drop. But I’m a work in progress and I’m really trying to embrace just being present and grateful for my incalculable blessings. Read More7 Reply Hot Sauce1 year agoHot SauceMy struggles with anxiety and depression have helped me to develop resilience during difficult times. I’ve learned to see hope for the future where it is difficult and have learned to be appreciative of the good days I have. 6 Reply Antoinette1 year agoAntoinetteDivorce, illness and having to on disability have made me adapt. I appreciate today’s quote because it says the universe wants us to be- be the light and love . Lately letting go of all of the labels I had for self is helping me become free. I’m grateful for all of these challenges because they have brought me where I am today. 6 Reply Maeve1 year agoMaeveAll my many, many residential moves in the Boston area in the past 30 years certainly have strengthened my capacity to adapt to different places for sure! Although this adaptation has made me feel rootless. "Growing in the face of challenges"? I immediately think of my students and young people I have taught over the years. They are the ones who challenge me to grow in a way I can take in and accept much more readily than being challenged by adults. That brings out my resistance! But then I...All my many, many residential moves in the Boston area in the past 30 years certainly have strengthened my capacity to adapt to different places for sure! Although this adaptation has made me feel rootless. “Growing in the face of challenges”? I immediately think of my students and young people I have taught over the years. They are the ones who challenge me to grow in a way I can take in and accept much more readily than being challenged by adults. That brings out my resistance! But then I think of the teachers and staff I work with, especially now during the past year of the pandemic. Their determination, cheerfulness and let’s-get-on-with-it attitude has pulled me along to grow. Not the least in being able to teach little kids via Zoom! Read More7 Reply expati1 year agoexpatiMy mom’s admonition: “If something is not working, try something else.” I try to stay aware and abide by that. My most current challenge is how I express myself about covid. I take a view that is not mainstream and come upon censorship and cancel culture. The best I can do is not take it personally. Often I try to rise to a higher level that is more inclusive. I think covid is a strong spiritual/personal growth stimulus for a lot of us. 6 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaI copied this to my gratefulness doc My mom’s admonition: “If something is not working, try something else.” Thanks, expati wishing you health 3 Reply expati1 year agoexpatiEinstein had a similar expression, something like: “Doing the same thing over and over when it does not work is insanity.” 4 Reply Maeve1 year agoMaeveYes, I think that about the pandemic as well. 5 Reply Pollyanna Gladwell1 year agoPollyanna GladwellAll of them! In the words of the Dalai Lama (although I have also heard it being attributed to Alan Watts) : “When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” I have also read it as: “ If you lose…”, but I think “when” is more realistic as loss is inevitable in many (Most?) aspects of life – but hopefully not financial investments! I’m aware that there may be some who have the Midas Touch and have never made a bad one, but it has not been my experience, so I can’t share on t...All of them! In the words of the Dalai Lama (although I have also heard it being attributed to Alan Watts) : “When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.” I have also read it as: “ If you lose…”, but I think “when” is more realistic as loss is inevitable in many (Most?) aspects of life – but hopefully not financial investments! I’m aware that there may be some who have the Midas Touch and have never made a bad one, but it has not been my experience, so I can’t share on that unfortunately! Loss, and gratitude for loss, builds resilience. And resilience is not a static personal characteristic. It can ebb and flow, and sometimes I require many tools and hard work to re-establish equilibrium. But when it returns, the peace and joy is overwhelming. Having been a regular poster on this site for almost a year, my input dried up for various reasons… spiritual, physical, emotional, and other challenges that rained down and required my attention. But I have nevertheless remained a reader for the inspiration I receive from all the contributors and the reminder to be grateful for all I have been given, all I have lost and all that remains. Thank you all.🙏 Blessings to all. Read More9 Reply Michele1 year agoMicheleWelcome back again:) 1 Reply Pollyanna Gladwell1 year agoPollyanna GladwellThank you, Michele. I really appreciate your message🙏💚 1 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioI love it when you post, Pollyanna. 🙂 3 Reply Pollyanna Gladwell1 year agoPollyanna GladwellThank you Holly and so do I! It feels so good.