My goal is to be a whole lot more like my dogs, able to live in the moment and just be grateful.
Without diminishing the fact that everyone’s “hard day” is worth compassion and consideration, what comes to my mind is how much of the world has to walk a minimum of 6k in order to find water. Those of us on the computer in here likely do not face this issue, but many, many people do. I am grateful for the sounds I hear right now of running water as my husband washes a pan and the sound of the washer swishing my clothes clean in the other room. These are deep blessings indeed, ones we often take for granted.
I am especially thankful for the person who made my fleece sweater. The weather is capricious right now, and this morning is just cool enough to need it. Aaahhhhh!
I think about these folks, sometimes, all the way on the other side of the world, often working under appalling conditions for low wages so that the people above them can prosper…and I can have my sweater. When this comes to mind, I say a little prayer for the people who made my bit of clothing and ask for their burden to be eased and life improved.
Today I am grateful for the sounds of the chickens and roosters running around like lunatics out in the yard. We decided to let them free range a bit more, and they are LOVING it. Apparently, it is not only the grass that looks better on the other side of the fence but the worm, as well!
I am grateful for my husband, for his talents, and kind heart. I am grateful, too, that my prayer for him is being answered in an even better way than I had envisioned.
I am grateful, too, for color — for the intense red of geraniums against the verdant green of Spring, and even for the goofy way my bench turned out. I like to create artistic and eclectic things for around the property, things that make me smile when I see them. This is how I turned a boring blue bench into…well…something else.
And here is the top shot. I love spray paint! You can also spray paint old plastic planters, once cleaned, to give them a whole new look for a fraction of the cost of buying those pretty ones from the catalog!
I have NO idea why it turned it sideways. It was right side up when I posted it! 😀 Oh, and my husband built the bench!
I am very blessed to have a husband who has helped nurse me through some very dark days with his patience and kindness. I am grateful for a number of friends who have shown me kindness in so many forms, for the kindness of my acupuncturist, herbalist, and counselor. I am thankful for the kindness of God who reminds me every time I am feeling down or stranded that He is with me and will not leave me; no matter how many times I falter, I am not tossed aside but encouraged to keep going.
It really helps to stop and consider deeply the many forms of kindness in our lives, whether Divine, human, or animal, even the kindness of Nature with soft spring breezes and lovely flowers. This is especially true when we are perplexed or sad and seeing the darker side of life. When we change our focus to what is right in our world rather than what is lacking, we often become aware that we are very very blessed!
You mention letting go, Pilgrim. Are you by any chance doing the Letting Go book by David Hawkins? My pastoral counselor found it on the recommendation of her pastoral counselor and invited another lady, my husband, and me to join her in this book. It is challenging but intriguing. (Put out by Hay House, of course!) I can’t say I love his writing style, but the information is good. I’ve had some significant movement working with this. The author healed himself of a HOST of maladies including ones that were scheduled for surgery as well as very bad diverticulitis (Chapter 20). The ISBN: 9781401945015 in case you are interested!
Good for you that you walked the pathway out…it is no easy road. Blessings for continued success of your journey.
Then yes, you DO know the difficulty! Two of the four have names, Gouda and Timex. Timex is a Light Brahma and Welsummer cross and the low cluck on the totem pole because of being of a docile temperament, taking after the Light Brahma side. We’ve had to separate him out as the others go for him any time they see him. My husband was raised on a dairy-beef farm, which is one reason we have no cows. We’ve both decided we prefer cows better in theory than in practice. 😀
I love the Stress Relief DVD more than the other one I have. This one really does relax the body. And…the interview portion has a bit where the male presenter talks about how he used qi gong and energy work to overcome being consigned to a wheelchair for the rest of his life after a car accident. When my spirits flag and I fear I will never be fully well or stay fully well, I watch the interview again and find encouragement to keep believing that I am on the road to Well. It literally is encouraging — to give heart.
Somewhere in the darker days of healing from Lyme, I realized that the cheerfulness the color brought to me was in itself therapeutic. That is when I spray painted a bunch of standard plastic planters in assorted sizes that were still sound but faded in color. The effect was magical. I wasn’t able to do much else that summer but sit on a bench in the shade and look at them, but it slowed me down to see them and enjoy what they brought — hummingbirds, tree frogs, bees, butterflies, movement, and the song of Summer, Mother Nature’s healing balms.
I think that the realization of the past ways that were painful for us and the desire to do it differently are more than half the battle. 🙂 Many blessings to you on this journey!
Yes, he is, thank you. It is so nice to have those skills handy, isn’t it? Saves a lot of money, that is for sure.
