Daily Question, April 15 Can I open my heart to someone to whom I have had it closed? How can I let them know? 27 Reflections Share Click here to cancel reply.Please log in or Create a Profile to post a comment. Jeana2 months agoJeanaSome of the people I deal with have serious mental health issues. I don’t close my heart to them, but there are occasions when we have misunderstandings and it takes heroic efforts to repair “normal” communication. People can easily slip into distorted thinking based on fear. Fear will close one’s heart. This is understandable, fear can paralyze thinking. I try to reach out in non-threatening ways. I send beautiful greeting cards with inspirational messages. Over...Some of the people I deal with have serious mental health issues. I don’t close my heart to them, but there are occasions when we have misunderstandings and it takes heroic efforts to repair “normal” communication. People can easily slip into distorted thinking based on fear. Fear will close one’s heart. This is understandable, fear can paralyze thinking. I try to reach out in non-threatening ways. I send beautiful greeting cards with inspirational messages. Over time (weeks, months) they realize I’m not a threat, then phone calls can be possible, and eventually face-to-face meetings. It’s a gradual process. People close you out when they are afraid. Same reason we close them out. It’s a natural reaction to feeling threatened or hurt. Part of the human experience. More challenging with mental patients. Takes patience and faith. Read More3 Reply Doreen Nixon2 months agoDoreen NixonIt is certainly a challenge to open my heart to someone with whom I have previously closed my heart to. I have been able to do this with someone and it has been amazing to feel the release of the weight I was carrying. I have someone else in mind that I wish to reconnect with and open to but it is taking me time to find the courage and the wisdom of finding the right time to do this. By reaching out to them, that is how they will know that I am doing my best to bridge the gap that has been be...It is certainly a challenge to open my heart to someone with whom I have previously closed my heart to. I have been able to do this with someone and it has been amazing to feel the release of the weight I was carrying. I have someone else in mind that I wish to reconnect with and open to but it is taking me time to find the courage and the wisdom of finding the right time to do this. By reaching out to them, that is how they will know that I am doing my best to bridge the gap that has been between us. Read More4 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaHi Doreen, it sounds like you have a good plan. It does take courage to build a bridge. Just remember that when right is on your side, the Universe, God, Guardian Angels, whatever you want to call the energy that drives our existence, this powerful, wise energy will be with you. Trust your instincts, timing matters, you’ll feel when its right. 3 Reply Doreen Nixon2 months agoDoreen NixonThank you Jeana! 😊 0 Reply Kevin Carroll2 months agoKevin CarrollCan I? I would like to think so. Will I? I don’t know. I’m well-aware that holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, yet there are a small handful of people for whom my feelings of resentment continue. I wish things were different. 4 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaForgiveness is imperative for our own well being. Holding on to anger makes it impossible to heal. No matter how justified the anger, you’re tired of carrying it. Where can you safely put it? A prayer I learned from a spiritual healer. Say: “I forgive you (insert name) and I release you to the Holy Spirit”. Let the Holy Spirit deal with this person, your anger, and the entire situation. The Holy Spirit is a safe place to place this. Thank God it isn’t our job to b...Forgiveness is imperative for our own well being. Holding on to anger makes it impossible to heal. No matter how justified the anger, you’re tired of carrying it. Where can you safely put it? A prayer I learned from a spiritual healer. Say: “I forgive you (insert name) and I release you to the Holy Spirit”. Let the Holy Spirit deal with this person, your anger, and the entire situation. The Holy Spirit is a safe place to place this. Thank God it isn’t our job to balance the Universe. It took me a year of saying this prayer (every time I thought of a particular person) to finally let go. One day, to my amazement I found that I didn’t hurt anymore and the anger was gone. Now if I even think of this person, it is only with compassion. Good luck and God Bless. Read More5 Reply Kevin Carroll2 months agoKevin CarrollThank you, Jeana. 1 Reply Francine Marie Tolf2 months agoFrancine Marie TolfI’m not sure I have a closed heart towards anyone in my life, but I struggle to let go of conflicts and hurts when I think of some people. I understand they probably feel the same and I wish them only good, but I just cannot think of them with joy. 7 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaLike you Francine I don’t have a closed heart toward anyone in my life now. I hope this wonderful trend will continue forever. As far as not feeling joy when you think of certain people, well .. that only proves you are human. It isn’t reasonable to expect that you will like everyone you meet in life. Be gentle with yourself. 3 Reply Amy2 months agoAmyGreat way to word that. I was struggling with this question as I don’t feel it’s “closed” but there are some with whom I’ve had conflicts and we seem to be at an impasse. 