Thank you for honoring and/or praying for those you love, remember, celebrate, or grieve through “lighting” our free candles. We are moved and humbled that so many around the world have found our Light a Candle feature to be such a comfort and support.
Many people appreciate being part of a community with a specific focus as they engage in candle-lighting rituals. As such, we offer the following way to informally affiliate with an issue, or a “group,” so that you can connect with others with shared concerns:
1. Commit to using a word that you all agree to use inside the message/dedication box (best to use an unusual word or an acronym associated with your “group” rather than a commonly used word like “prayer,” “love,” or “grateful”).
2. When looking for your group’s candles, search on the word you have chosen in the search field in the upper right hand corner of the page, as in this image:
3. All candles with messages containing that word will show. It is then possible to open the candles to read the messages.
4. After opening a candle within the group, use the back arrow to return to the grouping rather than clicking on “Back to Candles.” This way you can dip in and out of your “group” and also quickly see how many candles are lit:
We hope you find that joining with others to light candles in memory, honor, or celebration of those you love, or for concerns of your heart, will be a source of great comfort and healing.
Your Gratefulness Team
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I light a candle for my sister and for all of those who care for and show kindness to her. I pray that she can find peace.
I light a candle for anyone who
has died in any war in any country at any time in the past or present, no matter what color or religion they are.
Eu ofereço minha vela acesa, pedindo Paz ao mundo e amor ao coração dos homens!
I light a candle in memory of my mother and for my dad who is now alone. Light his heart to know that some one loves him.
I light one candle … my first for my heart. That has days where hurts outweigh the better in me and my life. Taking over where they should not. May the candle lit represent a light in my life and in my heart. For happier me, more forgiving and a light to others ❤️
I light one candle for my mum Lena. Cancer has damaged her brain and affected her mental health. I pray for God to give her understanding how much i love her and how little time is left for us to talk to each other. I light another candle for my furry faithful friend Lada who left us on Saturday, 7th of April 2018. God, thank you for bringing her into our life – she made our family so happy for almost 12 years.
Dear one, I offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your dear furry friend Lada, so recently. I also lost my dear furry companion Lhasa…a Lhasa Apso who lived to the grand old age of almost 20. These wise old Tibetan dogs live long. He was going for walks right up to the end when it was time to go. Regarding your dear mother, I have worked in Palliative Care in my life, and I can tell you that love translates all workings of the brain. Love, in my own belief of course, is of Spirit,...
Dear one, I offer my deepest condolences on the loss of your dear furry friend Lada, so recently. I also lost my dear furry companion Lhasa…a Lhasa Apso who lived to the grand old age of almost 20. These wise old Tibetan dogs live long. He was going for walks right up to the end when it was time to go. Regarding your dear mother, I have worked in Palliative Care in my life, and I can tell you that love translates all workings of the brain. Love, in my own belief of course, is of Spirit, or The Divine, The Energy of that One Devine Starter that ordered and orders the stars and planets in the sky. Love transcends all things physicals…and it is felt no matter what is happening with the brain or body. Keep on telling your mother you love her. Gentle touch conveys love right up until the spiritual person inside the body, slips her earthly robe. Love, love, love and spend as much time as you can with her now. However, remember, you must still take care of yourself. Eat. Go home now and then and sleep. Reach out and ask others to take a turn, even over night. Most nurses are willing to put down a mattress or a cot beside her bed for stay over guests. Reach out to your circle of friends, cousins, whomever you trust to be present and kind. They can read…or just be present…all this means, is Being There for them. Your mother still has much to teach in this winter of her life. Listen with your heart in the stillness.
Dear Jim, thank you for your kind words and for support. Unfortunately all i can do now is to pray for mum and to send her thoughts full of love. Instead of helping me while i was carrying for mum and guiding her through radiological treatment (the only option in her case) my brother and relatives used mum’s current mental state to turn her against me. Then they took her away from me and she flew to Germany to live with my brother (brother and relatives ignored objections from oncologis...
