I am growing in my ability to bring focus to the things that I am grateful for. I look forward to learning from others.
I’m sure many here have heard of the phrase, “happy accident.” I find it so much when I am painting. Sometimes, unexpected will happen. For instance a brush will fall against the canvas by mistake. It makes a mark. Or a spill happens, and makes a mark. Sometimes the mark is such that you could never have gotten that mark if you tried to. I love that; especially in mixed media. You can build on a “happy accident.”
I love “looking through the heart’s eye.”. That really says it all. Thank you.
Another one I can think of is self-compassion. It seems to be the umbrella under which many other practices fall. Have a nice day, everyone!
I am sustained by memories of my two dogs, my father, Al, a time I went away to adult art camp, doing art, writing a poem that I love, a trip to Paris from long ago. I am most sustained by being my father’s child until the day he died. He was a wonderful father. The most I could have hoped for.
It sounds like you are also talking about very painful regret. I, too, have a few regrets that I am having a very hard time with. At times, it feels excruciating.
The person I hurt is no longer alive. Here are the things I am doing. Maybe one will be helpful for you: I talk to them and apologize out loud. This may sound crazy but, I am using hypnosis on this, because the guilt and remorse were unbearable. I also practice self-compassion as much as I possibly can. I listen to Kristen Kneff CDs on self-compassion.
If the people you hurt are alive, I would suggest apologizing (which I am sure you’ve done or thought about doing) If you are not in contact, or if they are not able to accept an apology, and you have their address, you could send an apology, anyway. Knowing your heart has sent that letter may bring some small measure of comfort.
If this helps at all – II worked (as a social worker) for 5 yrs. with people with serious addictions. That fine line between enabling and still being there, is extremely difficult. I wish I could put the word ‘extremely’ in bold. I had a very hard time with my clients, and there was no family history or bonds involved. Sometimes it’s the “lesser of 2 evils” types of decisions that we have to make.
I hope something I have said has helped a little.
Love to you, Mary! Be gentle with your heart.
Mary, Another thing we can do is ask ourselves, “What would happen if I weren’t perfect?” The answers are interesting.
Great idea. I, too, have been trying to leave little mistakes on things. I’m becoming better at it, as time goes on. Keep up the good work.
They say that when a bone breaks and heals, it is stronger where it was broken. 🙂 Same principle, sort of.
🙂 I enjoyed your silliness, Charla. Thanks.
Great phrase, Drew! 🙂
Yes, Gina. It is so necessary ! Makes for a better quality of life. 😉
Mary – also the dog my family had when I was a child, would lick my mother’s feet for hours; if we let her. My mother was a nurse, and stood on her feet all day. Her feet hurt her terribly. It made my mother feel loved and comforted emotionally.
Just beautiful. Wonderful that you have such a detailed and vivid memory.
This is one of the most beautiful moments I have heard. Children and animals just know. Al had a lot of shrapnel in his legs; that could not be removed without doing more damage. When I had my last precious poodle, he’d incessantly lick Al’s legs during his whole visit. I free-associated to this memory, and thought I’d share it.
Thanks for passing along the reference, Gina. I’ve seen some of her videos on vulnerability. 🙂
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I’m happy for you, Mary Pat, that you didn’t try to force yourself to get back to sleep. Sometimes that can be the worst thing to do (Only sometimes) I am glad for you that you turned it around and focused on gratefulness. Beautiful. <3
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