I love it that many of the daily questions stump me, shock me out of routine thinking. Some of them I don’t answer for that reason, but am grateful to read other contributors’ answers.
With this one, my intellectual mind took over trying to analyse what the question means: what is magnificence; what is my true nature; why don’t I feel it.
Then I let the head go and sat with it a while. What dawned on me was a resistance to believing that a part of me could be magnificent. Was it a fear of a proud ego, that “magnificence” is too much of an exaggeration, or that I am just not worthy? It was probably a mix of those but leaning towards “not worthy”.
Then I realised that the magnificence is not my doing; it’s the work of creation. It’s in all of us. To be open to it in myself I must be open to it in all. There is something calming for me in feeling that magnificence, and letting go to it without letting my ego get in the way.
Lying in the bed, the day yet ahead, heart bearing steady, strong, keeping this vessel going more than 50 years.
I listen to a lot of podcasts full of useful information and wisdom. This question prompts me that I am often more attentive when listening to the podcasts than when interacting face to face!
Am grateful for all the interesting posts. I enjoy checking in to savour more. Thanks to all.
As I’ve just lost my mother a couple of days ago, this question comes at an interesting time for me. In this case it feels complete, a long life, good relationship, no toxicity. Letting go gently is sad but feels natural. I’ve also lost others close to me suddenly and the trauma of that makes the letting go harder. But you have to be gentle on yourself to accept the letting go over timr. Then there is gratefulness somewhere in it.
My daughters, stepping forward in life creating their own future paths. My dog wagging even in his senior twilight. My spouse’s wisdom. Birds singing, walking in nature. The beauty of art. A shared meal. Time alone for reflection.
My very aged mother has just gone into hospital: a difficult time for her and the family. But the comfort of knowing she’s in good hands, with caring, skilled medical staff, and that I have still got more time with her in her twilight years has my gratitude today.
Well, I could put down the phone more frequently!
What would change if I assumed the absolute best about everyone I meet? Fewer barriers between me and everyone else; more ease and ability to show myself instead of hiding in an alias. But the suspicion is so easy to cling to, the vulnerability in assuming the best in everyone so hard to hold. I’ll need a dose of courage.
The question for me is I guess the obvious one: how can I find gratitude in this moment/situation? It’s easy to ask; easy for me to forget to ask.
Gently, very, very gently. I agree with Violet Gray; it is easy to be hard. I can be very hard on myself with an interrogation style that I wouldn’t countenance on another. More and more I am just having the awareness of the daily patterns and letting that act on me rather than steamrolling guilt into my day.
An odd moment of gratefulness today. I couldn’t find my wallet but before my mind went into a tailspin it figured out the chain of events that lead to where it was. I was grateful for having a reasonably functioning memory. I tend to take such things for granted. It’s the “small” things we miss isn’t it? Even though they are, in fact, big.
There is the old saying that love is a verb, that it is action. I am grateful I have had the opportunity to grow a family and give support to other family members. And like Kevin I would give honourable mention to pets. Love makes a difference to those around you; but it makes as big or a bigger difference to (s)he who acts with love.
I am grateful for medical advances that can give my family medicines to really help them and those medicines were not around years ago. Am grateful for not taking my access to a health system for granted.
Thanks Antoinette. Where would we be without questions!
Deb this resonates with me. I tend to be impatient. There’s the two kinds for me: waiting for stuff to happen eg a waiting room, or slow queue; and waiting to get certainty on something e.g. results or a decision. I think having an intention around the waiting is a sound approach that i will try on.
Thanks Manda. Unfortunately she passed away yesterday. Am happy to have had so much time on this earth with her. There was a moment to me that the breaths of her last hours were my breaths and everyone’s; that there was no separation between us; and that we all make this last journey eventually. It was comforting and am grateful for that.
Manda, you got me at “dogs”!
That’s given me a very warm feeling today!
What a choice, what a poem. Thank you Amor Fati.
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