I don’t know. It’s not a term i have used and I could never get my head around it. It seems to be used in so many different ways. I am grateful for all these perspectives from this community. I will let it resonate.
Comparing unfavourably to others.
My loved ones and my dog
The things I am grateful for are usually what I share with others eg the air I breathe, being alive, feeling the sun on my face. That sense of collective sharing makes me feel more connected. Also gratefulness makes for a softer heart and a softer heart is a path to deeper connections with others. At a deeper level still I think is the dissolving of the me/other separation entirely but that’s a work in progress.
I’ve walked it before and to some extent I know the way.
That they are safe, free from suffering, love and are loved, find purpose in life and have a planet that can sustain them.
To be better at engaging with new people. Probably a fear of rejection combined with my natural introversion. My mind gets maxed, words are less flowing and name/face recognition goes out the window.
One of the wonders of the modern information age is that there are so many opportunities to learn eg from learning a skill to spiritual practice. Websites, podcasts, books: if the pupil is ready the masters will appear. There may be opportunities to support eg through Patreon or a message to them or let others know. Maybe also by just living in line with the learning is a thank you.
Less likely to play God by struggling against what is.
My parents. They taught me deep valuable messages such as love, integrity, hard work, creativity. Also some of the shadow side. My spouse for loving me as I am. My children for offering me a beautiful reason to strive in this world. Countless teachers and counsellors pointing the way also.
It’s there all the time if I look. I do sometimes. I’d like to more. I see the bigger kindnesses. A fellow train passenger offering me a lift in her car when the trains stopped running, for example. But then there’s the dance of subtle kindness that happens with loved ones in particular: it all adds up but is at the same time immeasurable.
The complexity of my thinking
Wanting it to be over
Experiencing an imaginary future
Inhabiting the past
Going down a thought rabbit hole
Any of the above! 😁
I would like that those whom I’m close to, my loved ones, to find solace, wisdom, skill or just plain old warm, fuzzy feelings in some part of how we connected together in this life.
Nothing really. Except maybe that I’m here writing this in this moment… or maybe I’m not…
It’s infrequent! What springs to mind is being caught by the exquisite beauty of nature eg the vista of mountain ridges suddenly emerging out of a forest or the unexpected drama of a jaw dropping sunrise.
How i act generally shows either respect or disrespect. I f I act with integrity and from a “do no harm” outlook in everything I do then to a large extent the respect for others automatically flows. I will engage with others where my actions come from the right place, I will be fair, treat the person as my equal, listen, honour my commitments etc. And starting with the “I” and working to the “you” means it is mutual.
For me it starts with love, love for this miraculous thing that is ourself. This is something that does not come easily to me. I tend to hold back from the tenderness that is in that love. But today may I and all experience an appreciation and love of this wondrous gift. I think that leads to an appreciation of all lfe.
That’s one thing we share in common: challenges. Over the years various challenges, including health related and bereavements, have taught me a lot more self compassion. I’m softer on myself rather than harder. And then my stance with other people is also softer. And that gives me the gift of a closer and more real connection with others and with me also.
Lots helpful in this, Ed. Thanks. And Beethoven, yes!
I really appreciate you sharing this perspective Samuel. Thank you.
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