🙏💚 2 Reply Toni1 year agoToniWell, my coop is less than satisfactory so I reached out to an old friend to help me see what's out there. Now that covid is somewhat under control and I've spent most of my time at home I don't want to adapt to settling for crumbs when I can sit at the table of something new. Covid, isolation, dealing with challenges from the board an property managers have strengthened me to grow and venture out once more into the deep. Change is good. I feel ready. I have support and if it be the will of...Well, my coop is less than satisfactory so I reached out to an old friend to help me see what’s out there. Now that covid is somewhat under control and I’ve spent most of my time at home I don’t want to adapt to settling for crumbs when I can sit at the table of something new. Covid, isolation, dealing with challenges from the board an property managers have strengthened me to grow and venture out once more into the deep. Change is good. I feel ready. I have support and if it be the will of God to move on so be it. I need to be in a healthier environment so I can thrive. More sunlight, more space, near Whole foods a better quality of life etc. I’m just putting it out there and will see what happens. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Read More7 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioI’m glad you gave us an update, Toni, as to what is happening with you. I hope you can find a better living situation. That would be so nice. 2 Reply Toni1 year agoToniThank you Holly, my old friend Brenda is coming to see my place Tues. or Sat. It’s a start! 1 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaGood luck, Toni – I was happy to move into a condo community with 992 units, so a lot can happen without affecting me too much. On the other hand, I did make one costly mistake and am being careful not to repeat that! [saying yes to a little electrical work before getting permission…] 3 Reply Toni1 year agoToniThank you Mica, I too want to go forward learning from past mistakes. I am a little anxious but hopeful that at least I got the ball rolling and will take it step by step. I already started looking for what kind of furniture I want but that puts the cart before the horse so I will keep in step which what I’m doing now and that is getting rid of what I don’t want to take with me. 2 Reply SK1 year agoSKThe experiences that spoke to me that I was needed, could make all the difference; and would have to use all my God given talents, gifts and skills. It would seem that my life experiences have always been about being the "dolphin"- the one that comes along side and does not leave. I have been there for my friends, my parents in their winter years, my brother and sister-in-law in their declining years and health issues; been there for those in loss. I have lived into my name "helper of mankind"...The experiences that spoke to me that I was needed, could make all the difference; and would have to use all my God given talents, gifts and skills. It would seem that my life experiences have always been about being the “dolphin”- the one that comes along side and does not leave. I have been there for my friends, my parents in their winter years, my brother and sister-in-law in their declining years and health issues; been there for those in loss. I have lived into my name “helper of mankind” with grace and ease, never questioning what I was to do in that moment. It’s all eventually been a good thing. I understand where I stand and belong in the unoverse. Read More6 Reply Javier Visionquest1 year agoJavier VisionquestI believe I can live into this metaphor and I’ll quote you here when my witches refer to me as “Dolphin Dean”, as they’re apt to do: The “dolphin”- the one that comes along side and does not leave. 5 Reply Ed Schulte1 year agoEd SchulteEVERY experience, no matter challenging or non-challanging , be it so-called “good or bad” contributes to the “BE” in “Word of the Day” In the bigger scheme of things the universe is not asking us to do something, the universe is asking us to BE something. And that’s a whole different thing. LUCILLE CLIFTON 9 Reply Carol1 year agoCarolIt’s when I can say “I am” and need no predicate adjective or a noun to describe myself that I grow. In his book, “A Path With Heart,” Jack Kornfield suggests asking oneself, “What do I know for sure, anyway?” Ramm Dass said, “BE here Now..” Richard Rohr says, “God is Being.” I have no need to BE something but I definitely strive to BE. 7 Reply Ed Schulte1 year agoEd Schulte“I AM that I AM” said Joshua Emmanuel ( “first person singular, present tense” just to name drop Tolle here ) And he meant that as EVERY human being …..His words as quoted BUT BADLY distorted by religious authorities … “why has thou forsake me” was , when correctly interpreted in Aramaic, “Why hast thou forsaken me IN THEM” …. “the omission of two words ( with all “good” intentions of course 🙁 ) has successfully delayed the return to “BE” for 2000 years ...