4 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaHi Amy, I believe that we have all been in the situation you are experiencing. There are these impasses in relationships. Remember that saying: “Time heals all wounds”. Sometimes people drift out of our lives and that is O.K. too. If you want to get past an impasse, there are many strategies to do this. An excellent book on conflict resolution is called “Getting Past No”. It’s intended for the business world, but I found it applicable to personal relationsh...Hi Amy, I believe that we have all been in the situation you are experiencing. There are these impasses in relationships. Remember that saying: “Time heals all wounds”. Sometimes people drift out of our lives and that is O.K. too. If you want to get past an impasse, there are many strategies to do this. An excellent book on conflict resolution is called “Getting Past No”. It’s intended for the business world, but I found it applicable to personal relationships as well. Stay hopeful. Read More3 Reply Ed Schulte2 months agoEd SchulteIf the heart ( Etheric Heart ) is “open” there is no need to communicate in any other way, they will know in the true sense of the word “knowing”. Yes it maybe nice to do that to BUT it should be understand that the Etheric Heart has no boundaries, it is all encompassing of the ALL because in it is God as well as your own Divine nature. ( this confirms that, to be open to others , your are automatically opening to yourself ). This is the last part of an exercise Joshua ...If the heart ( Etheric Heart ) is “open” there is no need to communicate in any other way, they will know in the true sense of the word “knowing”. Yes it maybe nice to do that to BUT it should be understand that the Etheric Heart has no boundaries, it is all encompassing of the ALL because in it is God as well as your own Divine nature. ( this confirms that, to be open to others , your are automatically opening to yourself ). This is the last part of an exercise Joshua Emanuel the Christ gave to his disciples. It is most powerful because it employs Visualization. ( And as the Sufis like to say “Visualization is indeed Heaven” ) and addresses the steps to truly “opening the heart” very well! “In the Holy of Holies there is also the altar. Make it in your heart. On the altar is burning the inextinguishable Life Light. The Holy Archangels, they lit it in your heart. You are truly living there. It is the pulse of life. Now we will light another wick in that lamp ,your personality’s love for God and for all human beings around you. Live with these two flames of light in your lamp on the altar of your heart, love God and love all human beings. Don’t allow that flame to flicker keep it a perfect steady light. Read More3 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaLove this! Visualization of these two perfect flames in your heart. So poetic, so healing. Thanks for sharing. 1 Reply Jo2 months agoJoWho can I trust if not myself? All others would fall away frightened 3 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaThis is very deep. There have been times I have not trusted myself. It is in those dark hours where I was fortunate to be able to reach out and get help from others, and they did not fall away frightened, they stood bravely by me and helped. God works in mysterious ways. Having said that, your point is well taken, it is excellent when you are in such a centered place that you can trust yourself. Bravo. 1 Reply Michele2 months agoMicheleI wear my heart on my sleeve … love and romance come easy to me:) I’m now just waiting for the ‘right’ one to come along. 3 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaGood for you Michele! Stay true to your values. The right one is always worth waiting for. 1 Reply Kevin2 months agoKevinToday’s question is a repeat question which I benefited by answering and reflecting upon the first time around. 2 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaIt’s an ancient question, I think one which we will continue to ask ourselves our entire lives, as people come and go, circumstances change, we endure things that we didn’t expect or want, and other delightful calamities. Hopefully the answer will ultimately lead us to trusting and having an open heart, for therein is the path to joy. 1 Reply torithedreamcatcher2 months agotorithedreamcatcherFor me, that “someone” is myself, and so I must. I have been too harsh on myself, and too out of touch with my own needs and wants. I should be kinder to myself, more grateful for myself, and more loving towards myself. Then, I will be happier and kinder to everyone around me. 7 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaYour words ring true. Thanks for sharing. I read something today which was new to me: “Remember ‘No’ is a complete sentence.” – Judith Orloff M.D. What a concept! It’s about setting boundaries. You don’t have to justify, defend, or explain many of the ‘No’s you must say in life. You have the right to honor your own needs and wants. 1 Reply Rita2 months agoRitaThank you for your sharing. I find it much easier to open my heart and forgive others than to do the same for me! 1 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaIt is often hardest to forgive ourselves, yet I believe often that is where we must start. 1 Reply Amy2 months agoAmyAin’t this the truth! I would think many of us have a “closed heart” to ourselves. We are our own worst enemy sometimes. 1 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaRight. If we accept that God’s mercy is boundless, and God’s forgiveness is complete, then who are we to not forgive ourselves? Forgiveness gives you a fresh start. Once you have recognize your error and repented, that is enough, no need for further punishment. Be your own best friend, you are loveable. 3 Reply Pilgrim2 months agoPilgrimThank you. I am with you, my friend, in the need to open my heart toward myself. Let’s do this! 4 Reply Jeana2 months agoJeanaYes Pilgrim, we are all continually in the process of keeping our hearts open, it’s a practice. It’s a walk in faith. Loving ourselves, forgiving ourselves, makes it possible to love and forgive others. 1 Reply My Private Gratitude Journal Write an entry in your private gratefulness journal Get Started This site is brought to you by A Network for Grateful Living, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All donations are fully tax deductible in the U.S.A. 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