Dear Jim, thank you for your kind words and for support. Unfortunately all i can do now is to pray for mum and to send her thoughts full of love. Instead of helping me while i was carrying for mum and guiding her through radiological treatment (the only option in her case) my brother and relatives used mum’s current mental state to turn her against me. Then they took her away from me and she flew to Germany to live with my brother (brother and relatives ignored objections from oncologists and warnings that flying is life threat for people with brain cancer). On the surface it seems fine and mum is happy to spend her days with grandkids. Yet mum is not capable any more to analyze and to understand different situations and motives of other people. My brother never cared about our mum. When he lived close to her, he did not let her to communicate with her grandkids. He always treated mum as mental person.. Doctors made it clear that mum cannot live alone any longer and needs 24h care and help. When he got to know her diagnosis and we met, instead of offering me some help with mum he proposed to place her in Red Cross pansion where homeless people and people who have no relatives and nowhere else where to go live their last days :(((((( When i finally managed to persuade him to come every month and to replace me for 1 week, he realised that this kind of care is not an easy task and also costs a bit – and breached his promiss. Instead he tried to arrange for social worker to come 2x daily for 2h visits with mum living alone in my absence… Mum has mental issues, her memory is fading, she is fainting, has epileptic cramps and is not capable to call a doctor by herself. Sometimes she can’t talk properly. And he wanted that in those weeks when i would not be there mum would live alone relying only on social worker… 🙁 The rest of relatives also did not see anything abnormal in it.. Also my brother tried to start a conversation with my husband about change of the owhership of mum’s flat.. What was a time of grief for me was only another opportunity for him.. During the therapy i was with mum. Yet my brother not just did not come to visit her, he even did not ask me about her progress, changes in her symptoms, nothing. He did not speak with her oncologists. He didn’t care… When in November 2017 my husband called him and asked how he is able to help us with mum, my brother said that there is nothing what he will do. He said that anyway our mum will die soon, so there is no point to invest in her any money or any time. While his wife and kids will still be alive and he will have to live with them. My husband asked if my brother ever considered to move back to our hometown to live with her and to care about her or to take mum to live with them. Brother said “It will not even be discussed. It will be too big psychological trauma for my kids to see grandmother sick and dying”. Mum has lots of relatives. Yet the relatinships in the family are so destructive that i did not hope for much help from them. It was not possible even to have any normal conversation with most of them without bullying, harassment and agression. They have no respect towards each other and towards the kids of each other. Absolutely disfunctional family. Very split. All what they wanted was to look good in front of other people. So, i was the one who would live with mum. I found 2 very good reliable women who would replace me while i would travel to my own family in Hungary. Nobody from mum’s sisters offered me to come at least once every two moths to let me travel home for a week. Yet their reaction was “Who is she to decide anything in this situation?! We are sisters, we have more rights than the daughter.” In regard to my brother, i was naive. Thought that he still had right to know what treatment mum was offerred and what doctors think about her chances. Yet after I notified him that it is expected that mum probably will not live longer than 1year in remission (may be 2 years in very ideal circumstances if all would be well), he suddenly announced that he is taking mum to live with him and his family in Germany.. Without explaining anything or giving any details.. When treatment ended mum was not very adequate – the treatment had side effects on her psyche. She became very agressive and impulsive, manipulative. Started to say weird things.. Said that she will pay me back (and i even did not know for what!). Suddenly she became calm, sweet and kind again. These mood swings scared me. Hour later she again became very hostile and agressive. I was scared to stay with her alone in the flat during our first night at home after the hospital. Was so terrified that slept only 1h that night. But nobody from my aunts cared – they just lived their lives with their families talking to my mum on viber every day and making their opinions and judgements based on these viber conversations with the person who was not in a good mental state. Next morning mum again started to attack me with weird accusations. The level of her agression was so scary that it seemed like she put a goal to destroy me. She ignored that i was crying. Ignored my attempts to calm her down and to try to discuss what is worrying her. It was Saturday 30th if December and there was no chance to invite psychiatrist for a home visit on the weekend (and just before NY eve when so many doctors are on holiday) to give her some calming medication. I could call ambulance or police or psychiatric services machine only if she would actually harm me. My aunts and most of other relatives would not believe me. I did not know what to do. Tried to keep an eye on every mum’s movement so that she does not get to me with knife or with something from my