Trevor, I am wondering how you are today. I have enjoyed so many of your posts, the jimmy dean sausage one comes to mind. You are funny and interesting and very nice. Yesterday I suggested an antidepressant could help you since you have been feeling badly for so long. I remember you saying you felt like you have been living under a dark cloud for the last ten years. Although I think it is worth considering, If you are not interested in an antidepressant I completely respect that and will not mention it again. I had the feeling it might not quite be your cup of tea when I mentioned it, but I felt I just had to put it out there for you.
I want you to know, Trevor, that I care about you. I think you can probably tell you have a whole group of people on this gratitude site who are very fond of you and are on your side. Please stay in touch. You don’t have to feel cheerful or grateful to check in. Just please stay in touch with us because we care about you so much and want to hear from you. I will light a candle for you on this site and I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Much love to you dear Trevor,
I have also been thinking of Charla? Hoping you are well Charla, and sending you love.
Manda, all that you appreciate about the group are things that I also appreciate about the group. These are also just the things I appreciate about you!
Much love to you, Manda.
I used to do this , Aine. I would write all my negative stuff down and then turn it around into a positives. I found it to be very helpful and now that you reminded me I will give it a try again. Thanks for the reminder Aine!
Juan, I love your new icon. You and your wife are so young and full of life. I can see the depth of your love for her. She is so beautiful and looks so happy. I am very happy for you both. I also so enjoy the enthusiasm that you bring to this gratefulness community!
PS: Bay looks like a little bundle of joy!
Ursula, I couldn’t respond to your post a little further down the page so I will respond up here. I agree we are on this journey of putting ourselves first and fully loving ourselves together! Yes, Ursula, sisters in spirit!
PS love the flag!
I couldn’t respond to your next post probably because I have been responding to so many posts. I just want to say I hope I didn’t come on too strong with my post about taking care of yourself first and how that is not being selfish. I do think I came on a little too strongly. You don’t need a bull horn. You deserve gentleness from me and all of your friends. When I was writing I was talking to myself probably even more than you. I have to save my life by really taking care of myself. I plan to do it and then I forget. On and on. Maybe we can all keep reminding each other because I seem to need lots of reminders to stay on track. So I apologize for coming on so strongly with you. I wish all good things for you always.
I send you my love, Diane.
Please, Diane, don’t feel selfish for taking care of yourself. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing. The voice telling you that you are being selfish is one of old programming and is very destructive. Don’t listen to it!
You are a giver, Diane. But as I am learning, you have to give to yourself first. And give to yourself with all the love and care with which you would give to the people in your life that you most treasure ( That might be a tall order for you. I know it is for me but that is what I am trying to do. I need it and so do you.) You are especially in need of your own self care now, Diane and you OWE it to yourself and to everyone who cares about you, to love and nurture yourself each day and do nothing that is unhelpful. Everyone who cares about you is rooting for you and wants you to DO WHAT IS BEST FOR DIANE!!!
So do what is best for Diane, all through your day, and every day.
Much love to you!
I can feel your gratitude, Azu coming off the page. It feels wonderful!
I always smile when I see your icon. I continue to pray for you and send you my love.
Blessings dear friend,
Welcome DJ. Happy to have you here!
You amaze me.
You are so strong.
Do you go through this every day?
Can things be changed in any way?
Sending you love,
Do you have anyone you can talk to-
such as a church leader or a counsellor?
Have you tried antidepressants?
Some people have a bad opinion of them,
but they do work, and you would probably
surprised at how many people take them.
Just a few things to think about.
Thinking of you,
Trevor, I am so very sorry that you are feeling so badly. It sounds like things have been hard for you for a very long time.
What is your blog about Azu?
Do you have a web address?
Pilgrim, I had some thoughts about possible activities that might interest you. You have probably already thought of everything I have thought about but just in case anything might be helpful here goes: Do you have an interest in flowers or gardening- there are always gardening clubs and various groups like an association for day lilies (I sure love day lilies!) There is of course volunteer church work, or Bible study groups. Often book groups meet at public libraries. When I stopped working I started taking Art classes. I like nothing better than to take art classes! Libraries and Art museums often have activities, and junior colleges (and universities have no credit classes. Around where I live a lot of the middle schools and high schools also have classes for the community. How about a meditation class or even a place that gives retreats. Some times places that give retreats can also vuse volunteers.
Three more thoughts.
– My Dad was completely miserable when he first retired but given time, he actually came to enjoy it quite a bit.
– Second Are you an animal person? even a little bit? Finding an animal whose personality and activity level meshes well with yours can be the greatest thing you can give yourself. You have certainly heard several people on this site, Manda and me to name two, speak of our animals as if they were God’s gifts sent to us to bring us joy.
Third- I remembering you once recommending a spiritual counsellor to me. I am wondering if you have one at this time, and if not a spiritual counsellor, then maybe just a good regular counsellor or a therapist. I know that my therapist has helped me find clarity, peace and direction more times than I can count..
So…I mean no pressure, Pilgrim. As I said earlier you have probably thought of all the things that I have mentioned. I am certain that you will find your answers that are best for you in your own time. I mostly just want you to know that I care about you, and that I am here to support you.
Much love to you Pilgrim
It is so interesting trying to figure out what we need to do to get out of a dark spot. When I feel anxious my first reaction is to freeze. The best way I know of to get myself moving is to just focus on doing one small thing at a time. Then on to another small thing and so on. Maybe I have a little bit of depression because at the thought of doing something such as a movie, going shopping, or going out to eat my first thought is no, I want to just stay home. I do think that I am out of balance. First I feel out of balance from giving more energy than I have to work. Secondly I was the go to person for my Mom for about eight years in a very, very messy situation involving both of my sisters living with my Mom.
After a lot of intense stuff I have kind of gotten to the point where I just want everybody to just leave me alone and just let me clear my head.
Wow, so that was a lot about me.
I would imagine, Pilgrim that you are looking forward to the Spring.
It sound like the park you visited was a great place to go- outdoors, lots of people and their pets, but you were free to come and go in your own time. I am glad to hear that you took care of your need to cry out your pain and then we’re able to open yourself up to feel the joy of the day. You really did great!
Much love to you, Pilgrim.
Such a beautiful sharing Ellen Mary! So much of what you wrote resonated with me. So much to reflect on and to be grateful for. Thanks for the many reminders of joy all around us, and for the love and peace that I could feel all throughout your share!
Much love to you.
PS I loved the part about skipping! And the lady writing it down too!
Manda, I love this line from your sharing “Violet would have preferred the horses to be foxes or snakes; she is not much of a horse person.” I laughed out loud at that. So cute!
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