Retired from old mindsets, reactions, and labels in order to tumble about joyfully in a loving, laughter-filled, existence.
I believe that a very important factor in making a difference in a person’s life is by returning as much power to them as possible. To meet them on their terms, help with their needs, not as I see they ought to be, but as they see them. Empty hands and an open heart is my policy. Take out of my hands everything I think I know, would like to achieve, win trust by working with what they place in my hands. Of course, this must be ethically balanced.
By giving it the time, attention, relevance it deserves daily as much as possible.
Humility and receptivity follow, then possibility comes into view….
Friendly messages, a Skype call. All good on a beautiful sunny day and a walk at the beach.
Savour it more…
Every night before I sleep I ask myself, what are the three things that were highlights from my day that make me thankful.
Then I take my favorite one and break it down.
Do this for 21 days, and it teaches you to search the day automatically, as you are living it, for the good, or the highlights. Then through the last question, to find meaning.
I then send love to myself tomorrow, which I pick up with my coffee. I sleep well, and wake up well this way.
I am exhausted and empty. I can go to bed early, fill my cup, and start out again tomorrow. You can’t give what you don’t have, at least not without doing more damage to yourself and others.
Learned often by falling flat on my face. As it goes. As I say, as I lay in the dirt, looking up, I discovered some of the greatest miracles in my life.
Walking at end of life, with those in pain with life, having been in great pain myself, are great teachers. Thanks for your kind words 🙏
Fantastic…let me know how it goes. I have found a very good Australian Government standardized Pal Care course. I am going to take it soon. I’ll let you know how it goes. I have done quite a few MOOKs from EU and UK, etc. I have done full training with Doulagivers to wherein I can train level 1. and above. But mostly I learned from walking with those at end of life. Next year I may have the opportunity to go to Belize and help set up a hospice. I am really excited.
Or create it… When I am anchored and refilled, I can launch out and be those things. When I am not, it’s better to dock for a bit. I believe we all have ways to do that. It is when we, and I mean myself, don’t practice enough of time in the “asides” I see the fruits of not doing so quicker than I used to. I say often that the vaneer has worn thin. It’s all good.
Thanks, Holly. It has taken a long time to learn this one. I do so much better when working with a fuller tank. We all do I am sure. Love ‘n’ Laughter, Dusty
Sounds wonderful how you were able to all be with your mother, and how you feel about it now. That is so great.
Doulagivers.com run simple, free introductory courses monthly online. If you have Facebook, you can also look up Suzanne B. O’Brien https://www.facebook.com/Doulagivers/
Say Dusty sent you if you end up chatting. We have done a lot of work together. I make no money from this in any way as I am full-time volunteer, btw.
FREE End of Life Doula Training Webinar October 21st, 2021, at 7pm ET!
What is a Death Doula? A Death Doula is a non-medical person trained to care fo...
FREE End of Life Doula Training Webinar October 21st, 2021, at 7pm ET!
What is a Death Doula? A Death Doula is a non-medical person trained to care for someone holistically (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) at the end of life. It is a non-medical profession that recognizes death as a natural, accepted, and honored part of life. One might say that death doulas are to hospice palliative care as birthing doulas are to obstetrics.
People are readily embracing this specialized area of end-of-life planning, and the field is rapidly gaining momentum. Many end-of-life care experts agree that over the course of the next decade there will be a great rise in demand for alternative care services to accommodate the aging Baby Boomer generation and keep people at home during end of life (rather than residential care facilities).
Death Doulas are an intricate and integral part of reshaping end of life care for the future.
Suzanne B. O’Brien RN, creator of Doulagivers, has been at the forefront of the End-of-Life Doula Movement in the United States since it began building momentum nearly a decade ago. She has developed a free training designed for everyone based on her years of experience working with over one thousand end-of-life patients as a hospice nurse and palliative care professional to help make end of life a more positive experience for us all.
The Level 1 End of Life Doula and Family Caregiver Training is a free course designed so that anyone and everyone can understand the basic end of life processes and how to suggest and offer comfort to families and patients throughout these processes.