back. Mum was very weak normally and was talking in a weak quiet voice. But in these moments of anger suddenly she got a strength from somewhere… Not only suddenly she could walk more confidently, but she could also scream! It was very hard to stay so alert after sleepless night. And i went out into safety – to a drugstore to buy mum prescription medication and to wait there a bit. I hoped she would calm down a bit in my absence. But when i returned it appeared she called relatives and told that i was cruel to her and tried to kill her, that i took her documents, her passport and travelled back to my husband to another country… Although my suitcase with my things was there, and all her documents and passport were on their places in her room.. Later pastor of her church texted me saying that my brother and grandfather called him asking for his help because i am controlling mum’s phone and do not let her communicate with relatives.. Almost nobody from relatives questioned whether it is true… Almost nobody thought that it is weird. They hate me so much that accepted these lies like absolutely true facts. And sent my uncle “to save” mum from monster daughter.. He took mum away without understanding her condition and what complications she suffered after the therapy.. One Sunday came my brother and next day flew with mum to Germany. Just like this. Not seeing her 4 months, not knowing and not understanding her condition at that point in time… Never having talked to her oncologists.. Not even carying about it.. After 2 and a half months i’ve collected myself and started to make attempts to contact mum. Soon will come time when she will not remember me and will not even recognize me. It is so important that we keep in touch while we still have time… Only in the middle of March i finally have reached mum and we spoke for 40 minutes – she was very happy to hear me! Unfortunately mum admitted that her symptoms got worse after the flight… And also now left leg is not working properly… Sadly improvements that were achieved by radiological therapy are now vanishing and my dear mum is deteriorating… Yet now my brother has blocked me in mum’s phone… In her viber, in her whatsapp, in her facebook.. He does everything to prevent me from reaching her so that she forgets me… He does not share any details about how is mum and will not even tell me his address so that i can’t come and visit her.. All this web of lies and hate… Brother cares only about mum’s flat and does not even consider that this is not what any person’s last time should be like. Yet i’m absolutely helpless.. Currently there is nothing police or lawyers can help me with. All i can do is to pray for mum, to light candle for her and to hope that she is well looked after, that she remembers me and feels how much i love her.
Lighting a candle for Popps to let her know we are all thinking of her
I light a candle for my husband Williams, all my love
He is in an extremely urgent need for 555 US dollars to come back home
We are in real hard times
I lit a candle tonight for all beings, every last one on the planet. What if all beings had peace in the hearts?!!
I light a candle for love, that it may light the people of the world in connection to each other, to nature, to the world all around.
Wonderful thought! I will think about this good thought the next time I am out in nature, which will definitely be tomorrow.
I light a candle for my handycapped goddaughter!
With each candle you have lit, comes a thought, and behind that thought is the love of a prayer. Love is always felt.
I light a candle for the divine guidance of my angels and God!
I am grateful for the ability to help others.
I am grateful for my body…it carries me in the world with little thought from me.
I am grateful for my morning cup of coffee.
Christmas Day 2017 brings time for renewed hope, understanding and cooperation. I light a candle for joy in belonging in a world community of compassion and acceptance.
i light a candle to ease my darkness and the sadness lurking in the shadow
I am praying that your sorrow or heaviness is eased. Choose an action that helps someone else in any small way at all…then follow through. It may be as simple as smiling to an elderly person or a homeless person on a park bench. Or re-arranging someone’s socks in their drawer. The really hard actions are the ones we do and never get found out. I pray for your heaviness to be lifted right this moment, and for you to be guided to reach out and tell someone you know of your heaviness...
I am praying that your sorrow or heaviness is eased. Choose an action that helps someone else in any small way at all…then follow through. It may be as simple as smiling to an elderly person or a homeless person on a park bench. Or re-arranging someone’s socks in their drawer. The really hard actions are the ones we do and never get found out. I pray for your heaviness to be lifted right this moment, and for you to be guided to reach out and tell someone you know of your heaviness, perhaps even a doctor.
I light a candle for Evan and Alyssa, and the child that looks to come into this world through them. We are all blessed by what he or she will brings us. Welcome blessed creature.
I light a candle for you, reading these words.
Marc, Thank-you for lighting a candle for me. I lift words of gratitude for you and pray for a special blessing to come upon you in the next 24 hours. Watch for it. It may seem small, but there are NO small blessings.
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I light a candle for Andrew and his health situation – live long and proper, dude
Love, hope and prayers to all those in the path of Hurricane Irma.
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