My ability to change course quickly. I have to remind myself not to act in haste, since my thoughts and feelings about things can reverse over-night. Festina Lente – Latin for hurry slowly. It was the motto of one of the Roman emperors, can’t remember which.
Reflecting on the currents of my life, it seems a progression of one problem after another. Whether these bring out ‘the best’ in me, or just the survivor in me, I don’t know. I’m reminded of the saying: “Calm seas do not good sailors make” By now I should be able to handle typhoons, it doesn’t feel that way.
It can go either way. The trick is to have discretion. As a species we are still evolving, we must seek better, smarter, kinder, wiser … otherwise we stagnate or worse, regress. However … on a personal level seeking ever more and more ‘stuff’ is greed, and seeking ‘different’ just for novelty is maybe a symptom of boredom, pointing out a need to get involved in a greater cause than one’s self. Pay close attention to what it is that you want more of, or bett...
It can go either way. The trick is to have discretion. As a species we are still evolving, we must seek better, smarter, kinder, wiser … otherwise we stagnate or worse, regress. However … on a personal level seeking ever more and more ‘stuff’ is greed, and seeking ‘different’ just for novelty is maybe a symptom of boredom, pointing out a need to get involved in a greater cause than one’s self. Pay close attention to what it is that you want more of, or better, or different, and why. The world needs your energy, passion, and commitment. We shouldn’t become complacent; but if the focus is ego-based and self-serving, then this kind of striving will not make one happier or improve the world; it’s a dead-end. Work for the greater good of all and your efforts will matter. Although (in some circumstances) it’s true if we strive less we’ll have more peace, there is another way to look at seeking and striving. We have limited time on Earth and lots of problems. People who work to fix problems, lift up all humanity. It’s not everyone’s journey to be a ‘fixer’ and that’s O.K. too. Your personal satisfaction regarding seeking and striving also depends on how you view outcomes. Give your projects your best effort, then let go, ultimately all outcomes are in God’s hands. Find the balance between seeking improvements and accepting the realities of the now.
Life is turmoil, this is the external. When my spirit is peaceful, I’m open to whatever comes, fair or foul. Difficulties require work, so when the opportunity for joy presents itself, I gratefully accept these chances. Joy inspires hope which is necessary to survive, thrive & keep working. Experiencing joy makes you stronger.
Draw a circle, write your name in it, surround that with other circles which represent all the ‘areas’ in your life. Physical/health, spiritual, social, family, job, interests, emotional, etc. within each circle write down all the supports that are there for you. Access your support system, seek balance, you can only change/fix ‘you’, focus on that.
I have come to believe in divine intervention. Sometimes we are not aware of how dark a place we are in, that the next step may be off a precipice … it’s times like these, if we reach out, help will come, maybe from an unlikely source. Your guardian angel may appear in the form of someone in great need, distracting you from making a false step, diverting you from personal pain. This happened to me.
Love is such a misunderstood word or even a concept. I’d like to say that when I love someone … I’m ‘all in’, but even that isn’t true, it can’t be. Sometimes I meet someone just once, and I know that I love that soul, and that I’ll never see them again, so I can’t be ‘all in’. But for that moment, I am. Love is acceptance and letting go.
We are grateful for pleasure, this is human. Are we grateful for the lessons of pain? Inevitably pain (in some form) comes to us all. It can deepen one’s compassion (the high path) or it can make one bitter (the ‘why me’ response). I shun pain, (like everyone else, this is normal) but when I must experience it, I try to learn from it. My compassion for others has always deepened when I’ve had to endure ‘pain’, and for that piece, i am grateful.
thanks Mica, very cool of you to do the research. I interpret the saying to mean, pay attention to the business of life, i.e. ‘get-on-with-it’ and also remember to take the time to ‘smell-the-flowers’. Have a wonderful day.
Great story Carla, thanks for sharing.
Greetings Carla, I know what you’re going through, I had a TKR (total knee replacement) 3 years ago. I don’t really remember anything that happened during that time as I lived from one pain-medication dose to the next. Do your Physical Therapy as best as you can, and keep walking. It will get better I promise. This too shall pass.
Hi Nina, I too have found that connection to God is the most important part of our journey. Facing constant challenges and changes, faith is what gets us though. God Bless.
Thanks, yesterday was a rough day. Today is better.
God’s ways are mysterious, as you know.
Kevin, as usual, you are both concise and correct.
Samuel, I agree with you. Thanks for sharing. All of us experience pain in this world, it’s part of the deal. Suffering is a different matter. To allow one’s pain to dominate life is a life of suffering, I don’t believe that is humanity’s reason for existance. Winston Churchill said: “I believe in being an optimist. There isn’t much point in being anything else.”
So true Kevin, sometimes the first step is recognizing that the conflict doesn’t involve oneself personally. I’ve learned I can’t stop a speeding locomotive, but I don’t have to stand in front of it either.
Greetings Ed, deep thoughts … we are neither demons nor angels; as humans we live in a world of contrasts, choices, consequences. We don’t always know what is ‘right’ or the path of the ‘light’. We learn as we go along. I’m reminded of the Harry Potter movies- it always seems he is unfairly singled out, tested and challenged but this is to make him stronger for the next more difficult task. We all experience this.
Thank you Bob, your words went deep for me, and helped me understand how I experience ‘love’. I didn’t want to minimize connections that take decades by equating a once-in-a-lifetime meeting on the same level. One takes lots of work, another is instant magic. In the end, we all connect on the other side. That is my faith.
We are on the same page Deb, for me, as a mom, the role of love has been clear to me where my kids are concerned- it is doing what is in their best interests. I extrapolate from that to others. Thanks for sharing.
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