Daily Question, November 18 When conflict appears in my life, how can I respond productively? 25 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. mikasa1 year agomikasaWhen conflict appears, I need to take time to think about the conflict and its facts. Assess the magnitude and its possible solutions. Focusing on plan of action definitely helps. Speaking to someone about it has helped in the past too. Recently for me though, it has been evaluating my previous response to the conflict and really asking myself if it was the most effective way of responding to the conflict. I think I need a specific detailed plan for what to do when such a conflict arises. 1 Reply Renee1 year agoReneeIn February last year, I was diagnosed of PARKINSON DISEASE. I started out taking only Azilect, then Mirapex and sinemet as the disease progressed but didn’t help much. In July, I started on PARKINSON DISEASE TREATMENT PROTOCOL from Herbal Health Point (ww w. herbalhealthpoint. c om). One month into the treatment, I made a significant recovery. After I completed the recommended treatment, almost all my symptoms were gone, wonderful improvement with my movement and tremors . 2 Reply Laura May1 year agoLaura MayAssess the conflict and try to devise a plan of action to lessen the conflict and resolve some of the smaller issues alongside it. Staying calm, and level-headed throughout. 1 Reply Laura May1 year agoLaura MayI often respond to negative moments emotionally, before my head catches up with my heart and allows me to respond logically. Logical thinking here is more important! 2 Reply Drew Blanton1 year agoDrew BlantonJust breathe and know it’ll be okay. 1 Reply Michit1 year agoMichitBy looking inward. If I perceive that there is conflict happening in my life, I need to respond by looking inward. Question the thoughts that are causing the pain and conflict in my mind – because that is where conflict starts ; but it is also the key to ending conflict. You. You are the key. Your mind. Inducing a relationship with my mind so that there is never conflict between what I perceive to be conflict, and what I know to be true. <3 2 Reply Hot Sauce1 year agoHot SauceConflict is a normal part of life. It isn't even bad; conflict produces what we have and is part of the natural order of things. The key is to negotiate with love, to disagree kindly, to debate with humanity, and to seek to come to an agreement or a compromise that satisfies all parties involved. In cases where an agreement cannot be reached because of a serious ethical issue, I feel we are called to speak out against injustice and mobilizes others with the cause, but even then, we should rememb...Conflict is a normal part of life. It isn’t even bad; conflict produces what we have and is part of the natural order of things. The key is to negotiate with love, to disagree kindly, to debate with humanity, and to seek to come to an agreement or a compromise that satisfies all parties involved. In cases where an agreement cannot be reached because of a serious ethical issue, I feel we are called to speak out against injustice and mobilizes others with the cause, but even then, we should remember that the people we see as making an immoral decision are also human beings with inherent worth and dignity. Read More4 Reply Elizabeth M Jones1 year agoElizabeth M JonesTo respond with love. Love is like water and water quenches a fire. 3 Reply GCharlotte1 year agoGCharlotteWhen conflict appears in my life I can resort to God and not blame or find fault in others but try to instead manage with my family and community. I can also be grateful for what I have already. I may be thankful. 2 Reply Kat1 year agoKatTune into my body, and use a tool to remember that this person is whole and complete, they’re contributing to me, they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, they have goals and dreams and a desire to make a difference, they have all their own answers. 1 Reply Michele1 year agoMicheleLearning to reflect before responding. 2 Reply Mica1 year agoMicaI can read “Coming to Wholeness: How to Awaken and Live with Ease (The Wholeness Work Book 1)” by Connirae Andreas – this book has totally changed a couple of my relationships for the much much better! 1 Reply Linda1 year agoLindaI agree with Antoinette. My first impulse is to react, one that almost always turns out badly. Stop, breathe and think before I act–that is essential for me. (And I also agree that not everything is about me!!) 2 Reply Antoinette1 year agoAntoinetteI can respond productively by not reacting. Not everything is about me and by knowing this I can let go of personal judgment. At the same time I can own up to whatever my responsibilities are. Not being defensive and wanting to always be right makes conflict worse. Compassion and kindness is productive. 3 Reply Ann1 year agoAnnIf something appears AS IF it IS a conflict, I now (didn't used to) know that FIRST I need to pause, take a breath (or 2 or 3 or more), possibly respectfully withdraw from the situation (bathrooms are good for that), and check in with myself to see if there is a "story" being triggered. If there is a "story," then I will compassionately acknowledge it to myself, and lovingly let it go. Then, as I am clear about the situation, and access whether or not there is something to respond to that would ...If something appears AS IF it IS a conflict, I now (didn’t used to) know that FIRST I need to pause, take a breath (or 2 or 3 or more), possibly respectfully withdraw from the situation (bathrooms are good for that), and check in with myself to see if there is a “story” being triggered. If there is a “story,” then I will compassionately acknowledge it to myself, and lovingly let it go. Then, as I am clear about the situation, and access whether or not there is something to respond to that would be helpful, I may take action as needed, or just respectfully walk away. Read More4 Reply Tom Denham1 year agoTom DenhamWhen I am in a great place, I don't really feel conflict. When I am not in such a great place, I often feel disrespected or ignored. So when conflict appears in my life, it is important for me to look at the fact that I am not in a great place personally. And when I feel disrespected and ignored, it is important for me to own that those are my feelings and they are not necessarily an accurate interpretation of the reality I am facing. I supply interpretations out of my history that are not relev...When I am in a great place, I don’t really feel conflict. When I am not in such a great place, I often feel disrespected or ignored. So when conflict appears in my life, it is important for me to look at the fact that I am not in a great place personally. And when I feel disrespected and ignored, it is important for me to own that those are my feelings and they are not necessarily an accurate interpretation of the reality I am facing. I supply interpretations out of my history that are not relevant to the present. All of this requires slowing my response and looking at myself. Read More9 Reply Ann1 year agoAnnThanks, Tom. Well said! 2 Reply Carla1 year agoCarlaI’ve learned to pause & ask Sophia for guidance prior to verbally responding. Sometimes there’s positive action(s) I can take to mitigate the issue. 2 Reply Mark Piper1 year agoMark PiperIts' too bad that the poet Malcolm Guite has labeled St. Peter the, "impulsive master of misunderstanding," because that's a good descriptor of myself (and a clever way to explain Simon Peter). I react, usually verbally, instantaneously. Beyond pausing and holding unto my thoughts/comments for awhile, if I do speak I think asking the question -- calmly -- "can you help me understand ____?" would be productive. It could be, could you help me understand why you're so upset, why this is so impo...Its’ too bad that the poet Malcolm Guite has labeled St. Peter the, “impulsive master of misunderstanding,” because that’s a good descriptor of myself (and a clever way to explain Simon Peter). I react, usually verbally, instantaneously. Beyond pausing and holding unto my thoughts/comments for awhile, if I do speak I think asking the question — calmly — “can you help me understand ____?” would be productive. It could be, could you help me understand why you’re so upset, why this is so important, why you are telling me, et cetera. Read More6 Reply Kahea1 year agoKaheaTake a deep breath before speaking. So there’s no regrets 🙂 6 Reply Present Moment1 year agoPresent MomentPause. Examine my emotional attachment to outcome. There are many times when the most productive response is none. 4 Reply reality1 year agorealityWhen conflict doesn’t appear in one’s life, is it possible to respond as productively? 2 Reply 1 2 Next » My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. 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