I am happy because I am grateful!
“A” message means one message, right? I found this to be a tall order and in reflecting on it I have run through several possibilities for my overarching message: forgive others and seek forgiveness by making amends; keep an open mind; don’t sweat the small stuff; accept everything; live in Love and the knowledge of interbeing; wash your hands… I could go on!On reflection, though, I have come to realise that all of these can be encompassed by a single exhortation: LIVE GRATEFULLY!
To be with someone at the time of their death, as I was with both of my parents and my husband, is an enormous privilege and a gift to remind me of the miracle of simply existing.
Watching the life force expire and being reborn is visible in the wonder of the seasons of the year. It reminds me that each night I die to the “old me” and am reborn on awakening with the potential of a new perspective and the possibility of change.
Love – in all its forms.
I can live more simply by continuing the self-imposed news fast that I have been on for the last 4 or 5 weeks. As I don’t have a television, that meant no newspapers, online news or radio. I walk my dog with a friend at least twice a day, so I hear what I need to hear, but I try not to form an opinion and to withhold any uncivil comments about the newsmakers.
It has allowed me more time for painting, reading, and other uplifting activities where I am not being roused to cynicism...
It has allowed me more time for painting, reading, and other uplifting activities where I am not being roused to cynicism, irascibility, exasperation or other negative emotions – my usual response to the news.
The answer for me lies in the noun in today’s question and it is offering me MOMENTUM. The more I practice grateful living, the more attentive I become and so I notice more to be grateful for. Joy!
I am waiting to think, act and feel as old as the calendar says I am. It’s going to be a l-o-n-g wait!
When somebody’s words or actions are not to my liking, I try to respond with kindness, understanding and tolerance, rather than reacting with irritation. Silence is another good option. I have to decide if I would rather be right or happy.
The other’s behaviour is rarely the result of malice, but rather is probably coming from a place of suffering. If I still feel intolerant, and resentment is building, I use (with my own slight modification) the prayer from the 4th of the 12 st...
The other’s behaviour is rarely the result of malice, but rather is probably coming from a place of suffering. If I still feel intolerant, and resentment is building, I use (with my own slight modification) the prayer from the 4th of the 12 steps that suggests saying: This is a suffering person. God save me from being angry. How can I be helpful to him/her?
(I have only once said it aloud to the person involved and it inflamed the situation considerably [not too surprising, on reflection!], so I now only say it silently.)
I don’t have to decide how I can be helpful – I just have to be willing to be, and the opportunity will usually occur. Sometimes just keeping out of their sight for a while (or forever) is the most helpful thing I can do.
If I’m not yet willing to be helpful and tolerant, I use another little prayer that was taught to me by an early sponsor: God bless the S.O.B.! (Of course, like Christopher Robin in Winnie the Pooh, I mean Silly Old Bear! Yeah, right!)
Thank you for reading this.
This morning I wrote “Love, forgiveness and gratefulness.” I stand by that, but a little while later I realised that I had missed something – a toothbrush!
Love, forgiveness and gratefulness.
Creativity and humour are thriving. Yeah!
Having an attitude of gratitude is like alchemy – it transmutes suffering into joy.
Happy birthday, Kevin. May you have many more.
Your daily posts (and those of all contributors) have inspired me in my few weeks on this site to learn that the practice of gratefulness brings me all that you mention here -meaning, fullness, grace and the too often elusive state of contentment. Blessings.
Thank you so much for this poem, Dawn Noel. It’s new to me and I have saved it for regular reading. A gift indeed! Blessings.
It sure is, Mica… use it or lose it!
Thank you. xx
And thank you, friend, for the wonderful Quaker saying.
I think it will be more effective for me to use than the phrase “That resonates with me”. Your phrase acknowledges the relationship between speaker and listener while the other doesn’t and so, for me, it is much more potent and human. Blessings.
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