Joselyn

When my daughter was 14, she opted to go live with her dad and stepmom because of our then tumultuous relationship. I was a single mom juggling work and school and trying to have a social life. I did not balance it well, and our household suffered in the process.

Recently, I came to find out (because the adults in the situation did not proactively inform me) that my daughter’s father and stepmother kicked her out of the house. She is living with a friend. After not hearing my dau...

When my daughter was 14, she opted to go live with her dad and stepmom because of our then tumultuous relationship. I was a single mom juggling work and school and trying to have a social life. I did not balance it well, and our household suffered in the process.

Recently, I came to find out (because the adults in the situation did not proactively inform me) that my daughter’s father and stepmother kicked her out of the house. She is living with a friend. After not hearing my daughter’s voice for 2+ years, she called and explained the situation. Some of it was teen angst, but some was as hurtful as my daughter had expressed.

She respectfully asked that I not cut off my financial support of her, which I will not do knowing that she has a full college workload along with 3 PT jobs to support herself as best she can. In the course of the conversation, she also said she’s not ready “right now” to mend (our) fences. I expressed that I understand how overwhelmed she is as I took similar steps in my life at that age. I am giving her the space (compassion) she wants to stumble through this first stage of life on her own and until she is ready to have an open heart conversation.

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1 year ago