Writer and therapist hailing from North Texas, on the ancestral lands of the Cherokee, Seminole, Creek, Wichita, Comanche, and Tawakoni.
By first acknowledging hard feelings and then allowing them to be there. Only then can I create the conditions for gratitude to arise. I cannot force it, not within myself or with others. I practice, after working with painful feelings, by returning to my breath, thanking G-d for my true belonging and that others may experience peace too.
I can think of many people I can open my hear to, but I must admit I’m not sure it will make much of a difference to them…I’m thinking of my sister-in-law who is just plain hard for me to be in relationship with. She doesn’t respond to emails, calls, texts and has gotten offended when I’ve sent birthday cards. She’ll be visiting in August so I’m hoping my heart will open to her but I wonder if the only person it will make a difference to will be me! We’ll see…
Having Covid. I got a chance to get some rest and because I didn’t have a light case, I survived and now appreciate all the tiny things I missed when I was well like walking slowly, breathing, and resting with no purpose other than to rest. I have recommitted to setting firmer boundaries and can see how I was doing way too much before Covid. It’s been like a soul reset in a lot of ways.
Practicing gratitude helps soothe my nervous system and helps me return to a stance of abundance rather than scarcity. It means I let go of fear when I’m able to move toward gratitude.
I have more moments of joy and peace when I am able to practice gratitude. I see that all life is a gift, even my loneliest moments. Gratitude feels like a gateway to another world.
My breath, my cats, indoor plumbing, and heat and air conditioning, thought that may not be basic! I’m also grateful for the trees, earth, sun and sky I get to take in everyday from my home office!
Being outside is the only time I feel safe and that I belong in the world. I especially love the mountains.
I practice self-compassion and I think that being kind to myself helps me extend kindness to others. I am finding that meditation helps me to rest in stillness which is helping me connect deeply with others. I think paying attention in this way is a healing force in the world!
What a great question to begin my Sunday…I released several lies recently when I went to the mountains and they revolved around letting go of perfectionism, shame, and owning my true belonging to the world, the Divine, and humanity. Today I release the lie that I must be happy all the time and welcome all my emotions!
Pine and fir trees remind me of my times spent hiking and feeling deep peace. Most recently I hiked in Colorado and I’ll often recall the hiking to relax and sometimes the smell of pine forest arises. It’s a powerful reminder of my belonging to the earth.
My heart is softening in compassion for others, including myself. I’m a lot more aware of my need to practice forgiving myself rather than just focusing my energies on forgiving others. I’m catching myself more often when I’m being hard on myself and moving toward myself with compassionate action. It’s wonderful!
I call that the ABCs of gratitude and teach that to my clients and friends! Excellent practice!
What a great idea. The problem is that this person is not even willing to speak with me so I am unsure how to “listen reflectively.” But I very much appreciate your suggestion.
Blessings, Mica. Thanks so much for this timely reminder!
Right? I hear you on that! xo
Yes ma’am! 🙂 xo
That’s right! Amen to that!!!
Wowie! What an experience! So sorry for your loss but I’m amazed at this gift you received!!! Karel sounds like he was an amazing person!
One time I caught a whiff of pine forest when I was actively recalling a trip to the mountains! I was floored! That sensitivity you have has pros and cons, doesn’t it?!
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