“I AM that I AM” said Joshua Emmanuel ( “first person singular, present tense” just to name drop Tolle here ) And he meant that as EVERY human being …..His words as quoted BUT BADLY distorted by religious authorities … “why has thou forsake me” was , when correctly interpreted in Aramaic, “Why hast thou forsaken me IN THEM” …. “the omission of two words ( with all “good” intentions of course 🙁 ) has successfully delayed the return to “BE” for 2000 years and continues until the truth of BE is “lived” Be Well Be PresentEdS Read More9 Reply Carol1 year agoCarolEd, Thought you and others might enjoy reading this translation of the Lord's Prayer: Translation of the Lord’s Prayer from Aramaic by Neil Douglas-Klotz Abwoon d’bwashmaya O Birther! Father-Mother of the Cosmos/ you create all that moves in light. Nethqadash shmakh Focus your light within us–make it useful: as the rays of a beacon show the way. Teytey malkuthakh Create your reign of unity now–through our firey hearts and willing hands. Nehwey sebyanach aykanna d’bw...Ed, Thought you and others might enjoy reading this translation of the Lord’s Prayer: Translation of the Lord’s Prayer from Aramaic by Neil Douglas-Klotz Abwoon d’bwashmaya O Birther! Father-Mother of the Cosmos/ you create all that moves in light. Nethqadash shmakh Focus your light within us–make it useful: as the rays of a beacon show the way. Teytey malkuthakh Create your reign of unity now–through our firey hearts and willing hands. Nehwey sebyanach aykanna d’bwashmaya aph b’arha. Your one desire then acts with ours, as in all light, so in all forms. Habwlan lachma d’sunqanan yaomana. Grant what we need each day in bread and insight: subsistence for the call of growing life. Washboqlan khaubayn (wakhtahayn) aykana daph khnan shbwoqan l’khayyabayn. Loose the cords of mistakes binding us, as we release the strands we hold of others’ guilt. Wela tahlan l’nesyuna Don’t let us enter forgetfulness Ela patzan min bisha. But free us from unripeness Metol dilakhie malkutha wahayla wateshbukhta l’ahlam almin. From you is born all ruling will, the power and the life to do, the song that beautifies all, from age to age it renews. Ameyn. Truly–power to these statements– may they be the source from which all my actions grow. Read More5 Reply Ed Schulte1 year agoEd SchulteYes and Thanks for sharing. Because of the pandemic it has allowed I and fellow Essenes around the world to explore such translations such as this...many from the Nag Hamaddi library....Gospel of Thomas for example ......so key points of importance " "O Birther! Father-Mother of the Cosmos......clearly recognizes the Logos and Holy Spirit as on equal as origin ( iow no big gray haired judgmental father as in the Judea -christian tradition ) "you create all that moves in light."......y...Yes and Thanks for sharing. Because of the pandemic it has allowed I and fellow Essenes around the world to explore such translations such as this…many from the Nag Hamaddi library….Gospel of Thomas for example ……so key points of importance ” “O Birther! Father-Mother of the Cosmos……clearly recognizes the Logos and Holy Spirit as on equal as origin ( iow no big gray haired judgmental father as in the Judea -christian tradition ) “you create all that moves in light.”……yes “light” therefore “sound” …this somehow got reduced to “name” …but how can the inflate BE-ing-ness be confined to a name? again …simplification with good intentions but…. “Focus your light within us”……this is a new take but I don’t disagree ….it was expressed also ……”manifesting yourself in yourself ……so this fits very well “‘through our firey hearts and willing hand”……yes this resonates beautifully with Essene exercises which use this principles implied in these words …..key here is Visualization ….NOT just the repeating of “words” by route “as in all light, so in all forms.”….again solidly stays with “light” as the key vehicle of “mind-light” as the conveyor creating all forms …all that is in manifested Universe “in bread and insight” ….this is a gem of the kicker when it comes to FINALLY convincing the “prison guards” that the “bread” does not refer to the one you can buy at any bakery! …”Bread” is Mind-Vitality – Light which relates directly to “insight”by way of the already brought in (above) petition “Focus your light within us”. I could go on and on…..and it probably obvious now that I have strong opinions about my disposed of relationship with the Roman Catholic teaching of my youth ( no disrespect to Br Dave intended ) But, with the intension of pointing to the various aspect implied in this translation and connecting it to the importance of “Visualization” in any prayer action ( not just the reciting words) …below is a typical exercise Essenes do……one a week is enough Start: Create in your etheric hands, from the etheric vitality in the air. a large white candle. Feel how each finger grasps a different part of the candle. With kinetic ether move your etheric hand along the candle. Note how it feels in your hands: its cool waxiness and solidity. In your heart there burns a fire, an everlasting fire of love, kindness