I think we ALL of us have artistic or creative talent in some form. I, for instance, cannot draw stick figures that don’t get big laughs, but I am good at photography and throwing pottery on the wheel. I am a disaster at the needle arts, pretty much all of them. I cannot knit, crochet, or tat, and I have to force myself to sew anything. I am a good cook, too, something passed down from my Donauschwaben Oma, though I am much more into simple these days than I was. (Hmmm…I am now developing a taste for Chicken Paprikash, one of my favorite peasant foods. 😀 )
All that to say, do not underestimate your talents and say you are not artistic. I bet you are in more ways than you realize! 😀
Thank you, Ursula. You honor me with your request, and I would be happy to pray for you. Are you familiar with Isaiah 43:1-5? It is a wonderful reminder that we are never alone, even when we must walk through our scary or painful paths.
As for my husband, the answer has to do with the job situation. I believe that is about to be resolved quite soon, but it was another part of the prayer that is what I am in awe over. Bear with me on the backstory — :D.
The last ten years have been very difficult in many ways, and my husband’s heart had taken some pretty major wallops through the things that happened. For a number of reasons, he has been quite depressed, really, and felt discarded both by his work and his family, and now, mine as well. (It is okay. Painful and sad, but as it needs to be.)
My prayer was that he would have several good options from which to choose as a way to help him feel essential and valuable, in demand, as it were, by more than just me. 🙂 And God did answer, but better than anything I could have imagined. He knew better than I what my husband needed, so my prayer was answered…and then some. I’ll let you know more once the job is a done deal, as I think there is more good stuff to come.
For now, I will just say that our prayers are not always answered in the way or timing that WE think best, but in the end, we can trust that they will be answered in the way that IS best. It is never easy in the waiting or in the perplexity of wondering how in the world what is happening could possibly be best, of course, but God’s idea of what we need most is best in the end, even when it involves, as it does for us, the past ten years of struggle, pain, and illness. Something happens through the challenges that is indeed being given beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for weeping, to turn our mourning into dancing. That’s in no way exclusive to us but is, I believe, something open to us all, for we are each of us so dearly, dearly loved, Gottes geliebte Kinder.
(I do not mean to offend anyone here with different beliefs than I have. Please take what, if anything, you wish from my words and let go of the rest. 🙂 )
Love the rooster! Yes, yours is much much quieter than ours! We actually have four at the moment, which is about three too many, especially as we only have about eleven hens. The trouble is…we cannot bring ourselves to dispose of them in the usual manner of excess roosters on a farm, so on they crow. The extra three are here because we had some hens go broody last summer and set on a nest of eggs. The mommas were pulled off the nests as they slept by a raccoon who pried up the corner of our metal enclosed coop (!!), stole a hen, then forced it back down. The coon did the same thing a second night, but that time forgot to push the metal back in place. There were five eggs hatched, and three of them turned out to be the extra roosters. I am working on finding at least two of them homes, but no luck just yet. They’re not a desirable commodity off a plate, unfortunately, though one rooster is nice for the hens as protection. (That’s a rooster’s job, actually.)
Hugs to you, Pilgrim. Look for the light through the trees, my friend.
Oh. The name of the DVD is Qi Gong for Stress Relief, and it is with Francesco Garry Garripoli and Daisy Lee Garripoli. We love it! (I got mine off Amazon.)
Excellent news on the X-ray!! You have been doing much healing inside and out, so this is wonderful news!
Re the kids: I am reminded of something my pastoral counselor told me. We had been discussing how my parents style of parenting was to make everything a fight and struggle they had to win, which led to a lot of pain and punishment for me and stress for everyone. She explained that another way to handle the button-pushing of kids being kids is to give them a choice of options, all of which are okay with you. They then feel they have a choice so are less reactive, and you get an option that you like whatever they choose which makes you less reactive, too.
She has also described times when she didn’t quiiiiite manage that and how she learned to work with how it affected her in her body in order to find the way through. She took in foster children as well as having several of her own, and she and her husband often had their hands full.
The suggestion I CAN offer as working amazingly on stress is that qi gong DVD I may have mentioned in here before. My husband and I have now been doing that workout several times a week, and I really notice a difference when I skip it or put something in its place.
My style has been to use work as exercise, even creating more work so I would exercise more. The goal was to lessen stress and lose weight, but it worked in reverse.
Now I am learning that something like the qi gong DVD is taking care of me while using work as exercise is usually taking care of someone or something else. And we need to spend that time to take care of ourselves appropriately, to give our systems the rest from stress that is so essential for health and wellness. I never realized how much it affected me until I had a few glimpses of what my system felt like at peace. I’m not there yet, but I am establishing new patterns and routines to displace the old ones that caused me hurt and harm. You will be doing the same, I am sure. We do not go through a major healing crisis, which is the road you and I have been walking, among others, and come out the same on the other side. And in that positive changing we forge a more lasting healing for our whole selves, not just our bodies.
And your words have humbled me, dear Anna. Thank you.
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