What you will learn in this training:
1. How to identify the Shock Phase and what suggestions for comfort can be given.
2. How to identify the Stabilization Phase and what suggestions for comfort can be given.
3. How to identify the Transition Phase and what suggestions for comfort can be given.
4. How to interact with patients at end of life.
5. How to offer emotional support for grieving families during and after death.
This Training is meant to educate, empower, and remove some of the fear we associate with death.
Sign-up for this free webinar and take advantage of the life-changing knowledge that has been helping so many people around the world!
*NOTE* If you cannot make the Live Webinar at the date and time specified, we will send you the replay to the email you provided when you registered, and you can access it at your convenience!
There will be a Q&A session following the webinar, so please think about any questions you may need answered!
“The power of presence might be the most powerful medicine we have, but we’ve lost that in our health care system. We’re all in this together. We should support each other however we can.” – Suzanne B. O’Brien RN
*The information presented in this training is appropriate for everyone: family, caregivers, volunteers, and community members*
Hear what past webinar participants have said about the free training:
“The FREE Level 1 End of Life Doula Training webinar from Doulagivers was absolutely amazing. I love online studies and opportunities for personal growth and this course definitely has to be one of the very best I’ve had the chance to partake in to date. It is such important knowledge that I believe it should be included in every high school/ university curriculum. Suzanne engages learners in a personable, compassionate, and practical manner. She takes serious subjects and makes them empowering through providing knowledge and a skillset that anyone can employ for a more positive end of life experience either for themselves or when caring for those they love. I am forever grateful for this course and cannot recommend it highly enough.” – Susan D. (this is my endorsement btw)
“The Free Doulagivers Level 1 training was a Godsend for me and my friends. I found Suzanne’s class while researching how to support a friend who was diagnosed with glioblastoma, an aggressive, terminal brain cancer. The class is offered for free and provides all the helpful information we needed to support our friend during his end-of-life experience. I gained so much through this course! Do yourself a favor and take this course, it’s more than worth it! Thank you Doulagivers and Suzanne for making a terrible loss a little less scary and much more profound.” – Jana H.
“I know this sounds crazy, but the Doulagivers Level 1 End of Life Doula Training brought me so much peace. My mother died six years ago, but taking this training allowed me to understand and have closure that I was not able to have before. Thank you, Suzanne!! This training is priceless.” – Lori M.
Doulagivers is an internationally recognized leader in end-of-life training programs and care.
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Yes, exactly. I like Deathwalker for myself, as I have actually died and walked on that side for a while. I companion those at end of life, and at age 60 am in my “dessert phase.” After full courses, soups, salads, so am now choosing my treats carefully as I head toward death.
Death is so challenging for so many people in so many ways. Those who do best with it, plan for it, talk about it, and are supported. At least mostly. Yes, you are wise to want to find a good Death D...
Death is so challenging for so many people in so many ways. Those who do best with it, plan for it, talk about it, and are supported. At least mostly. Yes, you are wise to want to find a good Death Doula. You can also learn how to be one for yourself and others. There are free basic courses. As my dying closest Thai friend said to me on her last day, “Dusty, write a book on dying, tell everyone how easy it is. How it’s not hard…” so, I am presently writing a blog about it. It’s been in the work for some years. I go in and out of exploring it. Hopefully, it’ll be done and posted soon. I get a bit tired of people asking what was dying like. Actually, I am not tired of them asking, but rather of my telling it, ha! So, having it written and posted will put it in a good place.
A Deathwalker is a non-medical person trained to care for and compassionately companion others holistically (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) at the end of life as well as be a support to their loved ones.
They offer truthful, empowering information according to the person’s needs in order to better understand and navigate the process of dying while achieving good quality of life.
They may be any number of:
1. Companioning those who are walking toward dea...
They may be any number of:
1. Companioning those who are walking toward death.
2. Walking toward death themselves.
3. Have died and returned.
I find them really otherworldy.
Fabulous aren’t they?
Exactly, I am in Melbourne, world’s longest lockdown. I manage through programs I create online, through emails, messages, etc. But it is NOT the same as in real life. And as with you, so many incredible people in my life throughout the years. Some are still alive, and we remain very close. I am blessed. It’s enough.
OH, my goodness, yes, so true. Change is the constant. To work with it is the key. I use this thought in my trainings. There is not much we can do with some events, but we can respond with compassion. We always have that within our power.
Thank you again for your kind words, Mica.
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