and compassion. Light the candle with this fire from your heart. Study the flame. Do you notice that around the base of the burning wick it is a little darker? Around and above this darker patch the flame is brighter, starting as orange and turning golden-yellow as it crowns. If you are envious, anxious or angry the flame will sputter and flare. Calm it by relaxing your thoughts and emotions. Pass each desire, thought and emotion [feelings of being offended] through the flame and clean your heart and mind: First see all your mis-guided thoughts, prejudices and judgments stream from your head and pass through the flame. Next allow any bitterness, envy and poisonous dissatisfaction to leave your heart and be purified by the flame. And finally release into the flame all the anger and hatred which has been stored in your solar plexus.(see page D156?) These elementals, such a burden on your consciousness, will either be dis-energized by the fire and sent to the cosmic consciousness. Or, be cleansed and returned to you. Your present -day personality has been purified by the fame. See the flame steady, tall and straight. It is VERY still now. The light is clear and the colour bright. When the flame is perfectly still, and you feel centered and cleansed. thank the Logos. Return the flame to your heart and slowly dissolve the candle. This cleansing exercise should be practiced once a week, preferably on Sundays, to burn off all petty thoughts and emotions. Read More6 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioI don't feel like going into a list of negative childhood experiences today, but I do clearly remember a day when (still a child) I realized that two paths were being offered to me, not in the world, for I had at the time no power to change that, but in my head, and the choice would dictate what kind of life followed. I could either stick with blame, feeling sorry for myself, and anger, or, I could accept responsibility for myself and my choices, and consciously CHOOSE positive thoughts, actio...I don’t feel like going into a list of negative childhood experiences today, but I do clearly remember a day when (still a child) I realized that two paths were being offered to me, not in the world, for I had at the time no power to change that, but in my head, and the choice would dictate what kind of life followed. I could either stick with blame, feeling sorry for myself, and anger, or, I could accept responsibility for myself and my choices, and consciously CHOOSE positive thoughts, actions, and real (not false) love. I shudder to think what life might have been like, had I chosen the other path. On occasion I meet people who took the other path or perhaps never realized they had a choice, and they seem very mired in their habits. It is remarkable what the power of decision has, even when the circumstances and facts remain the same. Decision is like a tiller on a boat, the reins on a horse, or the steering wheel on a car. Following that first decision I turned to music, art, reading, learning, writing, friendships. The positive experiences of these things helped me to balance my life. I was able in my youth to avoid choosing unhealthy relationships, because the choices I made of who I was gave me a value system, and I valued myself. I would say it was less the experiences in my life, and more the decisions made in how to interpret and give meaning to those experiences, that helped me to adapt and grow. I CHOSE not to be helpless, not to think myself helpless, even at a point in my life where there was almost nothing I could control about my circumstances. We don’t control the sea, but we do control the tiller. Read More9 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaWow, you were a wise child, Holly in Ohio! 3 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioOh my gosh. Thank you. 3 Reply k'Care-Reena1 year agok'Care-ReenaWHAT EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE HAVE STRENGTHENED YOUR CAPACITY TO ADAPT AND GROW IN THE FACE OF CHALLENGES? I was afraid to catch a panic attack and feel anxious. With all that tension and attention I put into NOT CATCHING AN ATTACK I focused more and more on it to the point thinking of avoiding it will begin an attack. I comprehend that our brain is one of the MOST POWERFUL TOOLS and the more focus I put into it the more anxious I became. I noticed my environment at the time was a big TRIGGER &...WHAT EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE HAVE STRENGTHENED YOUR CAPACITY TO ADAPT AND GROW IN THE FACE OF CHALLENGES? I was afraid to catch a panic attack and feel anxious. With all that tension and attention I put into NOT CATCHING AN ATTACK I focused more and more on it to the point thinking of avoiding it will begin an attack. I comprehend that our brain is one of the MOST POWERFUL TOOLS and the more focus I put into it the more anxious I became. I noticed my environment at the time was a big TRIGGER & increased the stress I put on myself SO….I LEFT. Now I am proud to say I have had panic attacks on