Daily Question, February 26 Can you take a moment to imagine that a “really hard day” for you, might actually feel like a good day to others? How might this be true? 54 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Notify me when someone replies to my comment via e-mail. Javier Visionquest1 month agoJavier Visionquest“I hate my job!”, cried toothbrush “Bitch, please. . .”, replied toilet paper 3 Reply Kristi1 month agoKristiLately this could definitely be true! My bad days are typically little nuances. I’m lucky to have a loving family, house to live in and food to eat. So many people would be extremely thankful for just the basics. This question really does remind me how blessed I am! 2 Reply devy1 month agodevyI can sometimes think that I’m having a difficult day full of worries, what I can’t do or have but then all I have to do is put myself in the thoughts of others whether here or in other countries look at at their situations and realize how lucky and fortunate I am. I remember our trip to the backhill villages of Morocco. The people live in cave buildings, have no running water, just got electricity, still till the land and raise animals as their forefathers did. They are living in poverty bu...I can sometimes think that I’m having a difficult day full of worries, what I can’t do or have but then all I have to do is put myself in the thoughts of others whether here or in other countries look at at their situations and realize how lucky and fortunate I am. I remember our trip to the backhill villages of Morocco. The people live in cave buildings, have no running water, just got electricity, still till the land and raise animals as their forefathers did. They are living in poverty but I noticed how happy they were, how they were all smiling and appreciative of what they have. I have friends of mine who are going through difficult financial or personal health problems but I am still financially ok and have my health. I have running water, have the ability to get groceries and live comfortably. My life is far from being difficult even though the social isolation and financial side is a little tight. I am grateful for myself and try to reach out to others and help others who are going through difficulties. Read More2 Reply Malag1 month agoMalagI am fortunate to have basic needs met, and some. A good day for so many is finding enough water, food and shelter. It is easy for me to take all that for granted particularly where my hard day ignores all of that and focuses solely on what went wrong. A wider perspective is a beautiful thing. There’s another leg to this question though. If you put two people of similar backgrounds through the same experience they could have totally different feelings about how it went. Perspective again! 2 Reply Don Jones1 month agoDon JonesThis is an important practice in my view. It seems to me the whole cosmos is in perfect balance, yet my wee problem all of a sudden becomes bigger than the perfection of all creation. Go figure. 6 Reply Holly in Ohio1 month agoHolly in OhioI had a friend named Dave. He was in his late 70's and 80's at the time I knew him. I would watch him sometimes when he would talk with young children. He would listen so carefully to them. Any little problem they expressed he would listen to intently, whether a stem on a flower they had was broken, or anything. But this was marvelous when you know that Dave had been a prisoner of war at Stalag 17, and had seen and suffered many horrors. That he still would often wake up screaming. But he ...I had a friend named Dave. He was in his late 70’s and 80’s at the time I knew him. I would watch him sometimes when he would talk with young children. He would listen so carefully to them. Any little problem they expressed he would listen to intently, whether a stem on a flower they had was broken, or anything. But this was marvelous when you know that Dave had been a prisoner of war at Stalag 17, and had seen and suffered many horrors. That he still would often wake up screaming. But he set that aside. Each day was about the present day. He wasn’t a meditator or a philosopher, yet somehow he “got it.” It touched my heart that Dave understood the relativity of woes, and that he genuinely just cared about people. He never discounted someone’s problems because they were too small. Never told anyone to “get over it.” Never looked away, either, but instead listened like that moment and that person speaking was the most important thing in the world. Thank you for reminding me. Read More8 Reply Trish1 month agoTrishWhat a beautiful story to share, Holly💜 3 Reply sunnypatti1 month agosunnypattiThank you for sharing that, Holly. 3 Reply expati1 month agoexpatiIn general, as things seem to get more and more difficult for most people, life for me gets better. Sometimes I feel guilty about this, but mostly, I am grateful that at 77 years old, I still feel young, healthy, and curious about life. 6 Reply sunnypatti1 month agosunnypattiYes! One of my mantras is “my life keeps getting better.” I still deal with disappointments and not-so-fun situations, but overall, it really does keep getting better. I love it! 3 Reply Dusty Su1 month agoDusty SuI worked for ten years in the third worst prison in the world, which housed up to 8,000 inmates with minimum sentences of 33 years. I often used to say when stuck, struggling, screaming at some of my truly terrible situations, they’d be glad for this opportunity of problem solving in such a setting. I’ll suck it up and do it bravely for them. 7 Reply expati1 month agoexpatiHow does one measure which prison is worst? 