my own and have been able to pinpoint what gets my nerves going…my stomach issues. I have Gastritis & IBS which cause extreme discomfort and pain, this pain develops into anxiety for me. I have SUCCESSFUL managed a panic attack without having to fully remove myself from the situation. I KNOW NOW LIFE IS ABOUT LIVING it is not about the DO’S and DON’TS of life. We make mistakes and keep going, life isn’t about having all the money but having the experience and support to keep going while being your BEST SELF. Read More6 Reply Michele1 year agoMicheleMy divorce and the ending of my last relationship made me adapt and grow in the face of challenges that were extremely difficult. Also, quitting my last job before I found another one – ended up being the right decision for me. 6 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaCongrats, Michele – I’m glad you fared well in quitting your job. Divorce can be a great liberator, can’t it? 3 Reply Michele1 year agoMicheleIt was so liberating I switched teams! lol 2 Reply DeVonna1 year agoDeVonnaSo many… I guess my many moves as a child would be chief among them. When you move every year you are always thrust into the role of “new kid”. I had to be able to talk to strangers and adjust to always being the outsider. It was hard as I went through it but it taught me to think on my feet. 7 Reply Beth Mary1 year agoBeth MaryThis pandemic and the shut-down has strengthened my capacity to adapt, as we have all had to adapt. Although I am often isolated at home but I know we are all on this journey, so this doesn’t make me feel alone. I have turned inwards for inner strength and have developed a deeper and more profound faith. I am also going through a very difficult family situation. I have become stronger as I go through this challenge on my spiritual journey, this has deepened my spiritual life and compassion. 12 Reply devy1 year agodevyI've experienced many challenges throughout my life that have psychologically affected me. anxiety and depression have been part of my life due to my experiences. I am finally learning to look at those experiences, admit how I really feel about them and learn how to use tools to confront and deal with them. I am learning the life is made of good and bad experiences and that they both bring life lessons and growth. I still struggle at times with my anxiety and depression, but at least I am makin...I’ve experienced many challenges throughout my life that have psychologically affected me. anxiety and depression have been part of my life due to my experiences. I am finally learning to look at those experiences, admit how I really feel about them and learn how to use tools to confront and deal with them. I am learning the life is made of good and bad experiences and that they both bring life lessons and growth. I still struggle at times with my anxiety and depression, but at least I am making progress. Perhaps , as with alcoholism ( something that I’ve overcome), they be a lifelong part of my life. I try to look at trying to welcome each day as a new beginning, a new start in my life journey. Read More6 Reply Holly in Ohio1 year agoHolly in OhioYou are most definitely undergoing positive transformation! I’ve only known you a short while, under quite limited exposure, and I can see remarkable “progress.” It’s quite a testimony to the person you are. 🙂 4 Reply Pilgrim1 year agoPilgrimProgress … such a wonderful and affirming word/experience! 6 Reply Howie Geib1 year agoHowie GeibLoss. Whether voluntary, making choices that meant giving up something(s) or a change in circumstance that removed them. Loved ones, homes, friends, careers, physical abilities, many things I cared for and valued. The losses were hard to bear, and sometimes devastating consequences followed. And yet, the point was to accept the loss. The core theme of it all has been the art of relinquishment. To the extent I have been able to develop the ability to turn it over has provided a return. A strength...Loss. Whether voluntary, making choices that meant giving up something(s) or a change in circumstance that removed them. Loved ones, homes, friends, careers, physical abilities, many things I cared for and valued. The losses were hard to bear, and sometimes devastating consequences followed. And yet, the point was to accept the loss. The core theme of it all has been the art of relinquishment. To the extent I have been able to develop the ability to turn it over has provided a return. A strengthening. What has been brought to bear is faith. Read More9 Reply Ose1 year agoOseThank you very much, dear Howie. You brought into words what has been one of the most difficult and painful challenges I had to face and to integrate, too. Not to lose faith has been supported a lot here by all our dear friends and being in this all together is deeply and gratefully appreciated. Thanks again, dear friend, for your precious contributions. 5 Reply 1 2 Next » My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. 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