3 Reply Dusty Su1 month agoDusty SuSentencing, lack of legal representation, over crowding, healthcare facilities, disease, brutality, corruption, forced free labor….for starters…there’s more, much more…but you probably get an idea. 3 Reply Don Jones1 month agoDon JonesThe one we sit in. 4 Reply Dusty Su1 month agoDusty SuThat is true, but there are actual human rights measures for actual prisons for actual people stuck in them. Of course, suffering can be subjective, but the measuring stick for what can break a person was very loaded within the developing countrys’ prisons I worked in, some supposedly less worse than the one mentioned above, yet incredibly brutal in other ways. I have also been privy to information about some first world prisons, which you would think would be better, but come with their own s...That is true, but there are actual human rights measures for actual prisons for actual people stuck in them. Of course, suffering can be subjective, but the measuring stick for what can break a person was very loaded within the developing countrys’ prisons I worked in, some supposedly less worse than the one mentioned above, yet incredibly brutal in other ways. I have also been privy to information about some first world prisons, which you would think would be better, but come with their own set of what we’d all call a long visit to hell. Very often these people should not have been incarcerated, or were given inhumanely long sentencing in unbearable circumstances. A part of the PTSD I experience is from the years working with other’s extreme suffering, from victim, perp, to the law enforcers within the “legal” system. Read More3 Reply Ed Schulte1 month agoEd SchulteThese are the words I would post on the entry doors of every prison. “THE PRISON GUARDS BECOME THE PRISONERS….EVERY TIME” I do not advocate for abolishing prisons BUT to those who turn them into systems to please their sadistic desire ……be aware! They will come back to you seven times over. 3 Reply Don Jones1 month agoDon JonesThe ability of some humans to inflict epic suffering on fellow humans both directly and indirectly (by designing and implementing systems) is shameful. I sometimes muse to myself that alien life probably stops by and watches for a while and says, “no, I think we will pass this one by”. 3 Reply Ed Schulte1 month agoEd SchulteWe are all here to get our lessons in life and progress to higher planes of existence. “One persons Shell Hell is another persons Shell Heaven”. FEELING is relative notion and must be respected as private unless requested otherwise. i am not going to “imagine” what another person is “really hard day”-ing but I will emanate a “Blessing” ( sphere of Rosie red light ) or two , and if their BE-ing-ness detects that Blessing ..then perhaps they will open to more light. Their own internal light 6 Reply Linda1 month agoLindaI never take for granted my good fortune to have all the things people have mentioned. 5 Reply John Tamminga1 month agoJohn TammingaReminds me of the following quote by Helen Keller, “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” Not often enough do I think about the kindness of so many people who’s shoulders I now stand on. 9 Reply Lauryn1 month agoLaurynA hard day for me might be my boss giving me a hard time for not getting cases filed fast enough. But he does that while I’m sitting at home, safe from Covid, with plenty of food to eat, no money stress, in good health, with a roof over my head. Everyone’s perspective is different. It’s an easy question to answer, though difficult to keep in mind always in the moment— we get caught up in our emotions. 7 Reply sb1 month agosbI quite agree – you have taken the words from my mouth! 3 Reply LeanIn1 month agoLeanInWith so much pain in this world, it seems obvious that I am privileged to live the way I do. I try to reach out with kindness to others because I don’t know what their day, or their life, has been like. But on the flip side, our feelings are real. If we are having a “really hard day”, we can still acknowledge it without needing to feel guilty all the time. I think that gratitude practice continues to help me live in the present moment. 10 Reply Holly in Ohio1 month agoHolly in OhioI’m glad you said that, Leanin. 2 Reply sb1 month agosbI couldn’t have put it better myself. Now I don’t need to write my own comment!!! You have perfectly written what I would have done! 3 Reply Craig K1 month agoCraig KLeanIn, I like what you said about feelings 3 Reply sparrow1 month agosparrowI think about this all of the time . . . I wake up every day feeling safe. I have food at the ready in my refrigerator. I have a clean toilet that flushes. I have a toothbrush, toothpaste, and soap. I have the ability to take care of myself. I have clean clothes. I have a table to sit down at, and chairs. I have a home that shelters me from the weather. I have garden space where I can work. I have books to read, television to watch, and internet to teach and entertain me. I have fre...I think about this all of the time . . . I wake up every day feeling safe. I have food at the ready in my refrigerator. I have a clean toilet that flushes. I have a toothbrush, toothpaste, and soap. I have the ability to take care of myself. I have clean clothes. I have a table to sit down at, and chairs. I have a home that shelters me from the weather. I have garden space where I can work. I have books to read, television to watch, and internet to teach and entertain me. I have freedom of choice. I have spare time. I have a car to take me just about anywhere. I can afford to pay my doctor. I have the luxury of cats and a man who loves me. I have paper to paint on and write on. I have light in the darkness at night. I have clean, warm sheets to sleep on, and body contact with those I love. I am grateful for all of it. I have no business complaining about anything . . . my small misfortunes are nothing to what most of the world suffers. Read More10 Reply Palm1 month agoPalmHow beautiful, Sparrow. Thank you <3 2 Reply Mike S1 month agoMike SWhatever anxiety or depression I might feel from time to time does not compare with what my older brother is going through with dementia nor a nephew of my wife call due to diabetes last two legs. 6 Reply Vincent-Edward Ciliberti1 month agoVincent-Edward CilibertiIndeed, a really hard work on my side might satisfy others vying for updates/replies/ and what the other person might have been expecting., thus actually feeling like a good day to them. 3 Reply k'Care-Reena1 month agok'Care-ReenaI have a Book club meet once a week and one of the attendees was extremely emotional and experiencing self doubt. She was pointing out all of the bad and belittling her achievements. She was doing this with a baby in her arms. I am unsure if I will be able to carry my own children and seeing her holding the baby made me feel relaxed. Yes she is stressed out and emotionally however she is caring for life. She is a mother a nurture and for someone who has Fibroids seeing woman with children brings...I have a Book club meet once a week and one of the attendees was extremely emotional and experiencing self doubt. She was pointing out all of the bad and belittling her achievements. She was doing this with a baby in her arms. I am unsure if I will be able to carry my own children and seeing her holding the baby made me feel relaxed. Yes she is stressed out and emotionally however she is caring for life. She is a mother a nurture and for someone who has Fibroids seeing woman with children brings me joy and happiness. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You will always see light regardless of the room size in the dark the light overshines it. This means to me that there is always 2 sides the good and the bad. This is life ones man treasurer is another mans garbage or something like that hhahah. Read More5 Reply Journey1 month agoJourneyI think about this all the time. From migrant workers who trek long distances daily to find work to put food in their mouths, to refugees, to people who’ve lost their jobs in this pandemic and people who have lost loved ones in this pandemic. Every time I go to the doctor or hospital for a minor test, I think of all the people in the hospital who are fighting terminal diseases and literally fighting for their lives and how scared their families must be. I think of people in depression or addic...I think about this all the time. From migrant workers who trek long distances daily to find work to put food in their mouths, to refugees, to people who’ve lost their jobs in this pandemic and people who have lost loved ones in this pandemic. Every time I go to the doctor or hospital for a minor test, I think of all the people in the hospital who are fighting terminal diseases and literally fighting for their lives and how scared their families must be. I think of people in depression or addiction and how hard each and every day must be for them and their families. I think of people who don’t have good relationships with their spouses or children and how hurt and vulnerable they must be. A random hard day for me brought on my work issues (so grateful I have a job) must seem like a most blissful day to someone struggling. A quote from Helen Keller “I cried because I had no shoes until I saw a man who had no feet”. Read More13 Reply Patricia1 month agoPatriciaI knew a woman (now long deceased, who had actually been taken as a POW by the Japanese when she was a missionary in the Philippines at the start of WWII) who once told me, "When seeing someone in need , we don't think 'There but for the grace of God, go I. ' No. Our instinct is to think 'There FOR the grace of God, go I....' Our hearts and minds are always one in compassion and identification with those in the most dire of circumstances, and not focused on our own 'good' fortune... " I...I knew a woman (now long deceased, who had actually been taken as a POW by the Japanese when she was a missionary in the Philippines at the start of WWII) who once told me, “When seeing someone in need , we don’t think ‘There but for the grace of God, go I. ‘ No. Our instinct is to think ‘There FOR the grace of God, go I….’ Our hearts and minds are always one in compassion and identification with those in the most dire of circumstances, and not focused on our own ‘good’ fortune… ” I’ve always remembered that she told me that, and opened my eyes (and heart). Read More7 Reply Carol1 month agoCarolAs a much younger person I had a hard time understanding why others did not see things the same way I did. After all, I thought, I only want what is best! It took a long time and a lot of living for me to understand that what I thought was best was not necessarily what they thought was best. Not sure this answers the question but it’s what came to mind. 5 Reply Holly in Ohio1 month agoHolly in OhioI do think about this. I particularly think about refugees. There are over 70 million refugees on this planet right now. More than 26 million of those are under the age of 18. Most live in makeshift settlements, some are able to get to cities. About 2.6 million of them live in camps, where they are basically... prisoners. No work, no shops, no schools for their children, very poor sanitation, next to no medical care, overcrowded, living in tents in bitter cold and excessive heat, and the like...I do think about this. I particularly think about refugees. There are over 70 million refugees on this planet right now. More than 26 million of those are under the age of 18. Most live in makeshift settlements, some are able to get to cities. About 2.6 million of them live in camps, where they are basically… prisoners. No work, no shops, no schools for their children, very poor sanitation, next to no medical care, overcrowded, living in tents in bitter cold and excessive heat, and the likelihood they will spend years there. Many have already escaped violence, lost loved ones, some have been tortured or maimed. Please understand that Climate Change is like a macabre game of musical chairs. Just because we are sitting, doesn’t mean that there aren’t progressively fewer chairs. The destruction and desertification of parts of the planet have real consequences. We tend to blame violence for creating refugees and there is that… but the violence usually stems from shortages, and the shortages are driven largely by a hurting planet. Corruption is born out of trying to grab what little resource there are. People need futures. Each of us is able to do something to help the crisis, and it doesn’t have to cost us personally. You can conserve resources, purchase local food, waste little, drive less, walk more, eat less meat and processed food, have just a bit fewer clothes that we care for longer, spoil less food in our fridge… all of these things would be good for us, and good for all of us. Our consumption created most of this situation. Shifting our consumption can help the planet mend. I feel very blessed. It is random how/where I was born. I drew a lucky card. If you are reading this online, so did you. We are of the 20% most wealthy on the planet. Read More9 Reply 1 2 Next » My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. 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